Alright so it is about a month into my sophomore year of college and I haven't had a relationship for a while. Recently I found out that a freshman who I met through a friend was into me. We've been hanging out for about a week now, watching movies and crashing at eatchother's dorms.

The thing is that she just got out of a serious relationship and is still on edge and fighting with her ex who is still in high school. She told me that she doesn't want to start dating again yet but keeps implying she will want to in the (near?) future. All the while trying to seduce me.

That much I can keep straight but she also messages me at times asking why I like her at all, and why I bother.. not in a flirty way but more like she is trying to convince me that I shouldn't want a relationship with her. Apparently she has had some bad habits in the past, going into detail on that really isn't important. The gist is that she seems to hold me to some weird standard of being too good for her. I also know she perpetually lies to people in an effort to stay amused, mostly her ex. I can't really criticize her on this however as I also manipulate people and the results are funny as hell.

Anyway her behaviors create a logical contradiction that I have hit a brick wall at unraveling. She says I can do better acting as if people always act on what is best for them and I am in fact better. If she really held all those beliefs she would never present this to me in the first place, as it acts against her interest, so at least one of those isn't the case.

I know one of these is a lie, and which isn't really important. What bothers me is why, out friend already knew she had a crush on me so this just being a ploy to manipulate me for amusement seems unlikely. I genuinely do care about her, but do find this concerning. I would like to hear other's though on the matter, mainly as to why she would act this way.

Maybe she uses this as a kind of defense mechanism to prevent herself from getting hurt by trying to manipulate others into her ways so that she can feel secure specially that she hasn't quite healt from her previous breakup. I think u should just give it time find out if she truly cares about u or she is just playing or she is healling or whatever don't rush into things with someone who has newly broke there feelings most of the time are all over the place.