well me and my boyfriend are both dating for the first time (we are both 22 and boys) and to be honest i am so afraid i am going to do something stupid i know he is just as inexperienced as i am but I have no idea what to do I don't know what to say or do and every time I am near him my heart pumps really hard and he told me next time we see each other we are going to kiss and I am freaking out inside we both never kissed anyone before so I don't know what to do and i am so afraid i will do an awful job and i am afraid that i won't make him happy. what do i am probably being really stupid and stuff but i can't help but worry i don't care if i get anything out of it or anything i just want things to be perfect for him.

I absolutely understand your feelings, fears and thoughts. Everyone has the same thoughts, when he`s dating for the first time. Everyone is nervous and doubts whether he can satisfy his partner – I think this is only naturally!
And because everyone thinks so, I believe your boyfriend will have exactly the same thoughts right at the moment. Maybe he is asking himself the same questions, running in circles not knowing what to do, because he´s also inexperienced. So if I may give you an advice: Just don´t think too much about what kind of bad things could happen. Be self-confident! He loves you, otherwise he wouldn´t be your boyfriend, would he? So if he really loves you, he would still love you, although your first kiss went bad, won´t he? He will understand that you are nervous at first, and maybe he´s nervous too, so he might be glad, that you´re not too confident at all. I know the first kiss is said to be very important – and if you fail it might be funny, so don´t worry about it! Just imagine what great time you could have together and a relationship is much more than kissing and doing “a good job”. Even if you do an “awful job” he might like some of your character traits and would get happy in another way! You´re almost 22, so I think your boyfriend wouldn´t think in such a childish way in which only a good kiss and good sex matters!

Just imagine it the other way round: What would you do, if he would do an "awful job"? Did you ever ask yourself this question? If not, just think about it. Maybe he would react similar to you!

thank you i this doesn't make me not nervous or confident but this gives me some peace of mind reading this i feel like things will be ok no matter how things go. and oh gosh you mentioned sex i haven't even thought about that till now we are both virgins and i don't think we will rush into that quite yet i don't know what to do with myself in kissing let alone sex XD. well as i said i believe that is a long way off once again thank you.