So I've got a bit of a situation that I'm really not quite sure how to deal with. So I'm just gonna cut straight to the chase. I'm 16 and have been incredibly anti-social most of my life, I only really got my first true friend 2 years ago. But that part of me has changed drastically. Basically, I met a girl who I really like, and it turned out she felt the same. So I was happy for a bit. Then she brought up that we hadn't really known each other for very long so we should put our relationship on hold until we got to know each other better. I was hesitant to agree because I felt like we would wind up growing apart, but I agreed because I'm new to this shit and I also didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable.

So about a month passed when my bro (not literally my brother, just a super close friend) said that he had a crush on this girl and wanted to ask her out. It hurt quite a bit but he handled the situation very well and we were all still on good terms and everything so I figured I'd try my hardest to be happy for them, even if I didn't get to be with the only girl I've ever had feelings for. Of course I never really got over her and there was always this part of me that hoped they would breakup. And I hated myself for that.

And here's the part I'm really worried about. They just recently broke up after they'd been together for two months. And as I said before I never really got over her, so what I'm really worried about is that I want to be with her but I don't want to offend my bro and I'm also not sure if she'd even want to get back with me. There's also a little extra pressure on me because my bro and I go to the same school, but not this girl so we don't see her often, but she and I are both part of an organization that happens to have a meeting tomorrow and that'll be the first time I've seen her since they broke up and I'm not sure how to act or basically how to do anything at this point. So I really need some advice on how I should handle things and what I should and shouldn't do.

And Just if you're curious, my bro is clearly not as happy as he was, but he seems to be acting perfectly natural and nothing is really out of the ordinary. We still talk daily about stupid shit, play D&D together and shit like that, and he seems to be doing a fairly good job of just sort of ignoring the whole breakup and going about his daily life. Not sure if that'll have an impact on what I should do but I figured I'd put it out there. Anyway, I'd really appreciate any advice I can get. Thank you!

I'm sorry to hear that. If possible I recommend talking it over with your friend about how you feel about the girl. Unfortunately, this might make your friend upset or angry so it's risk you can choose to take. Assuming that your friend is okay with it in this option, try a chance with her but like you said, she might not feel the same way as before.

I'm sure there's many options that you can take but if anything, please value your friendships. Friends play a major role in one's life such as hanging out and being there for each other during difficult times.

I sincerely wish you good luck and I hope that my advice and the other Dollars will able to assist you!