Hi, this may be rather long but I'm here to tell my feelings which I've been holding in for awhile anonymously and I'm asking for help. To start off I had a boyfriend who was my world. For 6 months i spent all of my time, money, and love on him. He was sorta antisocial and had a small group of friends which we hung out with. However he was always jealous and unaccepting of my friends, so I eventually just ended up spending all my time with him an none on them to the point where I lost all of them. He hated when I went out and wanted me all to himself. How were I was no better since i was known to be aggressive and a little to harsh on him which I tried my best to apologize for later. But we were happy other then that. Until his parents who are way to overprotective got in on his business hated me without actually knowing me and caused us to split. While we were breaking up I was on the verge of tears and he has no emotion which totally broke my heart and after that he even started to like a different girl almost instantly. Which left me totally friendless and broken hearted not just on any day... my birthday. When I tried to talk to him he acted like he didn't know me and then became bipolar towards me saying he loves me then hated me. After that I broke. I cried in front of all of our friends at lunch one day and it caught everyone's attention. Before I knew it I was telling them what happened and his friends became mine and I even gained new friends. Only it was causing a complete hatred towards him and he started to lose all of his friends. When I realized that I became someone I never wanted to and me and him completely hate each other now too. This all sounds like a mess that happened in 2 days but in reality it's been 6 months... 2 months ago I wanted this war between us to end so I decided to talk to him only for him to bring up the past. He called me an awful person and left me feeling like I just wanted to die. We both have done things extremely wrong to each other... yet for some reason I'm still hung up on him. I missed the time when's we were both happy because I was at my best. Now I've never been so heartbroken for so long it's even affecting my school life, my mood, and my ability to move on. People tell me to just forget it and that it's over. But everyday I see him and everyday we are constantly fighting back and forth. No matter how hard I try to move on I just can't. I even tried dating new boys and I feel nothing for them. All I feel is heartbroken on a boy who hates me since the begging of the year. What do I do?

Well, I'm a dude, so my advice may not be the best, but I figure it can't be too bad.

If I were you, I'd be done with him and never look back. Find somebody who appreciates you. Every time you see him, go the other way. Perhaps he needs to learn that if he treats people this way, he should expect to receive the same treatment.

A final word of advice: Christians are generally good people to hang out with, especially when you are going through hard times like this. This is from personal experience.

Hope everything turns out good.

I say you let it go and let God handle it not a lot of people believe in him but trust me he is real and he will hold you up when you're down. I suggest you block him on everything you have and lose every kind of contact you have on him the less you talk to him and think about him you'll forget I'm telling you this because I too had a person that I loved and lost but that's the whole role of life you love and you lose but that's OK because you're evolving. Don't let things like this bring you down instead focus in your future think about what you'll be growing up, you'll still see him in the hallways but he should be like a stranger is

You're still in school, it's nothing to worry about, once you graduate, a lot of the drama will be gone. Just be patient and wait. It takes time. Research says usually 3 months to get over a break up, obviously it might take longer in your case, you see the guy everyday. Eventually it'll be a thing in the past that you will nonchalantly be able to treat as one of those mistakes you made though. Good luck.

What exactly did his parents do? You both really seem to care about/love each other so I find it kinda hard to imagine what could they do to split you up in the first place.

>>5 they were really overprotective and I sent him a kind of showy selfie not like nudes but enough to make them really mad I guess. They were always all over him we barely got to be alone.

>>4 >>2 I tried letting go and finding someone knew but I just can't get away from the strange feeling. Almost as if I'm stubborn about letting go. I don't know how to explain it and I wish I know someone who understood or is going through the same thing as me its a fairly weird situation. It's almost like I still love him...

>>6 Well, I mostly got that, but what did they do to separate you? Did they like tell him theyll stop supporting him unless he breaks up with you or locked him up at home or something?

>>8 they said they would cut all contact from me including moving him to a completely different school.

Well, I dont think there is any point in TRYING to get over your relationship with someone you loved enough to stop seeing your friends. Either time will help, or it simply won't.

Also, the way he acted, its very possible that he did really care about you, I am also the kind of person who just stops showing emotion if I am depressed. And he might have been trying to convince himself that he hates you now, because he couldnt keep on loving you. He also might have succeeded at that...

And it is pretty common for guys to seek emotional help from other girls after a harsh breakup. But, he could also just be an asshole. Has he ever sacrificed something for his relationship with you.

>>12 I can't think of anything big he has sacrificed. Cause usually I did everything for him...

For some people, looking for a new gf or bf in your case can solve this kind of problem, but if you still deeply in love your ex, you can't just looking for a new bf. You need to looking for a new activities that help you to relax and forget everything, just go travelling with a small dependable or trustworthy group of friends around you, make yourself busy, and make new joyful memories with them for a while and slowly you'll be recovered. It works for me. If it doesn't work for you, then you need to solve your problem with your ex. I know it's hard to face someone who used to love you and now hate you, don't forget to bring some friends just in case if something went wrong. You can also just deal with it and live your life, but the choice is yours. Good luck.
(sorry if my english is bad, correction is appreciated, thank you)

Ok, seems like he is just an asshole...

Well, I wont try to decide which is best for you, but ill try to include all the viable options here. They are sorted by what i consider the riskiness and how much worth it they are imo.

The dreamer's path would be trying to get together with him again, even tho his parents are strongly against it. If you push enough both on him and his parents there is a chance it will work. You could also try to keep it a secret from them until you two are capable of living on your own. Also, even tho he probably hates you now, i am like 95% sure he did love you before. It shouldnt be that hard to convince HIM.
Basically high risk, high reward.

The lover's path would be trying to find a new boyfriend. It depends on how well you judge people and on your luck a lot, but if you get lucky, he would support you in the human's path and make you feel better about yourself in general. On the other hand, you might run into someone who will make it even worse. (Just a very general tip, guys who really try to make their hair look good, like have it gelled and stuff, are generally assholes.)

The hero's path would be to talk things out with him without backing out after he says he hates you or something like that and getting your life together yourself. In this case it would also probably help if you tried to get help from other people less, preferably staying with a smaller group of close friends or alone most of the time, trying to find and doing things you want to and have to do.

The human's path would be looking for things to fill his place. What >>14 suggested, which would basically be a pretty safe way to gradually forget about him and get a new life with its own fun and interesting things. It will probably take a significant amount of time before you can move on tho.

The coward's path would be trying to ignore this all, change schools if possible and try to forget about him. Best combined with the human's path. Low risk, but might take a long time.


Also, a general tip for all kinds of depression would be to always force yourself to do stuff. You HAVE to do you homework, learn for exams, etc. You also HAVE to do things you like doing. Just, force yourself to do something. Ive learned the hard way that not doing anything is the worst thing someone can do when they are depressed.
And another question, what did he do to make you fall in love with him oh-so-madly?

>>14 thank you it means a lot for you to reply! I will try to think about and try what you said.
>>15 He was very kind at first and we had much in common. Before I knew it he was apart of my daily life and influenced everything I did. He motivated me academically resulting in me being a great student and I didn't not know how much I emotionally depended on him until after we broke up. I felt so empty, and it's pathetic but I still feel empty

That's a very interesting situation but still if you really can't move on maybe if you guys at least be in good terms you can move on so I'm saying that you should say sorry and that he should also know what he made you feel, tell sorry's to each other then you can move on. If he still can't say the word sorry to you give him time till he forgets everything and is ready to be in good terms. This is a little too late I hope your still checking in your posted thread

>>17 yes and thanks and I tried coming to good terms with him but he kept bringing up the past. It made me wonder if he still is hung up too...