I have this problem ever since, I can't look a girl's eyes whenever we're conversing or doing some other stuff. I don't know why it's just that I feel so insecure. My eyes are quite scary, and my friends told me to not look down (as I always look down when I'm walking.) because when I look back up with my eyes it looks like I am intimidating a person and might cause some trouble if I somehow did this with a bunch of gangs. And may be I thought that if I look through a girls eyes she would be scared. I end up looking down again, and worst thing is that when I do that it seems like I'm looking at someones breasts.

It's like a insctinctive action I couldn't break away, Is there any solution to my problem?

You know there was an anime where people get scared of the protagonist because of his eyes colored hair which is naturally inherited, he looked like a delinquent, the anime was TigerXDragon and another anime with the same case I Don't Have Many Friends. But in all this anime the main character just accepted it without any means of hiding it and eventually in being helpful and expressing their emotions people started getting near them. So what I'm saying is that you accept that your eyes are scary and look people eye to eye, they would be intimidated but if try being helpful,cheerful, and expressive so they would know the real you

I do the same thing. I just unconsciously don't look people in the eye if I don't feel totally comfortable with them. Once someone thought that I was always angry because I didn't look directly at them much, or talk or smile that often. When she told me that I remember telling myself "loosen up, loosen up, loosen up," and then after I started being more expressive & emotive we became pretty good friends.

So like >>2 said, I think it's a good idea to begin making eye contact again. First impressions can be changed, so don't worry. If your words and body language are friendly then that can help. It helped me to "loosen up" because I stopped overthinking about whether they like me or not, whether they're freaked out by me, or anything else like that. Try to be yourself, and if you don't know who that is yet then act naturally until you do know.

I hope this was any help!

>>2 and >>3 have the gist of it.
1- Recognize the fact that the human brain is amazingly flexible and that it is totally possible for you unlearn the habit and solve this issue (have confidence: it also helps remove awkwardness).

2- Acknowledge that the form of your eyes are inevitable (genetics) and that visuals won't matter in a conversation if you give a good impression with the rest of your body language and words.

3- Recognize the moment you are looking down. Remind yourself you are speaking to someone and that someone would like you to pay attention to what they are saying and doing (and them).

4- If you look away, steadily refocus on the interlocutor (hand ->face -> eyes). You don't need to smile if you are not the smiling type of person, but avoid frowning.

The human brain would need around a month or so of conscious effort to learn these steps and turn them into a habit. After a few more moments of exposure, your body should instinctively follow through.

I have been told on multiple occasions that I have murder in my my eyes. people seem to avoid too much eye contact with me and I don't blink when I a listening or talking to to some one. for some reason It makes people uneasy. of course I am also with a chemical imbalance that pretty much forces happiness on me whether I want it or not. That same imbalance also is slowly killing my pain receptors off giving me partial congenital anesthesia, witch might be why I don't feel the need to blink quite so much. so maybe your thing is normal or maybe just a bit a shyness. I say embrace the dangerous look in your eyes! if it is always there it is apart of your unique character , it makes you special!

i do not look into other peoples eyes either I feel I am not worthy of them but that's just me

>> 5 how can you always be happy doesn't it dive you insaine

If looking down is your problem, try looking at the noise or the face in general of a person at first to make yourself less intimidated.

I hear that women like confidence. Try not to think too much when conversing (although, lack of thought has, in the past, worked to my disadvantage...). A good idea is to look through the other person. Look at something behind their head, even though their head is in the way. Just look straight ahead, focusing 10 yards behind the person that you converse with. It may be hard to do, but it has helped me countless times in the past.

Second advice: look to the side of the person that you converse with. Or, you can relax your focus, and attempt to see everything in your peripheral vision.

Although, that may be harder.

One way is to think of it as a fight - a staring contest. I found that a good way to practice is when you're in public transport, try to look in strangers eyes, and when you make contact try to win the staring contest (:

I was told when I was a kid that if I'm talking to someone I should look at them in the eye, that's to show the other person that you are listening and understanding what they have to say. but I guess if you think you intimidate people because of that, then you should ask them and see what they think

I FEEL YOU I CANT LOOK INTO A BOYS EYE'S

I used to have the same problem! I think it's an exposure thing...maybe you don't have many female friends/acquaintances?

>>1 It'll only be a matter of time for you to be able to look into a girl's eyes more easily. For now if you don't wanna look down, look to the sides or if you still wanna look down...do it while scratching the back of your head.

- scratch back of head
- rub back of ear
- rub your eyelids from underneath
- cross your arms
etc etc, basically distract your conscious from actually looking directly at her and more towards what you're doing.

But most importantly I must say, that confidence arises when you look at someone in the eye, not intimidation. Through your gaze, you are showing people you are confident in who you are, and you're also helping someone else to gain their confidence as well, trust me on this one.

Yes, I have the same problem. I try not to look people in the eye because I have been told that I have murder in my eyes. Here's something that I have learned- you don't need to look into their eyes the whole time. Just do it enough so that they know that you're listening when they're talking. Also you can look at them to accentuate a something you're saying, etc.

I have the same problem, but it's probably because of where I came from, as not looking in a persons eyes means many things (just no buono)
But you shouldn't worry about the problem too much. Maybe instead of looking down, look around?