Quick question do you guys think its wrong to like two people in a romantic way at the same time?

Thanks to William of Occam (it's a long story) we could say that it's up to you entirely. What's right for you is right for you. On the other hand, if you believe that there are universals, we would probably agree that you need to choose one girl and stick to her. Just be good friends with the other. It isn't fair to the one you choose to be cheated on.

My girlfriend is in this situation. We have to hide our relationship because she had a boyfriend before she even met me. Remember if you pick one then hide the other, the other will hate it. I have to pretend that me and her are 'just friends' when we are not. I understand that it is tearing her apart, that is why I'm just waiting for her decision. I would say that if you truly only love one of them, choose them, if you love them both, pick the second one because that means you didn't love the first one enough to not fall in love with another.

Sure. In my opinion polygamy is fine so long as everyone understands the situation and is okay with it. Also what >>3 is describing sounds like a really toxic relationship. Tbh I'd confront it head on because the damage done from that would be far less severe then what'd she'd get in the long haul.

Sorry fam, but your dreams of a harem coming true are slim. Sure you can like or love them both but they are the ones who will determine if it is okay, plus they will probably always ask you who you love more.

Thanks for the advice guys, hearing all of your guys' opinion changed my perspective on things :)

Monogamy only cultures were pretty rare before christianity. Unfortunately, christianity's influence on our culture is strong, so the answer is... It depends kn you. Most people will find it at least weird and a lot of them will think it's wrong. But whether you care about that, that's up to you. IMO it's ok as long as all the parties involved think it's ok.

Love both untill one gets close to you. Keep options open becouse one will likely not like you that way. But never date 2 people.

No, it's not wrong. Not at all. However, if a relationship will happen, you need to either pick one or see if both are okay with a polygamous relationship. It's definitely not wrong and I think it's even normal to happen. You just have to always consider the feelings of everyone involved.

Also, >>8
"never date 2 people" UNLESS consent is given by those two people for you to date both. It can work out. There are plenty of successful polygamous relationships. Just gotta be honest and upfront about it. Don't try to secretly date both. That's a huge no-no.

This is like one big relativism thread. xD

No it's not wrong I have a friend going through the same thing as you.

I think it's totally fine for you to like more than one person. If you're looking to pursue a relationship with both of them, think about how feel about them. You can love people in different ways, and you may find that polyamory isn't the right thing for your situation. Think about how you would like your relationship with each person (or both of them) to evolve. After you've sorted out your emotions and know for sure what you want, talk to them about it. You may find that you like one of them better as a friend, or maybe you have hopes of all three of you being together, or perhaps you want to date them separately. I don't know what you want, but I do know that before you go professing your love, it's always best to slow down and think. (I speak from polyamorous experience.) Don't get ahead of yourself; slow down and honestly THINK. Think more than you think you need to. And then take action. But choose your words carefully.

P.S. Jealousy is a real thing. Don't ignore it. Address it head-on. And then conquer it.

>>9 I agree with you. I have an ex I still like but he went his separate way with me but apologies. In the end even if he did like me I wouldn't go out with him and I'm currently with my bf but he made it clear so far he knows I'm the most important person to him. So my ex he acts like we never dated but I'm glad he still has this tender side to him to show how much he cared for me too b/c of his regrets. I told my bf at least though if I were to not be dating him anymore me and him something can happen but I'm as loyal and honest. I told my bf he can do the same too it's just fair anyways. So I guess most guys like when someone freely tells them bc in a way you're still promising even if they know your person opinion and feelings. If a person can't respect that I guess they still have this idea to fight for you even after not being with you. Sometimes ppl make no sense with that, so usually I assume they still want you but be a annoying anyways with this jelly crappa.

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Yes it's wrong, God said you can only love one person, love which is in a romantic way of course, better just choose one and befriend the other don't want to get to any more trouble do you

>>15 Good thing OP asked us and not god!

>>15 I didnt know God could speak, can the tooth fairy speak to us too? I think it would be really interesting to hear what it has to say about love.

I dont think it is wrong to like more than one person, but you should only date one person at a time and whilst dating that person, do not speak romantically with the other. It would only make the person you are dating feel like they arent a satisfying partner and that you are cheating on them.

>>15 You're making the rest of us theists look bad.

/Sage

>>16>>17>>18 it's in the bible, you can't love two people
Your saying it's alright to love two people in a romantic way we're you want to have sex and a family with those two people is alright. She says if it's alright to love to people I a romantic way and some of you say that love the other one and befriend the other one when she is clearly not talking about the love of friends and when I say this is friendship not that kind of love your probably thinking about

>>19 Please explain how David was allowed to have concubines but was still called 'A man after God's own heart'. This is a relativist thread (if you don't understand moral relativism then please go read about it; you can also blame your Christian friend William of Occam). You can't really tell people that they're wrong using evidence they don't hold to be true.

>>19 Please don't use religion as a justification. Everyone on this site follows their own religious path (or lack thereof) and will not always agree with your beliefs.

If you don't agree with polygamy because "the Bible says so," that's fine. But don't assume that OP (or anyone else who replied to you, for that matter) also believes in the Bible.