Firstly my firstt year in college wass likee reallyyy badd i was doubfunll fromm the start because i havee agoraphobia and got really bad social anxietyy and fearr in campus that i left after ten minutes i ne verr weent to universtiyyy that year but i passed some lessons , well i kindda made all of my freindss and conectionss outsidee of universityy butt weell there were some more stuff goingg in my personall lifee and familyy too soo i gott reallyy badd adn losttt kindda a lot of my weifhtt , my second year was goodd i got backk with my studies trieda lott to winn over me but i gave upp ,welll at leastt i kindd stregten my realashioship with peolple i alreadyy had my life , well in university i triedd but i kinda felt like im left outt or got rejected dunoo dontt feeell ok there with the students beeing mostlyy womenn i realyy jet lagedd ,even with boyy s ,im no so open ,well i tried going in socail groupp events of other universitiess but fellltt also out of placeee like all my high school yeari even told in my teacher i will be havingg a difficult life before liivingg my hometowwn but said its okk, . welll as for my third year i completlyy focused in my studies and went realyy well, butt i would be happyy if get to havee some people who will make me feell comfortable in theree or tryy t tallk more with my clasmatess ro strangerss my coolllege life will be more fun and may find moree likelyy to love it and stopp livingg an everyday life draining situationn
thats alll.if yu had happenedd to havee a similarr expierience tell mee.

I believe you even never went to elementary school.
Your spelling is so poor, that I get eye cancer, really.
Have you ever heard of the mysterious thing called "dot"? It helps you creating a clear sentence structure. And it´s not used after a coma!

>>2
>coma lol

I don't want to appear mean, but maybe he just doesn't give a fuck about his spelling on the internet? If he has dyslexia, was drunk and/or didn't write it in his mother tounge I take that back of course.

Now my suggestion: Don't rely on other people to make you happy and find some hobbies you enjoy. Life is about what you make out of it with what you have. No one is simply goig to walk up to you to "stop the everyday life" you live.

>>2 You aren't helping at all. People like you area major reason for social anxiety in people like karine and myself. I understand you are upset about misspelling, but it doesn't mean you need to insult someone for it, especially when they are asking for help.

>>1 I also struggle with social anxiety and it's not fun. I recieved counseling for about six months, and while I still have social anxiety, it's a lot milder. I would recommend counseling if you aren't already in it, colleges usually have cheap counseling options. My personal recovery method was called gradual exposure therapy. Basically I listed out social situations that gave me anxiety, gave them levels of how much anxiety they gave me, and in environments I created for myself to control them, and put myself in the least anxiety provoking place I could while still being a bit hard for me. After awhile I went from being able to talk to one close friend for a minute, to being able to talk to relative strangers for twenty. Counseling helped me tremendously, I would highly recommend it to anyone who has any problems. Especially other people with social anxiety

>>5

I agree with Hitsuji completely. Counseling can help a lot. Sometimes it can seem like it isn't going anywhere, or like nothing is helping, but don't give up. I dealt with anxiety and depression for six or seven years of my life, and it just tears at my heart to know that people are in the middle of that feeling. I know that I can't say anything that will magically solve any of your problems, but just know that I love you. I may just be a stranger on the internet, but I do, it's sort of the thing that I'm good at. Keep going my friend, you'll have to trudge through a lot of mud, but you'll reach someplace better, maybe somewhere you didn't expect, it will come. Trust me. <3

>>2 Stop tryharding, man. Firstly, it's spelled "Comma" and secondly, it's not a "Dot" it's a "Period." If you're going to criticise somebody's spelling and punctuation you have to have the basics down yourself.

>>5 and >>7
Ignore him. He is a troll. He wants you to react the way you do right now.

>>1
My boyfriend has social anxiety. I understand your situation quite good. I highly recommend counceling too. It will help you. Stay strong! And ignore stupid trolls like >>2. He can't even spell himself.

People, I´m not mad because of bad spelling and grammar, although it nearly comatosed me.
What I wanted to show is: Of course you fail when you rush in without preparation and without thinking about what you´re doing.
What happens when we´re writing a text no one understands because the spelling is too bad?
Right: We´re getting bullied.
What happens when we´re rushing into a conversation offline without any clue what to say and how to behave in front of others?
Bingo! - We´re getting bullied.

In other words: To prevent further situations which could lead to immersion of social anxiety, we need a certain degree of mental preparation and a good strategy, otherwise we´re already predetermined to fail again.

>>7 In the UK we call the "dot" a "full stop", I thought >>1 might not understand.

Get out more, or join study groups.

If you have a job you always have some sort of social interactions. I know my job helped me talk to others more so too. Unless you have a free ride through college, then you might not have a job.

Almost none of your classmates will stick around as friends, but it might help with networking. I have already experienced this in my first years of college, since people I exchanged numbers with people I don't really know. They said it is good to widen the net of people they know/have contact with for the future.

I do agree that being a junior in college one should have decent writing skills as well. Yet it might not be their native language. But if it is their native language then I am very confused, as English courses are required for any degree.

>>9 In the UK it's still officially known as a "period." We only refer to it as a "Full Stop" for explanatory reasons. It's the same reason we call "Parenthesis" "Brackets" even though this [ ] is actually a bracket, it's just easier.

TL;DR: no problem, man.

>>9 Sometimes i'm not sure if trolling or serious. Everything you say makes practically sense. But why not just saying what you want to say instead of demonstrating it first? You are intelligent, than you should know that nobody understands your odd philosophy without any explanation first. Say "hey better check your spelling mistakes before you post then nobody will bully you." Why must you bully yourself and then when somebody is insulting you you say "you got me wrong i wanted that she learns something". You seem like a big asshole in this way. This is no insult. I only want to understand you and i want you to understand that nobody understands the ways you think. Your advice is good after all. I am afraid of humans too and it helps me to prepare myself for a conversation as if it was an exam. I stutter less when i know what to say.