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Would like some advice asap plz (2)

1 Name: Sendo : 2017-11-29 21:31 ID:5AkHFi6y [Del]

I just had a convo with my mother on the phone and we ended arguing about my future. I really hate what I'm studying rn and where I am and I don't know what I want to do. Back in high school I thought that as long as I could make money for my mother and I, I didn't care what I would be one day. However, now that I've talked to a lot more people outside from my little area, and seeing how passionate and focused they are, I learned that I couldn't keep going like this. I didn't want to just have a future based on achieving money, but a life I could be happy with. I'm definitely not happy right now and I can tell it's not just one of those "passing" feelings.
So during the call, I told her seriously about this, but she said that it was too late to do anything. I tried coming up with several options but even I knew it was probably impossible since I'm still unsure of what I even like. It got to the point where she said stuff like how I didn't pick the other options back in high school and that she thought I picked to be where I am bcus I liked it. I told her that it wasn't true, and when she said that she lost all hope in my brother (who didn't take the chances that were offered and now isn't in a great position) and I (who didn't have any goal and didn't care about money at this point which in this society is the most important thing), I snapped and told her that I only chose the money-option because I wanted her to have a better future. She then paused (which she usually doesn't do) and said that I didn't have to think about her and that I should just do what I should do.
My mother is a tough woman, and we would usually joke around about getting a house together and getting a dog and stuff like that. So for her to say that really got to me and I really want to apologize to her. But I don't feel like a "Mom, I'm sorry for blaming you" isn't going to cut it. I want to tell her something like "I found a path and I'll do it" but I dont....
Can somebody plz giv me any advice, whether it is on the apology or just what I should do?

2 Name: James !GBBXFwEfac : 2017-12-03 20:04 ID:CaJEe1o1 [Del]

Sorry for responding so late. I am only a high-school freshman, so do not take my advice too seriously. If I were you, I would not rush into anything big. What is your passion, what do you love doing? Seriously ask yourself, because you might be able to get a job in it. Maybe take an career test, but make Shure that it is reliable. Once you find your dream job, work for it.

As for your apology, you should see her and level with her. Talking to her after such an argument would take a lot of courage, but you sound very close to her, and she will probably see this as a very brave move.

Now I want to make it clear as day that I am only a high-school freshman and have no experience in this stuff. This is all I can offer.