Hey guys, I have this love problem.

I have been into this guy for around 3 years. He was a senior when I was a freshmen and you know he was this cool senior guy that everyone loves, the crazy party type of dude thats always trolling people and laughing. So I never really bothered telling him my feelings then since I was a loser freshman and he had this psycho girlfriend.

Anyway, 2,5 years passed since then and I saw that they broke up so I texted him on instagram saying hey sup. And we started talking. 2 days later we met and oh my god he changed so much and became so nice, he literally became an angel guys. A break up really affects you. Anyway he told me she tried to stab him etc.

For the past 4 months we have been talking and without a doubt Im in love with him. I loterally love everything he does and says and the more I know him the more I love him. Everything is amazing I swear. We act like a couple he comes over to my house my parents love him his love me and all that. When he comes over I just help with his homework and teach him how to draw and stuff.i first thought he was using me to do his work but its only teaching how to draw and he doesnt care about his grades. (Im a senior this year btw he is in uni)

He acts nice, he gets me gifts, he says nice things, he trusts me, he puts his head on my shoulder when we are watching something, when i make a joke he brofists my leg(lol), we hug etc. We are like a couple almost.

However I feel like... he isnt over his ex and thats why he isnt making a move on me. By that I mean I do something and he backs off and then a few days later he hits on me, i flirt back and he backs off again. It feels like he is scared of something. He doesnt post anything about anything we do on social media. Once we put the same pic and his ex gf realized and she started getting mad saying WTF WHY ANNA(my name) to him and he took the picture down.

After a while the girl asked to be friends, he said okay, then she blocked him(?).

And today she posted this half naked kinda picture and he literally got disgusted and unfollowed her on social media.

I feel like he is into me but he is scared. I dont know. Help? What do I do?

Thank you very much...

You seem like you have become closer and closer. Would you feel comfortable directly asking him about his feelings? I know it sounds cliche but the best way is probably to just be direct and see what happens

>>2
Thanks for the reply and the advice. I honestly dont know. What should I say?


"What do you feel about me?" That would be weird if he just considered me as a close friend... idk. At this poin peope ask me what will you lose? Im scared okay, Im scared to lose his friendship too. I lost many friendships because of these type of feelings, once they find out they act different as if they add no homo to every sentence and it gets annoying.

I would probably feel my heart die if he were to stop talking with me I would cry my eyes out and let me tell you one thing, I havent even cried in my sister's funeral. There is a reason to why I love this kid but it would take years to explain but trust me there is an importanr valid reason. He is just everything. He is literally happiness for me.

Any advice would help a lot just any... I love him and I dont know what to say... thank you

Hey ! As >>2 said , you probably have to ask him how feel about you? In case of rejection , dont get mad,sad or any bad feeling in general. How should you do it? You can ask him diractly (and i recommend that) or it could be like tricky question but i dont recommend that since he may still have problems with his ex. The guy probably scared too from losing you or as you said the breakup changed him and he may be a sensitive person so he feels scared , i can think about many reasons.

I confessed to a girl i like she didn't like me back , i got sad but i acted to cool so quick and we are friends now.if you need help in anything please tell us and we will help you !

Or send me an email on :EasternDollars@gmail.com

Good luck with this ! I hope you achive what you want!

It looks like Psycho Girlfriend #2 to me

>>4 thank you, you are very kind. Im just... worried. Because i feel like he will say yes just because he doesnt want to make me feel sad and i wouldnt want that. Also the other day his ex texted him saying omg are you actually fucking Anna and he replied why do you care? And she blocked him again. Also he puts his arm around me whenever a friend of his try to hit on me. Sigh I just dont know its been 4 months already and im so scared to make a move.

>>5 sadly no, this is the Unfortunate Love Life of Anna. Never seen that tho would you recommend it?

>>6 I heard that alot tbh haha but its still amazing to hear it from new people.

Things like this need strong well and power , and i need you to be strong ! you like this guy , love him , and many great things you told us about him and things you didn`t. He trust you , right ? he make you laugh , right ? and omg many great things about him make me proud of him , if you told how you feel about him you can ask him to be honest with you ,and accept if he have the same feeling about you or he reject you (in case he reject you , you dont have to be worry , why ? because you still can be friends ,and having a great friend like this is a rare thing from what i saw in this life so far) and try not to think to much about please ^^ you can do it have faith in yourself because nothing can stop you execpt your fear who will so just kick its ass and be happy with your life Decisions and remember , regret nothing !

good luck ! i hope you do great with this and with life !

Ehhh... I think you are good to go. If you are too awkward about asking you can just subtly turn the conversation towards dating and then casually ask something like "Actually, could this relationship be called dating?" He will most likely say yes based on what you said. He definitely likes you, but he might have some kind of slight PTSD of dating after a breakup (lol). And feelings dont just disappear for most people, but gradually fade. If you think he completely isnt over the breakup, he probably isnt. But there wont ever be a time where its like "Now he is over it" it will just slowly change, probably for the better. So dont worry about it too much. Also, I think you should ask him to block her, because she will definitely just make things more stressful for him.

He could be a christian. It would explain why he is cautious, and disgusted by his ex's social media post. I, being a christian myself, would likely express the same sort of traits if placed in the same situation as he is in. It's something to consider anyway...

If I'm on your shoes, I'd confess. But that's because that's how I am. "You might lose your chance if you don't confess". That's what I think.

If you do consider confessing your feelings for him, you should first make it clear to him that you don't need an "I love you too" from him. Or that he doesn't need to accept it right now. Simply, you just want him to know that you love him, that's all. He probably has feelings for you, too, but is just really confused right now, or something. Just confess to take it up to the next level or else you'll be just a friend. I could even see they can get back together again. About him taking the photo down, it could be that he doesn't want to upset his ex OR he doesn't want ex to know about you and attack you or something cos she's a psycho and she needs medical care.

Asking him for his feelings, is, maybe a bit, mm, he might be confused still cos the ex still lingers and even contacts him even tho they broke up. Srsly, what did he ever see on that girl lol of course it's just me judging without knowing the girl, but seriously .___.

*UPDATE*

Thanks you all very much for your kind responses and advices. I actually want to talk about a recent conversation between him and our friend in common(she texted him infront of me and it was kinda embarassing);

Friend: So I heard youand Anna were dating? Good choice 10/10 would bang lolol
Him: She is a good friend, I am not dating with anyone currently.
Friend: Oh you should date her
Him: Maybe. I'm not ready for a relationship tbh.
(I nearly killed her when she wrote this=) Friend: Then fuck her idk she is cute
Him: Maybe ^^

So yeah that was the talk and I was blushing and all spitting my coffee choking and all. I understand honestly he still couldnt move on.... sigh. Best thing to do is wait?