Yet another complaint from me. So basically I have a friend who I consider to be my best friend. However, I don't understand why he hangs out with me. Last night him, a few friends, and I went out and the others, particularly this one person, are much more fun and enjoyable to be around than me. He was having so much fun with them. More fun than he does with me. He always tells me how that person is so much fun and he always has a great time with him, yet when I ask about me, he just says "meh". I don't get why he hangs out with me if the others are so much more fun to be around. He'd be better off without me. The others don't like me much anyway.
So why does he bother to hang out with me? Out of pity? To make himself look good? Why not just drop me and hang out with the others instead?

Well, I think you should give yourself some more credit. Perhaps he likes to have you around as well and is just teasing you by saying they are more fun than you are. You should be a bit more confident and not read too much into things:)

I probably am reading too much into it but lately I feel he just hangs out with me out of obligation and not because he really wants to.

Just relax a bit and think positively. When I don't wanna do something, I don't, so if he hangs out with you, it only makes sense he wants to

>>5 Maybe, but he's about to make so much money, get so much girls, and just overall do better. He doesn't need me anymore.

>>5
>Maybe, but he's about to make so much money, get so much girls, and just overall do better.

This reads like a sentence from my twisted world.....are you alright Lionheart?

Whether he needs you or not is up to him to decide, and if you ask me, the fact that he's still hanging out with you says enough. No need to be so anxious about it. And if it just won't leave your mind, you can always ask him, I'm sure he'll understand. It's okay to be a little insecure, we all are sometimes, especialy when a person means so much

Maybe he sees something special in you and like that; don't start doubting yourself and have thoughts like these it's bad. Be true to yourself, and you will have true friends.

If he has so many "cool" friends, he must value you more than them if he still hangs around with you!

I think more important than "Why does he hang out with me" is "Why do you hang out with him?" As long as you're happy and you have fun when you hang out, that's all that matters. If you don't like groups, then don't hang out in groups. Look out for yourself and be grateful to your friend for caring about you and you them! Don't sweat the small stuff and enjoy life

bump

>>6 not really. I have a lot of insecurities. And they are telling me that my friend doesn't need me anymore and that I shouldn't bother him.
>>7 he means so much to me. I feel the day he stops calling is inevitable.
>>10 I wish life were that easy to enjoy. It's just me with so many fears and insecurities and having no luck with girls that stop me.

If you don't wanna hang out with them don't, it's that easy.

It always seems like you're trying to play the pity card too. It's a pet peeve of mine when people do that too.

Life is so easy to enjoy when you're having problems that only pertain to people liking you.

I am stressing over making rent since I only have 40 and rent is 250. I didn't have the best childhood either, as I stated in a previous thread.

If all you focus on us the negative then that's prolly all you are seeing. You don't focus on the positive for some reason. People in this thread told you the positive, but you ignore or don't actually listen to it.

>>12
>I have a lot of insecurities.
You need to stop letting these rule your life m8.

>>14 I know. People have it harder than me. I get that. Maybe because of my personality that I can't see the positives.
>>16 I don't know how. Every time I try to be positive the negatives just crawl back.

Change yourself first. Find out where these insecurities stem from. Once you find out then you can start to deal with them.

Life is full of negativity but it is always better to see the glass half full. There is a silver lining behind every cloud as well. In your situation, did you know about your insecurities and whatnot before posting here? You made progress in at least finding out where to possibly start dealing with your problems. Once you deal with your problems you'll be able to take a lot more and deal with a lot more down the road too.

Maybe your just focusing on the wrong thing. I was a very bad pessimist due to focusing on the big picture. I knew that everyday people were being murdered, raped, abused, trafficked, etc. The human race has a lot of evil that can't be rooted out entirely. Once I ignored all the evil crap humans do I could focus on just myself and the things that were positive.

>>18 how do I just focus on the positives? I know it seems like a silly question, but how do you focus on the positives without letting the negatives creep up on you?

>>19 I already stated that you need to change yourself first. In another thread I made it clear it wasn't easy for me.

Your problems probably won't be as hard to snuff out and deal with too. You already know the flaws you want to correct, so you know where to start and what to look for.

What causes/caused those insecurities and whatnot? Is it paranoia? Is it being letdown in the past? I can't answer specifically, since people deal and react differently to the same thing. It is your job to figure that stuff out and deal with it in your own way. No one can tell you how you should do it, since they aren't you. Others can give suggestions, but only yourself can find the answers.

>>20 yeah. Looks like I have some finding myself to do. Thanks man.

First off this sounds like rambling of a child, or maybe an angsty teen (to be discovered) let me phrase this for you “uhh why am I not good there are better people than me so why do people even like me ughhhh” sound about right? Of course it does. You’re insecure, fortunately for you so is everyone, unfortunately for me I get to read you bullshit to pass time, “C’est la vie”. Ok so there are two things you need to learn from your problems with a fairly obvious answer, I’m sure a kid could figure this out, you’re friend, likes hanging out with you cause he likes you (in a friendship kinda way, don’t get any ideas) he likes being your friend, and no one wants to go into detail to why they like someone to that person, obviously. And answer number two, you have to consider the fact that there are worse people than yourself, he doesn’t hang out with you cause he pities you or because it makes him look better, so stop complaining about nonexistent problems and don’t make things different from how they actually are, you know the truth so stop, seriously. Also don’t think I’m being kind to you, cause this is all more or less mockery due to your problem that isn’t even a problem, so don’t try reading between the lines in this, it’s a cold hard fact that you’re are just too insecure for your own good.
(Also P.s come out of the closet already, no straight guy complains about a guy friend like this, no shame in admiring who you “truly” are)

Hugs and kisses
-Kanra

>>22 Kanra's back :)

>>23 Someone missed me

>>24 Personal isn't the same without a depreciating essay.

Ok but seriously, is it just me or is this a “problem” of a severely annoying and depressed closeted gay guy?

And I do love to make people read a whole page on how they’re incredibly idiotic, although I don’t think most of them get through a few words without being mad and offended and then completely ditches the valid points I make

>>26 Pretty sure this is the same guy that threatened suicide in past on here over not getting girls.

>>28 “Twas a good cover story” and I truly don’t know, I haven’t spread my good will on here in awhile, but seriously I have not met a straight man who talks about guys like this

>>29
>but seriously I have not met a straight man who talks about guys like this
Not incorrect. Either that or severe abandonment issues, and deep seated self loathing.

If there was a spinning wheel of problems, it would always land on something this guy has

Sorry that came out mean, what I meant was “problems with simple solutions” I didn’t mean to discourage you in “any” way
>>1

I get a slight Elliot Rodger vibe of some of the wording he uses.

I get more of a slightly popular dumb teen girl from an early 2000’s movie vibe

Is there much difference outside of the rampage killing?

Being crazy
having daddy issues
out of control

nope can’t say there is

Don't forget extreme vanity and unwarranted self importance.

Oh, this are very important, and I swear to God that the person is gonna wake up tomorrow and read these and just let out a plain “aww” in a really depressed way

> let out a plain “aww” in a really depressed way
But nothing here is mean :)

I think your friend must like you and is happy to be your friend, doesn’t matter how you feel about yourself, and don’t listen to anyone posting anything mean, they just dislike the qualities they see in themselves, that’s all 😊

>>39 nope not at all, this is a “happy” place

>they just dislike the qualities they see in themselves
Muh projection

>>49 Rin-Chan you are irrefutably correct, no wiser words have been spoken, I do reflect my issues onto others, please forgive meeeeeeeeeeee

>>41 Everything on here is supportive.

I meant 40, ok Rin-Chan at number 49 you gotta say something nice otherwise my seeking of forgiveness will go unnoticed

Can Rin-Chan return by post 49?

I sure do hope so, oh no! We’re running out of time!

I wanna wake up tomorrow and see '49 name: Rin-Chan'.

"Tick tock Clarice"

guys this is meant to be a thread to support a person :/

Shiro pls, I was well behaved all day yesterday, lemme have some fun :)

>>49 Come on, Shiro, do you actually think that we could help this guy?
We tried several times, always with the same outcome.
First he's fake suicidal, cause he gets no chick; and now he's wallowing in self-pity, for he can't believe that his friend wants to be his friend.
He always finds something else to whine about.
All this guy actually wants to hear is a "don't worry, you're perfect just the way you are". If he needs someone to push up his self esteem, he should join an encounter group. For I start believing that he's just seeking for attention.
There's no problem, Shiro. This guy just needs to grow some balls, that's all.
It's kinda ironic that he's using the name Lionheart though.

K. I deleted this in >>51, but now I feel like I have to write it again, because Chronos comment triggered me now.

>>22 Absolute fail trolling. Sorry Kanra. This guy is not gay. He had so many posts about not being able to find a girlfriend. Try better next time. Or better don't try next time. Stay away from the Dollars. Namie only misses you because she is bored.

>>50 I don't like Shiro very much, but I'm totally on her side: Please stop such conversations on Personal. Personal is made to help others and not to make fun about them. We know that Kanra has no niveau, but please at least show you some niveau Namie. We are the Dollars and not some 4chan website, we support people here.

>>52 It doesn't matter if we could help Lionheart in the end or not, we must try to help him. The good will is important! Could you stop talking like you would know everything here in this world? Your rudeness will make everything worser. If you only have bad things to say, then please keep your mouth shut Chronos. Thank you.

>>52
>He always finds something else to whine about.

I gave my advice in >>20. I always told him the same thing in his other threads too.

We all tried helping him in his other threads, but it never got through to him. Hopefully it does this time.

All that could be said has been said. He ignores most if the good will too. Only thing left for them to do is change themselves and/or make peace with who they are.

Sage

>>53
G.P pls I thought we were friends :(

>Namie only misses you because she is bored.
Not true.

>I don't like Shiro very much
Why? Shiro's lovely.

>We know that Kanra has no niveau, but please at least show you some niveau Namie.
Level of what?

>The good will is important!
But it is good will, it's tough love. Coddling someone this needy doesn't do them any good.

If you guys dont want to help people i suggest stop talking on this thread.

>>53 “being triggered” is still a thing? And oh let me guess you’re a feminist too, see what you don’t seem to understand is that I’m simply mocking him, you can take it as seriously as you possibly can, but in all actuality I’m just being sarcastic. Truly sad for you not to earn such an amazing trait. And seriously enough with the “you failed at trolling” bit, whoever comments that literally proves the opposite with that comment, but like I’ve said before “C’est la vie”

>>57 Thanks for the suggestion! But I’m gonna be sure to not heed your warning, but I do appreciate it! (ﾉ´ヮ`)ﾉ*: ･ﾟ

hmmm... well, depending on many factors. You and your friend probably developed a relationship( as in family or etc ) And also if your friend does indeed say he has more fun with them but gives you an answer that doesnt make sense but the reason why there is no correct answer for you is because your special compared to them. There is a bond you have together that they dont have. That is why he chose to stay with you.

>>53 you're siding with a nazi?

Vergaßt alle Juden!

>>61 Get in the damn concentration camp Shinji!

>>62 Stay back m8, I know self defence

Didn't mean to stir this up

I think there’s something he does like about you. If he keeps hanging out with you then you must be doing something right, right? I’ve felt this way before and I know it’s tough to know what to do, but I think there must be something you’re doing that’s making him continue to hangout with you. I don’t know though just a guess

>>64 You actually brought Hitler onto this site, good job.

>>66 He revived the dead - he's a magician :o

>>67 It's a magical new twist on necroposting.

Guys, really, please stop it now. You are becoming very annoying. The personal board is not a playground. We are supposed to help each other! Follow the rules or leave this site please.

>>64 It isn't your fault that these dumbasses are trolling your thread. They have a boring life and nothing better to do.

>>61 Shiro isn't a nazi. Stop trolling. You aren't funny.

>>55 Sid it is alright. I know that you are really helping. I didn't want to hurt you with my post before. It was addressed at Kanra and Namie, because they made a chat in this thread and they made fun of Lionheart. And it was addressed to Chronos too, because he said rude things about/to Lionheart. I can't endulge it when he is rude to somebody who wants help for an important issue.

And one more thing I have realized is that your username makes no sense >>68.

>>70
>your username makes no sense
Pls, I have learning disabilities don't bully.

>>71 I'm really sorry. I didn't know this. I didn't want to offend you in any way. I was a little bit harsh in >>69 and >>70, because I was stressed yesterday. Sorry! ;((

Sarcasm is a thing...

>>73 I wasn't sarcastic, Chronos. I'm really sorry.

>>72 I think I can find it in my heart to forgive you.

Am i a nazi tho? *insert thinking face*