I got a girlfriend. We love each other a lot. She was my first but I wasn't her first. She had only one guy before me and that was a suckass. It hurts me a lot that she gave up her virginity to such a douchebag who didn't treat her well. It was my dream to lose my virginity together with the one I love. That dream is never coming true ever.
This causes me grief and sorrow. I don't think about it a lot but these thoughts come back often. Advice how to make myself feel bad about this?

Hey man, sorry to hear about this. To be honest, there isn't much you can do. I think the best thing you can do at this point is talk to her about it, and try to work through it together. Love is hard, and a lot of work. Most of the time, you can't get that ideal that you dream of. It hurts, I know. Trust me, I've been there. But you have to keep moving forward. If you truly love her, you'll be able to work through it, I'm sure of it.

Thanks Remus. I think you're right. I'll do that.