How do you people stop bad habits? Catering to behaviour, that is.

Example, when you are constantly being insensitive to the general human emotions. Smiling or laughing during someones sad moments. Spectating like its a show. Pulling strings even, like a game.

How do I end this behaviour? I want to be more human and generally sane.

That's not a bad habit, it's a lack of compassion.

It's perceived to be extremely selfish if someone confides in you, and you're so stuck in your own perception that your only "advice" completely invalidates their feelings and emotions.

It might be hard to believe. But you're not the only one with an agenda. Every single person is living in an alternate reality of sorts. Each with their own perspectives, values, and more surprisingly, plans.

>>2 Alright. Thats probably true.

>>3 Ive always seen it like that too, thanks for reaffirming it again.

So now, how do I deal with these then? Avoid people entirely? Avoid only when there is "drama". Or is there a way to gain compassion?

Practice should make all the difference. You can't force yourself to empathize with another person. But you can at least begin to ask yourself why you should.

>>5 Alright thanks.

>>5 This.
You probably really lack compassion.
This could change after you made a bad experience yourself.

I was kinda the same some years ago, often laughing when hearing bad news, although I didn't actually think they were funny. I simply didn't know how to react instead.
I even remember myself bursting into laughter after my best friend committed suicide.

Still, if you're spactating like it's a show or even pulling the strings, viewing others like pawns in you game, you're definitely suffering from the Izaya-syndrome and this can't be cured. Sorry, man.

>>7 You might be right. I don't pay attention on Izaya. But I'm probably influenced. I guess the best I could do is to not show it. Slowly it will go away?

>>8 He's simply aligning you with the "self-centered egotistical sociopath" character trope. Pulling strings isn't something people take lightly once discovered.

The general lesson to take away from some of this is something I've had to learn on my own. Being a decent person isn't actually that easy for anyone. We're all just doing our damnedest to get things done and keep our noses clean. Things like trust, respect, and credibility can be valuable when trying to maintain healthy relationships with our peers. It's important to strive to as well-rounded an individual you can be, because it enables you to be more happy with yourself, your life, and those you surround yourself with.

>>9 Alright.

I will take in that general lesson as advice. I will find my way out of this and gain a new frame of mind that is better, atleast to me.

Thanks.

Whenever u go into a public area observe the ppl around u. Wonder what they r feeling, what kind of day their having. This should help u feel the emotions of the ppl around u better. Good luck

>>11 Thats a good advice. Thank you.

I understand what you are doing. Sometimes I make life hell for people and call it games. Pulling strings and using pawns just because I can and it's fun. Laughing at bad news because I think it's funny. I just try to be kind and tell myself to be a dollars. Sometimes it is going to be hard. Trust me but I think one of the ways is ind the people you care about and say would that make them happy or sad. Even if the person your talking too you could destroy them right there and then.(sorry I am like that) just think about who you want to be and how you want to inpack to the person your talking too. I hope I was some help.

>>13 That does help. Thanks for the advice.