Sigh, sorry about what you're about to read. I'm not good at communicating and have a whole mess of unorganised thoughts that I'm trying to convey here. If you have any help for anything I said then that would very much be appreciated.
I finished school 4 years ago and since then have only ever worked at my small part time job and stayed in my room. I'm not at the level as someone like Sato from Welcome to the NHK, but I'm not someone who knows much about the outside world. I feel like I know no one, and am doing nothing with my life, and in a way, am scared that I'm going to just stay this way.
I decided to start taking a small course for learning Japanese, so nothing career related or too significant, but I figured I should start with something. I've only ever been to a school with a uniform in the past, and since I never go out apart from for work, I haven't bought clothes in ages or put any effort or thought into my appearance. I literally always wear a hat when I'm out so I can pretend I'll never have to do anything with my hair. Is it rude to wear a hat when in class? Even a beanie?
How do people even know what clothes to get? It's probably really pathetic for an "adult" to be asking these questions, but I've always been sheltered or shut in...
Is there any advice I can get to just fit in and look like I'm a normal person like everyone else?
I'm really lost and confused as to how people can make such open decisions, with this like what they wear, look like, even things like bags and stuff. How do people choose things like this? I feel like I'll just end up looking really plain due to my lack of interest and general confusion as to how this all works.
I'm so lost :(
I'm also wondering what people even do in the real world. When someone isn't studying how do you even meet new people and "make friends"? Am I too late for something like that? I feel like any interest I have as a hobby won't have many people interested in the real world, or at least where I live. I almost just want to move countries, or to somewhere where there are people with similar interests as me, but that's such a vague idea that there's no way to do it without any kind of direction and very well thought out plan.
I'm pretty much someone born after finishing school, who knows the language, and some basic knowledge of things from school. I mean, sure, I've seen a lot of anime and have knowledge of some of my other otaku/nerdy hobbies, but when it comes to life I'm a complete noob. Where does one even begin, when in this kind of situation?
Thank you for anyone who made it to the end. Sorry for taking up your time.
Sounds like you need friend time :") Yeah i'm feeling the way you are right there^, by i'm younger than you might thing. Although I haven't finished school, here are the following things i'm bad at (Considering that my class is mostly filled with gossips about my classmate's life) -My fashion sense are screwed up. Bad -I can't socialize, so instead i just say what i want and leave (Like i'm doing rn- tho not completely leaving - I just gotta appreciate Dollars BBS for giving me this chance to help others)
Answering your question of how people make friends, (My ways of making friends) I use online services (Not dating ones -Too young i guess?) It's surprisingly better than you'll expect. You'll be able to meet people who understands you (My too application is KIK ofc, there's public groups and all those members in it)
People change. <That applies to everything. You. Them. Friends. People. Everything. Even nature (Back to topic). But that's the point, We adapt to our surroundings (Sorry for saying it Scientifically, but i can't find another word for it) and i think that it's good for us :").
Anyways, that's all ima say. But if you wanna talk more, my kik is BooWD ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Only wear clothes that speak to you. You'll definitely spend a lot of time trying things on just to put them back, which can be frustrating, but you'll be much happier with yourself if you buy things *you* really like, without thinking too much about what other people think. If you're still creating a style for yourself, try copying a character you really relate to. It's a gentle, first step into society.
I can say from experience that feeling friendless sucks, but being surrounded by fake friends will hurt even worse. Don't join anyone who denies your interests. Things like that.
