>>2 Thank you Ringtone for responding.
I know that she sees her mistakes as huge, she used to talk about she not being ready for a relationship because of her own imperfections. She is a perfectionist so all the small things bothered her. I don't care about her imperfections even if I laughed about them.
I know I have to respect her choice. Ringtone I can't say that I do and it is not because I am being evil or petty. The choice has hurt me for months. I didn't start a relationship with her and maintained it for all that time because I was that insecure ,she had a charm that I truly saw. Even when she made mistakes which she made many. I never thought of breaking up because we are human, right?
No matter who we date we will find flaws worth of breaking up for. You and me and the whole Dollars just suck because we are people and our flaws are huge. Being loving through it all its hard and it takes practice, it takes to be humble and it takes authentic love.
I find it nice the the Dollars provided a service were I can talk to someone like you who is on the other side of this situation. It's like I'm talking to the idea of her.
I know it sounds weird but these inverted roles gives me a sense of talking to someone who not only can give me insight but also practice. It feels like a conversation that I need. Since me and Ash are not talking anymore. So thank you for your response.
We are adults, she graduated, I still have a year left in College. We are the same age.
Ringtone, the whole dependent thing is not like a person being weak. Dependency is what makes a relationship a relationship. You depend on someone you can count on them. You do know how people talk about two people becoming one. Is not that one has to drag the other like a dog on a leash but it means that both parties are encouraging each other even in though moments.
Wouldn't you love someone to still be kind to you and love you and be present even when you screw up the worst you ever been? Maybe even love you when you are facing loss and depression beyond you ever faced.
It doesn't mean weakness to depend on someone it takes faith to depend on someone because it means crossing a line you would never do.
Ringtone, the thing that affects me is that for me I do only have eyes for her. I knew her so well that I would guess what she thought and I would be right. To this day I still think what she would think. I love her and even though she keeps space because she is insecure and is not willing to face mistakes. Her mistakes. I know this and yet I am willing to love because when I fail unconditional love makes life worth a thing.
I'm a computer programmer and the last thing I want is for input output response from people. Input bad output bad. Human beings are not computers because they have consciousness of value which computers don't. I can't treat someone I love like a computer. I have to hope for better.