1 Name: Kree : 2017-09-10 15:28 ID:iN49p+bh [Del]
This relationship is the only thing that's been on my mind lately and I really need some advice on what to do...
So here's some background information. I am a junior in High School and he's a senior. We started talking around the end of my sophomore year (his junior year) and we got to become really close. We talked everyday and called each other almost every night during summer vacation. Rumor got around that he liked me and in July, we started dating. Prior to our relationship,he had told me that things didn't go well with another girl. We'll call her A. Apparently things were going well between him and A but one day, A just stopped everything. From what I was told, it seemed that she didn't want to be in a relationship so she just decided to cut everything off. He was kind of upset about this because he didn't know what he did wrong but he gave her the space she needed. A few months passed and thats when him and I started dating.
When he first asked me out, he told me in advance that he wouldn't be able to hang out or talk as much because he needed to focus on schoolwork. As a senior, he needed to fill out college applications and do tutoring for his SAT's. I completely understood and gave him the space he needed to focus on his academics. Even with his tight schedule, we still managed to call each other at night and hang out during the weekends. I always felt happy being with him and I'm positive he did too. Towards the end of summer vacation, his schedule started getting busier and we started talking a little less. His texts wouldn't come as often as they used to but I didn't let it bother me since I knew that he had school work to do. And on top of that, he had summer homework from all the AP classes that he was going to take when school started. The last few weeks of summer vacation was when I started feeling a little uneasy due to the lack of attention he has been giving me. We always made an effort to hang out maybe once or twice a week but it stopped during the last two weeks of summer vacation. I tried not to let it bother me because I knew that I would be able to see him more often once school started. Since we are in the same club (marching band), we would be able to see each other for the whole day since practice started from when school ended to 9pm at night.
The first day of school passed and it didnt seem like things were getting any better. We had band class together during 6th period and we didnt talk as much. We were both occupied with talking to people in our section. (we were in different sections in band). But whenever we did talk, conversations were short but flowed like normal. At the end of practice, we talked within our mutual friend group but it still felt like things were missing. When I got home, I ended up not being able to talk to him that much because I was really tired from practice so I told him that I was going to go to sleep early. We both said our "goodnights" and that was the end of it.
The next day, we had our first home football game. We would perform in the stands but since our sections were different, we ended up having to sit apart the whole time. For our school, it is a tradition for the entire band to go to this pizzeria and eat after every home game. After the game ended, he asked for a ride there (i can drive) and we were the only ones in the car. We didn't talk as much as we usually would since he was reading something on his phone. During the ride, he said "sorry Im not talking much, Im reading this." I said it was totally fine but the car ride ended up being quiet with occasional conversation.
When we got to the pizza shop, he asked me if I mind him sitting with his friends instead of me. We both had different friend groups in band and I said it was fine. He said he would visit my table every once in a while to see me. But he only ended up doing so after his friends had left the shop to go home. We still didnt talk much when he came to my table. The conversation was just rotated around the table but it was never between us two. After, I was supposed to take him home as well. So after we got into my car, and the car ride was quiet as well. We listened to music on the way back and conversation was scarce, just like it had been on the way to the shop. He asked me: "Do you feel like I'm not talking to you as much?" I lied and I said no. I know I shouldn't have but I didnt want to sound so clingy especially since the rest of the band was at the shop.
When I dropped him off at home, we kissed and I opened the trunk for him since his stuff was in there. I personally got out of the car to see him off. We hugged and said our goodbyes. He ended by saying "Drive safe".
The thing that makes me feel uneasy the most is girl A. She is in band as well and also in the same section as him. Recently, I see him talking to her and her group in between breaks during rehearsal. Even at the pizza shop, he was sitting with her and her friends since his friend group was late. I lost my two month best friend streak with him to her on snapchat even though he stopped snapchatting me as often. One time, when we hung out during summer, I saw a text from her on his phone but he didnt reply. (And this was when we first started dating and we clearly liked each other). Im scared that he still has feelings for her and is slowly drifting away from me to be with her. This relationship is slowly breaking me apart from the inside. I had my first breakdown yesterday morning thinking about it. I want to confront him about this but i have no opportunity to since he is still does not text back as often.
I am fairly new to relationships and I feel like this is my first real one. Past relationships only ended up being too one sided so I decided to break it off. But now that I realized that I really like him, it actually hurts and this is an emotion that i have never felt before when it comes to romantic relationships. It hurts to see him not talk to me even when I am part of the conversation. it hurts to feel uneasy when it takes 30min-1hr for him to reply.
What am I supposed to do...?
2 Name: Chrome : 2017-09-10 17:06 ID:/mfG+Q53 [Del]
I'm actually a poor virgin so i don't know if i can really help but I think you need to stay rational. We can't answer what you are supposed to do beacause we don't know him. Make sure to not do something you will regret later and don't overreacting, it can cause problem. At least, it seem he is a little concerned about you so i think you can ask him if there is something in is mind without fear. I repeat but stay rational. It will not help at all if you become weird or yandere or something worse okay ?
3 Name: Chronos!8NBuQ4l6uQ : 2017-09-10 19:59 ID:Zc6TfO1K [Del]
I would tell him how you feel and what you're currently thinking about.
It's better to talk to him openly than to bottle up all your anger and worries.
After all it's no good relationship if it causes a mental breakdown, so you don't need to be afraid of it getting worse.
