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I was told to repost this of what has happened to me (28)

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2 Name: Akako : 2017-01-11 12:15 ID:XAPVd6kM [Del]

This is really rare for me to say but... this is just way too fucked up. I would have thought this is an attention seeking troll if it was posted anywhere else... I cant say this for sure because I obviously don't know you, but I am like 99% sure that this is completely your parents's fault and you did nothing wrong. Honestly, the first thing I wanted to say to you was to run away from home. It depends on you whether you even consider that an option. Also, whats wrong with the authorities for thinking this is within the limits of disciplining?

so... a few questions out of curiosity:
Are you and your family christian?
What are your grades like at school?
You said a you live in a family of six, so i assume you have some siblings. How are they treated by your parents?
Could you link to the program (The Point)? It seems to be a somewhat common name for projects and i dont really know what it is.

3 Name: EasternOrc : 2017-01-11 12:51 ID:8SmilYoS [Del]

To be honest... I don't know what to say to fix or help you with your problem..but f there something i know ! That here you are not alone what so ever ! Everyone here will help you and think with you to find a way to help either by solution's or by emotional support ! YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Please stay strong even when it really hard for you. "When you want something,all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it." Don't lose hope

EasternDollars@gmail.com if you need help or someone to talk with.

4 Name: Akako : 2017-01-11 13:08 ID:XAPVd6kM [Del]

>>3 I am not sure if she can really talk to someone considering she said she can only communicate with people using school PC.

5 Name: Akako : 2017-01-11 13:14 ID:XAPVd6kM [Del]

>>2 an additional thing, did you write this or just reposted it?

6 Name: Mad Hatter Girl : 2017-01-11 14:47 ID:b6CsGWP7 [Del]

To answer your questions:
.Akako:
1) My family believes that they are christians. I on the other hand can say yes I believe but I have questions.
2) I have just recently have returned to public school after 4-6 months of homeschooling (another topic to be discussed later) and so far the school had some technical problems on where I am on lessons. So I have no idea what my grades are right at the moment
3)I do have siblings. I am the eldest out of four girls total. My sisters are somewhat treated differently than me. Yes, they do get in trouble for not cleaning or doing they are told but that's honestly better than what I'm going through.
4)http://thepointebhs.com/ the link for the Pointe.
5) I am indeed on school computers but the bright side is that I have my emails, quotev and some other sites that I could use to communicate. Discord is somehow blocked so its legit impossible for me to talk to the people who are concerned.
6)I did write this and it was on main but I had a comment that said I should repost this in the personal forum. I had added additional information because I ran out of time writing my previous thread on this situation.

EasternOrc:
I know that you haven't asked any questions but I just wanted to say thank you for your comment. I am happy to know that people care about me and my problems even though some (or most) don't fully know me. Your support is enough to make feel like I can believe that I can make it.

7 Name: EasternOrc : 2017-01-11 16:59 ID:LIrLpS+e [Del]

>>6 you can make it , why can't you? I have seen many people who thought they can't find solution for their problem. and guess what ? They were wrong. Because there is one even if it was hard one but its better than nothing ! Don't give up just yet please...

>>4 something is better than nothing .

8 Name: Kro : 2017-01-12 06:14 ID:oS16KZuh [Del]

>>6
Hey Maddie, I just realised you can't access Discord so I'll leave my email in case you would like to talk, as expressed earlier in this thread by EasternOrc you aren't alone and you can talk to us if needed.
kro.dollars@gmail.com

9 Name: Akako : 2017-01-12 07:15 ID:EnKdM+iO [Del]

Just thought I should point out that the person who told the school counselor didnt mean anything bad by it, most people would tell someone if they heard their friend cuts themselves. Judt out of concern because they think it will help. I am not sure if you explained them the situation but even if you did it might be hard to believe.

10 Name: Mad Hatter Girl : 2017-01-13 08:35 ID:b6CsGWP7 [Del]

Thank you Guys so much!

11 Name: V : 2017-01-13 20:29 ID:R9432SNL [Del]

>>10
First of all, I just want to say I'm really sorry to hear your current problem, and I'm sorry someone at your age have to experience this, this is a horrible experience and you're still at the age of puberty, you're already dealing a lot about that and you have to experience this horrid experience nonetheless. I don't really know your problem entirely, but I smell some of the ol' "good parenting" these nutfucks think they are doing.

It's not your fault, you shouldn't beat yourself up or cut yourself just because you thought you were the one in the wrong and needed to discipline yourself. Trust me, hurting yourself won't help anything, except if you're a masochist and from your story, that's highly impossible. (Sorry if that made you feel worse, I was just trying to do a joke.)

However, running away like what Akako-san said in >>2 wouldn't really help except if you have a plan. For example, you ask someone you could still trust or someone reliable who doesn't harbor bad thoughts about you to help find evidence of the shitty things those rodents have done like neglecting you and abusing you. Then, you'll want them to go to the authorities and provide the evidence. Actually, skip that. You're below 18 and 21, so go to child protection. The authorities gets their asses booked with reports like these so often, that they just stopped responding for at least 6 months I think. Child protection agencies, organizations, services, are way better at responding 'cause they actually have a just cause to help underage kids everywhere.

If you don't have anyone to help gather evidence, then I'm sorry, but you'll have to sneak out and go to a child protection organization yourself. Usually, they'll help you gather the evidence needed because they'll believe everything you say.

I'm sorry, but with the conditions you have, I couldn't really recommend other choices. I would say try improving your grades and do good deeds, but things have already gone out of hand. I would recommend "fight fire with fire", do things that seem bad at first but actually do something completely the opposite, but that wouldn't work as your "mother" would jump to the wrong conclusions and think of you even more badly.

Usually, when they say that a kid is a bad seed, they would point out that they had poor upbringing by their parents. I don't know how it is with your family, but the people who think badly of you are complete idiots. They should do a background check on your parents and see if your parents are these "saints" that just "unluckily" had a "bad" kid. None of this is your fault, your parents can just convince people that you're the "bad one" cause they're "adults" and that works with other "adults".

I'm a Christian myself, so all I can say is: stay strong and have faith. I know this a pretty cheesy line, but God has his ways. He will give you a way out, you just need to trust in Him and have faith. He never abandons His children. I'm sorry your parents are "those kinds" of Christian that do these things. Your parents are angry at their problems and unleash it upon you, which is a horrible way as children should've been everything that parents care about, even step-children. Why don't you go to your church (if you have one that is near), and talk your problems out to a minister, reverend, pastor, or any leader/member of a church.

I'm sorry if my second solution is a bit to devoted, but I've heard of a lot of people who had problems like these, gets their situations turned completely the opposite once they have faith. But still, try my first solution if you can and when you have the strength to do so. Remember, no action will go to waste.

Again, I'm sorry to hear your problems. Please keep all of us here updated with your problem. Remember, everyone here is a friend and we will want to help you with your problems. You're not alone, there are people here that want and will help your problems. Somewhere, someone out there, still care about you. So smile. When you think that this is the worst, don't. Have faith, think positive, and you'll go through your days without problem. Remember, everyone who hates you wants to see you downy and depressed. Give them a kick by still staying positive and happy and give them a big smile. That'll make them grit their teeth at the least. Again, stay positive, bad things wouldn't go unpunished.

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13 Name: HoneyBunny : 2017-01-14 08:14 ID:XnL8MZO7 [Del]

Nice going, V, that's a good idea. Maddie, you can do this! I believe in you

14 Name: Vhnie !vHNIeYDFX6 : 2017-01-14 20:03 ID:NCCiq0sr [Del]

First of all, what is it that you did to have them treat you like that? Is it because you cut yourself? Or did you do something before that happened? You say you're sorry because of the things that you've done. What are the things you've done? Or is it that you're just believing your family's words telling you that you've actually done something wrong.

I feel you about the money part. Not that my family accused me of stealing but they do took our savings. And they don't even give us allowance, our aunts pay for our education. Once I talked to them about it, they got angry, and then I got disowned for like, one month and all this time I was like "chill 8)" and I had to move to my grandma's who accepted me kindly.

Just like what Akako said, I wanted to suggest that you get away from your family cos they're being such a letdown and that's not even healthy for you. I'm not telling you to run away and be independent wholly. If you have other relatives that understands your situation, or friends, that would help you, then stay with them for a while, and not some people who would return you back to your family, like you're some dog who got lost and they think they need to get you back to your owner.

15 Name: cooldud3 : 2017-01-14 21:24 ID:ySLaPoCj [Del]

I hope things get better for you, Maddie. If you wana talk at all through email, my email is cooldud3.dollars@gmail.com

16 Name: Mad Hatter Girl : 2017-01-17 08:44 ID:b6CsGWP7 [Del]

Update:
I had a three day weekend and I was told that I was grounded, but they allowed me to watch movies and have "family time" with them. But, Monday everything went to hell.
Monday morning I got up and noticed that I lost my voice and everytime that I breathed I was wheezing or sighing. It was 5 am and my parents were already awake and already they want me to do stuff. I sighed and they assumed I was throwing a fit. I was told to deep clean the kitchen. From taking everything from cabinets, cleaning inside and out, and putting them back to scrubbing the walls to basically making my kitchen shine and sparkle. I worked on that kitchen for 12 hours nonstop and I was told that I half-ass cleaned it. I had to wake up at 5 this morning and finished every other little detail.

Last night, my mom and step-dad told me that they had officially given up on me. They were asking questions such as: "Why do I feel like I am being abused?" "Have they done anything to make me feel like I'm nothing?" and more but I can't remember the rest of the questions from the top of my head. Of course I stayed silent because with them staring at me and making me feel like I'm a lonely bug I didn't have the tongue to tell them how I felt. I was scared.
To get me to talk my mom grabbed her dagger and put the blade to her own wrist saying she will cut herself if I don't tell what's on my mind.
I was terrified. After a little while, she put the blade back and both her and Ronnie (step- dad) decided to tell me that I pretend. I'm a fake. That I'm the one emotionally abusing them because I disrespect them every day in every way possible and that they can call DHS (Department of Human Services) on me and have me removed.

I was told that I am to join the Army reserves because I needed structure and real - world experience. That I needed to be better than what I am now.

I made my mom cry because of what I've been doing to them and I believe them. I believe every little thing they told me and I can't really do anything to stop it.



To answer your questions:
Vhnie:
I've been the "troubled" child since I was 12 along with these types of arguments. But none had really gone out of hand like this. I use to steal and be a delinquent. Of course, I eventually stopped and ended up changing to be a better person.
My parents don't understand my logic when I told them the reason for hurting myself and told me that I was just want to be like my friends and want attention.
As much as I would love to leave, I can't. I have three younger sisters to take care of and I refuse to let them be treated as they are treating me. I don't want them to make the same mistakes as I have.
My grandfather wants me to stay with him, but he believes that if he does actually let me in, my mom would tell him to stay away from my sisters. I don't want that.



Thank you guys for the advice and the support. It is really comforting to know that there are people that actually care about me.

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18 Name: Anna : 2017-01-17 14:09 ID:NvkhWSB9 [Del]

Hey love,

I went through the same thing with my step mothers house and all they made me clean their shit. Then one day I said;

No.

Say no. If they beat you up, throw a bible at them and say SHOW ME WHERE IT IS JUSTIFIED TO BEAT YOUR KID UP, SMOKE WEED, DRINK AND WASTE MONEY.

Call a service. Honestly I dont know the services in where you live but in my country when your parents are ass and treating you like shit you call that number. Research that.

Say you dont cut yourself anymore. If watser doesnt work with fire attack them with fire too and dicipline them. Look up self defence etc.

Put sleeping pills in their coffees or so so they sleep early.

Go home alone. Say what are you gonna do about it? I just cut myself, its me. Do you think i did it to OH SHATTER YOUR PRECIOUS TRUST or because I hate living with pieces of shit like you?

Pull up your PUBERTY RAGE card. Get angry, curse, make your mom do the work or your dad or whatever. Say its your responsibility and give them a middle finger. No one can force you to do something you dont want to.

Say you are going out with friends say when and where and dont lie about this, keep this promise. Dont go to guys houses or whatever be where you said ou would be take pictures as proof and return home. Say maybe its a study session but gtfo from that house.

Sorry if i sound harsh, its just this topic is very annoying for me since i know how you feel and it feels like im talking with my past self and all. Take my advice love, stand up for yourself.

Take care, watch out.

19 Name: Kaduka : 2017-01-17 14:44 ID:CGtVx/k5 [Del]

Drugging them isn't really the best answer, But you need to find a person who can take care of them because what they are doing is taking advantage and over reacting because they feel the need to be dickheads, I do agree that they should be put in their place instead of abusing you emotionally. I highly recommend talking to someone who has the power to either put you somewhere safe away from them or to make them straighten up their act.

20 Name: Goblinsareeverywhere!!XI8GEi6V : 2017-01-19 09:36 ID:4NlID9p5 [Del]

Hey kiddo, if you want a shoulder to lean on, I know where you're coming from to some degree. If you want, you can message me at rainbow6rings@gmail.com, just make sure to tell me your name from one here. I look forward to talking to you

21 Name: Mad Hatter Girl : 2017-01-19 11:41 ID:b6CsGWP7 [Del]

Thank you guys for the tips and stuff...
I'll update you guys as soon as something happens.

And Today is my Birthday and I hope that I will make it through this damn day without having issues.

22 Name: Akako : 2017-01-19 12:05 ID:XAPVd6kM [Del]

How much have you actually tried doing about it? Like, even before you posted here.

23 Name: HoneyBunny : 2017-01-19 13:00 ID:XnL8MZO7 [Del]

❤️ Happy birthday

24 Name: GloomsChair : 2017-01-19 20:08 ID:q4+mX0LB [Del]

Happy Birthday Mad Hatter Girl!

I wish I saw this post sooner so that I could talk to you and give you some advice.

I'm so sorry for all the things they're putting you through; somebody your age shouldn't need to tolerate such an injustice. I honestly am unsure what you can do in your situation, it's going to be a whole 365 days until you are an actual respected adult, and I'm unsure of how you'll be able to tolerate all of this nonsense.

I personally would recommend trying to write your thoughts down on paper, in a letter format and handing it to your parents. Written explanation would be beneficial because your parents can't interrupt or verbally abuse you. You could leave the room when they read it or perhaps just slip it in your mother's purse before heading off to school. Try to maintain a calm yet submitting tone throughout the letter so as to not anger your parent's easily sparked rage. If you don't want to put in all the effort that goes behind writing a single letter, or if you don't like the idea, I would definitely still recommend writing your thoughts on paper, as it was scientifically proven to be very therapeutic.

Another solution would be going to a trusted or favorite teacher. If you talk to your guidance counselor, they may try to take action or consult your parents without informing you. You wouldn't even need to tell the teacher that it was your problem, you could just say that you were writing a story in which all this happens and that you were undergoing a writer's block. (This would work especially well with your literature/English teacher) They would be likely to believe you and offer help.

If you're uncomfortable or nervous about going to a specific person for help, you could use the miraculous world wide web at your disposal. I am aware that several sites are blocked with Light Speed Systems, however there are still several sites that will be up and running, especially on topics like this. At your age, I'm sure you probably can find emails and I can even teach you a way to sign onto your own email on your school account without the school knowing. You can contact me about that at gloomschair.dollars@gmail.com if your interested and want further details.

I'm so sorry for all the shit that your horrific parents are dragging you through, and if you ever just want to talk about something with a fellow suicude-survivor; I'm here for you. I'm positive that everybody else in the Dollars wants to help you and we all harbor a newfound hatred for you horrendous parents.

25 Name: EasternOrc !K9eVpCOYLY : 2017-01-20 07:06 ID:j/SDwSX6 [Del]

Happy birthday ! I hope you get better soon ,and you need to know everyone here to help you and support you so please stay strong !

26 Name: Akako : 2017-01-20 16:27 ID:XAPVd6kM [Del]

What >>24 said about the letter is the best "safe" thing you can do. It mostly likely wont work, but it has the highest chance of working out of the options that dont really involve any risks.

27 Name: BlueShadowz : 2017-01-21 14:19 ID:JtjoJdBp [Del]

I'm really sorry about what you're going through, but I hope that with all the great advice on here you will be able to get through it.

In my experience, with these types of situations the best thing to do is stand up to the people who are mistreating/misunderstanding you, which would be your parents, and try your very best to explain how you feel. Although it is unlikely that they will understand, it's worth trying.

If things have got to this point just sitting around and waiting for something to change isn't an option, and since at this point your parents don't seem like they'd listen to you no matter what you do, you should try contacting a service, like >>18 said. There are organisations that are made to help people like you, one in my country is called Childline, they are experienced with these things and will know what you should do. If you don't have a phone it might be hard to contact some of them, but to me it seems like the best thing you can do right now.

Also, I know I'm late, but happy birthday! Hopefully it went OK.

28 Name: Mad Hatter Girl : 2017-12-08 10:11 ID:5RPE3T5g [Del]

Memories from this have given me so much at the moment.

It has almost been an entire year since I last posted this and I feel so much. A lot has happened after this post and I cannot tell the story quite yet.

I have changed my name, made a new life, and turning 18 in just a month. Thank you guys for your comments and support.