So my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 4 almost 5 months now and i always knew he liked cuddles and what not (i don't mind it but it can get annoying when i'm hanging out with friends or gaming) but as of late he's been touching me more in places i don't feel comfortable yet with him and been leaving hickeys everywhere i keep telling him to stop but he doesn't really listen and think of me as teasing him and tbh it's getting on my nerves now...
any advice?

Tell him that you don´t like him touching any intimate zones yet. But tell him when he´s not touching you. For example when you´re eating lunch together. He might understand that it is no teasing when the two of you are in a serious situation.

push him away, and tell him to stop. If it doesnt, then you should probably break up with him. And if he tries anything super serious, you should tell and adult or report to local authorities

tell him to stop and if he doesnt break up with him.

I think that if you simply tell him not to touch you, he might dissapoint you again or even leave you. Propably serious talk could do the thing. If I was you, I would warn him that something serious that makes you worry is going on. Do not tell him immediately, give him some time to realize how serious this is (one or more days). Then tell him, but describe it as detailed as possible. Maybe you fear, maybe you might end up angry with him when he touches, maybe it is disgusting for you. He have to get to know that.

I think this is the pretty good choice. Of course I don't know your boyfriend.

Hope you find the answear helpful.

And if he stops he looses your fucking shit test and you loose interest in him, he just want to fuck you where is the problem? Or are your still in puperty lel

Nvm break up, it is a desaster for him already 5 months dating? REALLY

hes propably in the friendzone already because he didnt escalate quick enough i know how it works,
How he was at thw start? , very passive i think

>>6 I somehow believe they are still in puberty otherwise being touched wouldn´t be such a problem.
But yeah, 5 month are fucking long. As a guy I can imagine that it´s hard for him to hold back such a long time... Maybe he doesn´t want to ask directly so he starts with physical messages instead.

It sounds like you two are not a very good match in terms of physical contact comfort levels. He should respect that you don't want to be touched. You have two options:
1- Try to talk to him about how you feel. Say that you're not comfortable with that and that although it's nothing against him, you would like him to stop. Remain calm and sincere. If he continues to do it, that is not ok. Remember you always have a right to not be touched- even if it's not in a sexual way.

2- You can break up with him. Just say that it's not working out and you don't feel like you belong with him. Again, it's best to remain calm, straight forward, and gentle. Hope this helps.

If it ever gets out of hand and he continues to bother you or touch you even though you explained that you don't want him doing that, tell an adult.

I would say look for someone else. If he can't respect your wishes while you're telling him to stop things/slow down, then he probably never will. There are many more people out there like that, guys and girls, who don't respect the person they are with. I was in a shitty relationship like that way after high school, but that was my own dumbass fault for ignoring the red flags.

Find someone who respects you for who you are and who is fine with taking things slow. I prefer to take it slow since it shows what the person is truly after, you or your body. Doing so also helps you to get to know each other better and to see if you are compatible. If they aren't ok with that chances are they are just after your body.

I'm a firm believer that relationships shouldn't revolve around sex. In other words, it shouldn't make or break a relationship. What should is who the person is and if they truly love you, respect you, and they want become a better person. That of course should go both ways, it shouldn't be just one sided.

That sounds to me like it may end very badly. I'd say that's a relationship you need to get out of before it gets worse. I may be overthinking it, but if I'm not, you need to break up.
Besides, you've only been dating for a few months, it wouldn't be catastrophic to either of you if you just broke up with him. Assuming either of you don't make it over dramatic.

I think u need to give your bf the benefit of the doubt. Talk to him, find out why he does that to u. Could it be that he's having some stressful issues now and needs someone to understand him? A successful relationship is an open one, whereby both parties can share secrets with one another.

he wasnt "aggresive enough" and now hes friendzoned ( dont let him touch you yare yare daze) ,

is he kinda shy, a good boy so to speak?
i guess so

dont make it dramatic for him and break up already, he dont do it himself because he still believes he has some chance but have none at all

nice guys finish last, thats a good example


guess you had sex with another guy already or a blow job watever

I really don't get the problem. Why not just talking to him and telling him how you feel and think about it? If he understands and accepts it it's fine. If not than you need to ask yourself whether he is worth being your boyfriend or not. You also could ask yourself: Do you really love him? Because if you do so why does it bother you so much that he touches you? And if you don't do so, then break up already!
Or did you have any traumatic past relationship or something? And because of that you can't be touched? Got abused?
Whatever. Talk to him or nothing will change.

tell him, "Back off!"
and if that doesn't work meh idk break up with him

>>14 What? I'm so lost with your poor grammar and poor sentence structure.

>>15 she already told him to stop it, at least with hickeys.

I know when I love someone for who they are I respect their comfort level and what they want/don't want. He is ignoring that she doesn't want hickeys and refuses to acknowledge no means no. It doesn't even have to be sexual, since it would be a red flag to me if I tell someone to stop doing something to me and they continue doing it. It just shows the other person doesn't take you seriously.

If he actually knew her he could tell when she is in distress, and she verbally communicated no/stop on top of that. Yet he continues to do it, at least with the hickeys.

But then again I am a little more old fashioned when it comes to relationships. I'm glad I am, since I found someone who is too. We respect each other and we never make the other do something they are uncomfortable with. Body language says a lot, and when one of us says no/stop it means no/stop.

>>17 The question is "how old are they"?
Although assumed by >>14 that they already had sexual experience in former relationships we have no proof of this yet, have we? There is still the possibility left that we´re talking about pubescent - I don´t want to call them children... let´s say - teenagers.
Have you any clue what goes on in the mind of a thirteen or fourteen year old boy/girl? Relationships in this age are still kind of playing around. There are moments when a boy doesn´t get when his girlfriend truly means "no" or when she´s just joking around wanting herself to be hard to get. Perhaps he thinks it´s a test and in case he really stops, it would seem as if he lost his interest and wouldn´t struggle to get her, you know what I´m talking about?
Because of that I suggested in >>2 she should tell him once more, but not right at the moment he does something uncomfortable. The best option would be to go to a public place, sit down somewhere and talk to him in a serious way. He might understand better afterwards.

Just in case we´re not talking about the age of puberty, I would agree with all of you that it would be the best for her to cut the ties. But unless we don´t really know we shouldn´t make hasty conclusions and give inappropriate advices.

>>18 that makes way more sense. I missed the teen dating experience.

I try to be understanding and try to view the best possible endpoint too. Due to that I didn't understand/see the normal teen experience.

>>19 I also lack the normal teen experience! Only learned by watching others. My conclusions might be wrong too