This one goes out to anyone who's life is rough right now, for a while I was right there with you and here's my story. I tend to ramble so I hope I don't get off on too many pointless details

To start off with, 2 years ago I got myself into an abusive relationship to put it bluntly. It was a dark point in my life and I was being held back from doing just about anything I wanted to or even seeing anybody that I wanted to see. The thing about abusive relationships is you never know what's going on until it's all pretty much over. That's how it is for the lucky people. The unlucky ones never even figure it out. Oh, and I'm talking emotional and psychological abuse here, not physical abuse.

See this girl I was with was making every bad thing on this planet seem like I was the cause, and she knew how to manipulate me so well that I believed it all. She would get mad at the dumbest stuff "You haven't texted me back in 10 minutes!" "On my way home I forgot to go to the bank because YOU never reminded me!" That sort of stuff (ps I was never even asked to reminder her to go to the bank, let alone know she was planning on going in the first place.)

All of this made me depressed. See the thing about depression is it's not like you feel sad or sorry for yourself, you feel sorry for the world that you're in it and making it worse. Aside from a very dull feeling of bordom and lack of energy, you pretty much just feel nothing. Like absolutely nothing. "Hey long time no see we missed hanging out with you!" Nothing. "You're so funny, you could be a comedian!" Nothing. "Turns out your uncle has Prostate Cancer...." absolutely nothing. It sucks. You know it sucks when you have it, but the more you feel guilty about how you don't feel anything, the more it affects you and the less you feel. This is where I was at, starting about a year and a half ago and ending around 6 months ago

I finally broke up with the girl who was causing me to feel like this and who was making me feel weak and worthless. The day we broke up I'll always remember how I looked to my mom after cry for a while and saying "I know you're supposed to feel sad about break ups but...I'm so happy now" and she knew exactly what I meant because she was there to see it all.

If you are depressed like I was please listen. I ask all of you to find what's causing you to feel depressed. If you're like me, you already know what it is but might just be denying it because you're being controlled by it. If you identify that thing the next thing to do is get family or friends or just anyone who you feel comfortable telling your problems to and asking for their advice. For me I found solice in people who at the time were almost total strangers, members of a guild I joined on an MMORPG.

Get the help you need and try to get rid of that thing that's eating at you, it doesn't matter how you do it just as long as the pain is gone. It's hard when you're depressed but text people, go out and have fun, meet someone on line or on tinder, be transparent and tell them what you're going through and if they're cool with chilling with you then that's cool, but if not then whatever that's fine too. Be exactly who you are and be honest about your personality, don't hide traits for some people and then amplify them for the next.

There's only one you, you are completely unique and interesting. Every time you make somebody smile or laugh, no one else in the world can do it the exact same way you do. I'm happy now, my life has never been better than it is now and I have one final bit of advice along with what I've already given and it's by far the cheesiest of it all.

Be appreciative. Appreciate everything. I realized one day that being "blessed" or "fortunate" or "having a good life" isn't something that's distributed by any gods or any fate or chance at all. It's not something that's decided for us, it's simply a mindset. If you appreciate what people you have who make you smile. Appreciate weather being 72 degrees sunny over it being 65 rainy. Appreciate retry much everything you have and all that you can see. Because, after all, the world isn't as bad of a place as you may think :)

Wow, congratulations for getting out of that relationship. And thanks for that post, it had some really good advice in there. I'm right now working to improve my mindset a lot, and it's great to know you already have.

It's reassuring to know that you were able to recover. I was on the similar boat before and i just recovered not even a year ago. I still have doubts, fear, and anxiety mostly eats me up, but knowing that people who have the similar situation as mine is doing great and living life as it is supposed to, then I feel reassured that I didn't convinced myself that I became okay, but I really got out of those dark days; and that the sun will always shine. (By the way, thanks for the help on face time. I wasn't able to change the e-mail address to my phone number, but I found out that my phone is just kind of a shit. XD)

hey Asahina! don't get me wrong i still have anxiety with certain social things from my experience, but for the most part I try to focus on the fact that the person who would judge me for my faults is now gone, and the people i talk to now dont care about my awkwardness/shyness (with what there is left). It's still a struggle, but focusing on the positives helps a ton! :)

And i wish I knew how to fix that problem you're having D: I'm usually decent with tech but this one stumped me :T