Alright, so I am in love with this girl who has been my best friend for three years, and last year, she reciprocated the feeling. Now that would not be a problem but a little while after my depression got worse and she had to cut ties off with me. In June she gave me a letter saying how she would like to talk to me again. I had and still have been going to counselling during this time. I agreed to her letter and since we have been talking. Recently however, she made it clear that she, in her current state of mind, is incapable of trying to be an item again because she is still scared from our falling out. I understand this wholeheartedly and I have accepted that my chance with her is slowly ending. I learned yesterday from her that she has her eyes on a guy at our school and that she might be attracted to him. I fear that this might be the final nail in the coffin for my love to her. She was told by him a few months ago, during the aftermath of our falling out, that he kinda was interested in her. So, do I commit an act of selfless social suicide and tell him to talk to her, which potentially could end any chance for me to be with her, do I let them figure it out on their and accept whatever outcome comes from that or... I don't know what to do... Dollars, mind helping me out here?

I think that finding someone else is best. If she doesnt feel that she can handle a relationship with you then try to move on. If she couldnt stay by your side when you were at a low point in your life, then she's not worth having a relationship with. Let the two figure things out on their own, you're responsible for your own happiness, so work towards achieving that.

I really would love to tell you to keep trying, but this isn't about you. It's about her. Like >>2 said, she wasn't by your side for your worst, so why should she deserve to be with you during your best? This is going to sound ridiculous, but hear me out. It's almost like being a sports fan. It's very easy to cheer for a team when they are winning, becoming champions, etc. But it takes a TRUE fan to cheer for a team when they lose, are on a losing streak, etc. To be frank, she wasn't cheering for you on your losing streak, and instead started cheering for another team. I'm sorry if I'm sounding harsh, but that is what I think of the situation. I've been in love with a few girls that just brushed me off as well. It sucks. And even though it's hard, try to find someone else. Don't cut all ties with her, but you need someone who will support you through the best and worst of times. Hope this helps!

Was it the depression that caused her to cut off ties or something else all together. It is certainly possible if you don't know for sure, that she had another reason for doing it. I think either way however, telling him to talk to her will be your best bet. If you really do love her, this will be a way to tell her, and if they will end up together sooner or later anyway, wouldn't it be better to be the one to help it along? If something goes wrong between them, she may remember your act of selflessness and know she can count on you to help, which may turn into a pry-bar on your coffin you mentioned. I don't know how much this will help if at all, but hopefully it turns out well for you!

There a lot of girls better than her, have you thought how your parents and everyone else you know would feel if you died? And all just because of a girl. Find another one and move on.

It great that you tried to end this problem but you just don't know how so I could say it don't have to act in a social suicide you can still socialize with her but as a friend and whatever she may choose respect. If you really want to really still be connected with her be a friend, if not a boyfriend, you can't just end this like this be in good terms with her so that you won't regret anything in your life

If you care for her, fight for her for the very end. Do not let it define you as coward but be brave.

Do what your heart wants just say what you wanna say even if it is something lame or dumb thats ok i have done it even if i am a girl i did this with i guy i once new

Sad to say but if she is moving on so should you. You know what they say "there are more fish in the sea".

"If you don't fight for something you love, don't bother crying when it is gone" meaning you should fight for her, and if she has feelings for another guy then try every day to keep her, they aren't married so it's not like it's wrong to fight for her either, you could have a chance with her if you man up and try