So dollars, I've known this girl for over 4 years now and we'll both be sophmores this year. The problem is that I've started developing a crush on her. This feeling has just been growing more over the summer, to the point where I feel my heart race when saying something as simple as happy birthday to her. I really like this girl but I really don't want to make things akward between us. Should I try asking her out, hope these feeling pass quickly, or if any of you have other advice it would be much appreciated.
Although I'm much younger than you, I'm under the same issue as you. I haven't told her as I don't want to ruin our friendship, I think it would be best if you waited to see if she feels the same way about you, maybe imply your feelings rather than an outright confession. but this is all coming from an angst ridden teenager, so take what you want from this. I hope I've been some help.
Most of the time confessing your love isn't the best option as it gives them all the power, trying to see if she likes you back through observation is probably the best option, hard as it is.
5 Name: Sum Gai : 2017-08-15 03:12 ID:EKjIVlmt [Del]
I respectfully disagree. i think that if you like her, you should tell her. she won't be available forever, and it'd be better to know. if she doesn't reciprocate at least you know. I've made the mistake of waiting and implying. do what you feel you will regret the least.
I made the same mistake like Sum Gai and waited too long to confess my love and then the girl already had a boyfriend. Better talk to her as a friend and find out what sort of person she is. Then ask her out or tell her directly what you feel for her. When you wait too long your chance will be gone forever.
Word of advice, don't make it too long. I have this friend of mine which I am very close with that most of my classmates thought that we were legit had a relationship. At first I wasn't paying attentions to them, but as time comes I started to get attracted to her. I think it was also 4 years that I musted up the courage to confess, but unfortunately at that time she had a boyfriend so she rejected me.
After that things became awkward and I ignored/never talked to her again. But then one day she suddenly cried in front of our classmates, I comforted her and asked what was wrong and she said it was because I was ignoring her and she missed the things that we did in the past. I said I'm still her friend and I will stop ignoring her, but I also said that we can't be too close since her boyfriend might get the wrong idea about us. But then I never done my promise and still ignored her, then one day surprise came to me when she suddenly became a lesbian. It's still quite a bit awkward between us right now, but I can properly talk to her but with fake smiles and jokes. I try to lighten up the breeze whenever we somehow come face-to-face. Even if we somehow liked each other even until now, we can't be together.
