A few weeks ago, I just found out that one of my old friend, who just turned 17, is pregnant. Her boyfriend and his family wants nothing to do with the baby and has cut off all connections with her. She texted me about the pregnancy, and I was shocked. She and her boyfriend has been having sex since freshman year, something that I was aware about. She always told me about her little sex stories, which I didn't really care much for or want to hear. But I always tell her to be careful and use condoms and birth control. Apparently, this is not her first baby. She had one when she was 15, but lost it after three weeks, something that I had to find out through other people via gossip mill. Well, the point of this thread is that I don't know what to do. Honestly speaking, I was never really close to her. I've known her since we were in elementary, but we had a falling out five years ago. The only reason that we still know and talk to each other is because of a mutual friend. There's a part of me that wants to help her, since I feel bad about the situation she is in and that she was (and kinda still is) a friend. But there is also a part of me that wants nothing to do with her, since there were times when she treated me like absolute trash when we were in middle school and parts of high school, grudges that I just can't seem to let go that affects my attitude towards her. I feel conflicted about what to do. All I have done so far is just sent her links to parenting websites and remind her of appointments. Is that enough? Am I a bad person for not caring so much about this? Should I do more to help her?
She's probably in a low place, being pregnant and with her boyfriend breaking it off with her. I won't say I support teen pregnancies, in fact, quite the opposite, but I do think she will need all the emotional support she can get right now. If you can help her, you should at least try. If she continues being mean even after you try to help her, break off the friendship. She wouldn't deserve you as a friend
