So, I've already talked with a few real life friends but they don't seem to be taking it seriously. My parents, who I thought were just mean, seem to be abusing me. I wasn't so sure at first but after doing some research and coming to terms with the definition 'abuse' I found out that my relationship with my parents is toxic and unhealthy.

I have no idea where to go, because I feel like if I stay here any longer something horrible is bound to happen, but at the same time, I have nowhere to go.

Any advice?

If you're in school and there is a guidance counsellor, tell them. They will help you. If not, notify the police or some form of service to get out of that situation. I don't know where you live, but the government sometimes has places you can go and be safe.

Sorry if this doesn't help, I hope you will be safe!

well if you're old enough perhaps you can just leave the house and live on your own.

it depends on your perception, are they hurting you? are they saying mean things to you? How horrible is horrible?

in my experience, my dad used to tell me some mean shit like "im just feeding you" or "you're just my child" it took a lot of endurance but in my case, my friends believed me and they at least gave me moral support. that's how i managed to endure until I'm old enough to leave the house.

How I endure is that I just i do things that wont make my dad upset or mad. but if the situations might need me to tell him that im gonna go overnight with my classmates for a project and he disagrees, i'll have my friend/classmate over the house instead and have them do the talking to my dad.

you should at least let your friends know that you need their support or you need new friends.

or you can use the grandparent card if it works.

A similar thing happened with my parents but instead of seeking help I repressed my emotions and pretended to be fine. This was a horrible idea, I have so many problems because of that. I never thought my parents were abusive, I thought it was normal, but after I talked about it to some of my friends I realized it wasn’t normal.

I would recommend finding a family member or close friend and talking to them about it. Ask if you are able to stay with them. I was to nervous to get a counselor or the police involved but I should have.

If you need someone to talk to let me know. I’ve been through a similar experience and it’s a lot better now. I felt like I was alone and like no one understood. Talking about it really helped me figure things out and now things are mostly normal between me and my parents.

I agree with talking to a guidance counselor or something. I was in an abusive relationship for seven years and kept trying to tell myself it wasn't that bad. I even tried convincing myself of such despite having bruises. It's not right. Tell someone ASAP. It doesn't matter if you fully feel it's abuse or not. Don't let yourself be blinded as I was. Talk to someone. Good luck~

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Thanks for the support; I'm seeing a counsellor about it now.

Have you ever thought about problems you may be causing to them? I mean you’ve got to be real with yourself, people don’t just act like this out of the blue you know, and we all play the heroes of our own story and say “I’ve done nothing wrong” but if you think about it enough you’ll realize your faults too. A counselor will only tell you what’s wrong in a more descriptive way and maybe give you one to two suggestions, and that’s about it, so good luck there. And you may have toxic relationship with your parents but abuse is a strong word, if you had to look up to see if they were “abusing” you then they aren’t, trust me if you were abused you wouldn’t have to look it up.