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Changes in Friendships.. (2)

1 Name: AnamisWolf : 2017-07-13 23:54 ID:kdFv2kXd [Del]

Hey everyone. Just feeling a bit down. I've been in a friendship for many years now, we have gone through fights a few times in the past where we thought we'd end up ending it but worked stuff out and our friendship got stronger for it. However in this past year things have changed.

My friend has grown less and less found of technology and desiring to talk, perfering to keep more to herself and she has also moved and is currently looking for a home to buy(we're both roughly over 25 so..). Anyway as a result we started to talk less and less and at times I feel awkward talking to her because when we do talk she hardly speaks back, but I also noticed while I still care about her and think of her as my friend that as a result I haven't been reaching out as much due to lack of responses and such as well to the point I may not even think of doing so like I used to.

In short I feel we're growing apart and today while we didn't come out and say it with responses from her being "Regardless I still want you in my life." after asking I please text less(Cause unfortunately I rant a bit and have long lengthy texts more often then not.) says it plainly from her(Though since I'm not good at picking up on social cues I could be misinterpreteding but I'm pretty sure I'm not in this case.).

In return I told her as long as we both desire to remain friends that won't change even if we change, since she also seemed concerned about that and was a bit depressed. I ment that of course but also know while I don't desire to grow apart that it sometimes just happens, and so while it's sad I am fine if that happens.

But of course even if we grow apart that doesn't mean we'll stop being friends either, as long as we still think of each other like that and stay in contact it won't end. Sure we won't be as close as before but it doesn't mean we still won't be friends.

Still though it is sad to realize that's what's happening regardless so it still makes me a bit down. What's gonna be fun is trying to make a new friend to hang out that has been good as her. Not that I could ever replace her but yeah.. just kinda won't really have anyone to hang out with so much after all. And even more fun to find someone near my age tgat has simular interests that can deal with the mess that is me with my social and mental issues.
*Sighs.*

2 Name: Kyouka : 2017-07-16 02:33 ID:Dof4rR+H [Del]

Sadly most friendships die out when we get older. I had a "best friend" since elementary school. She became like a sister within those years. Nevertheless, we have lived apart.
It's no use to force a friendship to work when it's about to break. Search for someone else. There will always be someone who shares the same interests and accepts you the way you are.