I've been dating this girl for 3 years now, and now that we've moved in together things are starting to fall apart. I work two jobs so that we can afford our bills more comfortably, but because of that I'm not around as much as she would like nor do I have the energy to go out and do the things she wants to do with me so it's putting a big strain on our relationship. I've been considering couples counseling or therapy for this, but I don't think she'll be up for it because of her extreme social anxiety.

Essentially I'm just not sure what I should do and I figured I could get some decent opinions here.

Are you guys not married yet? If anything, I advice not to have a baby yet. Anyways, it is sure tough but you got to keep it together. Try to balance work and "play". Somehow, get yourself into a routine that lets you have energy at the end of the day for your relationship bonding. From what you said, couple counseling doesn't seem to be a choice, but if you think you need it, go ahead. Anyways, try to manage yourself, thats all.

My husband is in the same situation like u and I know exactly what's ur girlfriend feel. U just need to talk to her often, tell her that what u've done is for her too. U have to spare ur time to have a "fun time" with her like a little chit chat,a hug, a kiss, or go out sometime. U don't have to spend all of ur time, u just have to give a little time for her. Just try to make her feel that she doesn't lose u and she is very important to u.
Well that's work for me and my husband, hope it'll work to yours too. Good luck.. Sorry for my bad English

People say that if you want a relationship to work out, you need at least 90 minutes of face-to-face communication per week. Find the time to talk about the things that are on your minds. I'm sure it'll work out fine, I'm crossing my fingers for you! Although I have never been in a relationship before, I thought I'd put this here.

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