I'm really confused about friendship.
Some of my friends from school aren't great people anymore. I know I'll cut them out of my life now that I'm graduating. Though those I do care about, I'm afraid I won't be friends with them any longer since we won't have anything to talk about anymore. I can't see myself talking to them anymore.
Some of my older friends, whenever they want to hang out I'm sick or busy and it makes me look uninterested, we don't even talk much. Today I even missed the birthday of someone I've been friends with for 14 years.
And online friends. I'm afraid drama will happen and I'll lose them or they'll hate me for some reason.

I don't want friends anymore. This stuff is rough. Not to sound emo, but being alone sounds easiest, right? I just wanted to hear another opinion on this. I don't know why I should make friends if I'll just end up losing them or end up being a bad person to them without realizing it.

Double post, sorry about that. That sucks.

Im 24 an cant get rid of my friends from school stil. I just like to be alone sometimes an smoke a fatty away from friends family anyone really. Have you tried going were nobody goes its a good way to get relief. I go were nobody goes to go fishing an get away from friends showing up at my door everyday .

Hi Alibaba,

I am currently in grad school. High school friends... you don't really want to remain friends with all of them.
From high school, I only keep in touch with one guy. If I meet the others, we greet and hug and catch up. If I have a favor, they will help me out and I will do the same for them. Some of my friends in high school were friends with benefits. They used me and they were jealous of me, that was the only reason they befriended. People suck, but hey, don't think about that. In a few months you won't even remember them.
True friends will show up after you don't talk to them. I got a middle school friend who talks to me often. And another high school friend which moved to our class in 11th grade (out of 12) also helped me out a few weeks ago.
You don't have to befriend everyone. And not everyone is a good friend for you.
In university I met good friends, but again,I only keep in touch with two.
Be nice to people, but don't open up to all of them. In a few years, when everyone is going on with their lives, you will find out who is good for you and who isn't.
There are those 2 girls from my class, back in high school, that I would prefer not to meet. Ever again. Like ever.
Also, my classmates and I keep in touch from the Facebook class group. Every summer they organize meetings to catch up (haven't been to a single one lol because I am studying abroad)

I was actually thinking the same. Here in grad school, I have friends I hang out with daily. But once I finish this and move on ... I don't know who I will still be friends with. We are all foreigners in this country and they will move back to theirs. Our lives revolve around each other. We help us, because there is no one else for us.
I am very close with them. but in a year or two, I will barely remember them.

Friendship is hard, but it is important. Whether or not you will stay in touch after graduation, they are important to your present self. Don't live in the future or the past. It's good to learn from the past and make goals for the future, but the present is where your happiness lies, and you live your life.
At the moment your friends must hold some value to you, emotionally maybe, whatever it is, it helps you. Let go of people who pull you down. But the friends who will drag you up, no matter how short or long you have them for, they can help you.
If you see an ending of the friendship in sight, don't break it off early because it will end early, that is flawed logic. We don't blend up our dinner and drink it because it will end up in that form any way, we savor it for as long as possible, especially if it is good food.