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My friend is being bullied (7)

1 Name: Sakichi : 2016-12-15 17:54 ID:jmCzFwaI [Del]

Okay, Sakichi here and I need the dollars's help.
I have a friend named R. We're both 15 and from the same class. We know each other since kindergarten and we have been in the same secondary school for 3 years now. R is being bullied....by the whole class actually. It started 3 years ago but now it keeps getting worse. Today in class, a guy (N) made fun of R and everyone started to laugh. R had tears in her eyes and she couldn't do anything. You see, R never stands up for herself. She told me she's scared of doing it.
I was angry, so I stood up and yelled at N. I told him that making fun of someone is not the way you make people laugh.
Then all the boys started saying ''no, it was funny'' and stuff. Then A, a guy In my class, got mad at me for yelling at N. A and I started to fight and yelling at each other and he kept insulting some friends of mine. I then went home crying because I felt so weak. I feel like I wasn't able to do anything for R, that nothing was gonna change.

I texted my friend M who told me that we had to do something.
She suggested to talk with a teacher, but we weren't sure about it. A detention or suspension is not going to stop these bullies. M said that she will talk with the people in my class and that she'll try her best. I then told her ''OKay, but if they keep bullying R, I will not hesitate to talk with a teacher about that''. I then texted R and told her not to care about what everyone says about her. I told her that I love her a lot and that I'll always be there for her if she needs to talk about anything. She then said that there are a lot of stuff she wants to tell me but she isn't prepared yet and still hasn't found the confidence to do it. She also told me that when everyone made fun of her, she wished she wasn't alive. That made me worry about her and I tried my best to make her feel better but I know that this won't help.

I'm scared for her. I want to help, but how can I do this?
I am not strong, I'm weak...but I will stand up for my friends. Dollars, I need your help.

2 Name: Akako : 2016-12-15 20:12 ID:XAPVd6kM [Del]

Honestly, your attitude is pretty cool.
Also, even tho its pretty shitty, you cant really do much about it if a large group of people goes against you because they feel the confirmation of the other people... The best I can think of is give her all the emotional support you can. Or somehow make her stand up for herself. Suggesting the teacher to play some kind of document or something about bullying might also help. Why is she being bullied anyway?

3 Name: Sakichi : 2016-12-15 20:27 ID:jmCzFwaI [Del]

>>2 I don't know why she's being bullied. She's a really kind person who always tries her best to help people. She's kinda easy to manipulate. Last year, a lot of people who bullied her obliged her to do their homework. She told me that she didn't want to do them, but she was scared to say No.
Sometimes, they laugh at her when she says a wrong answer in class and I think she's an easy target for them because she's scared of standing up for herself.

4 Name: Yukito : 2016-12-15 21:00 ID:HraVxLIF [Del]

Hello Sakichi, this year my friend went through the exact situation and he was exactly like your friend: Gentle and easy to manipulate.
What I did was: I talked to several people about the bullying they did with E. on the cell phone and saved the conversations when people spoke the names of those who bullied E. and then I got the number of the 'leader' People who bullied the E. and said: '' Hello G., i wanted to ask you to stop bullying the E. because he did nothing wrong for you. I have proof. This is just a warning, I don't want to have problems and I know you don't either. '' I suggest you don't send a message to the 'leader', just go to the coordination of the school and show the evidence, ask to call the parents Of bullies in school.
This worked out for me, you should try. I hope everything goes well, please let us know about your case. <3

5 Name: Ryonosuke!FzAyW.Rdbg : 2016-12-16 16:21 ID:MumKzkpQ [Del]

>>4 first of all, your idea is amazing. But it sounds a little bit like blackmail. I approve if you are ready to risk anything for your friend.

6 Name: Yukito : 2016-12-16 18:33 ID:lIrtryAb [Del]

Oh, yes, yes, it was blackmail. I'm a little wicked, so I didn't worry about it that much.
As I suggested Sakichi didn't send a message to the idiots leader, he'd better go to the coordination of the school with the evidence and ask for some action to be taken on the case. It is much safer, and Sakichi has the right to ask the school coordinator to not tell that he was told of the bullys.

7 Name: Sakichi : 2016-12-18 17:55 ID:Atavg/p+ [Del]

My friend M suggested to talk with the bullies. We will see them on monday and we only have 3 days left together until winter break. If they keep doing this to R, I will talk with a teacher that I can trust. I'm not sure it's going to go well when we'll talk with them because I get mad pretty fast and we might end up fighting or yelling at each other... but I'll try my best!