So lately I've talked with people and made some friends but also sadly lost some(not in an accident or anything).

To me Friendship is a really weird thing. Ever since I was a child I never understood the concept of it. I mean I understand you have someone you can talk to, hang out with, cry on their shoulder and everything but...it's still kind of foreign to me. It was always like this since I was a child.

Just a couple a months ago I met different types of people, differently. Some I met personally and someone through the net(not here but another site). The person I met on the site was an awesome person and I could imagine hanging out with him in real life and everything. But just about 2 weeks ago, he won't talk to me anymore because "the feelings are gone" and he he wanted to stop everything and part ways. With that I was easily discarded. Which made me think. "Is it that easy?"
Then today, in my Whatsapp group a couple of friends of mine who are admins in the group, decided to kick several people out of the group because they were "too noisy". I actually didn't mind and besides there is the function in Whatsapp to nullify it for a while...but regardless the people were kicked out. of course because of that a big shitstorm started.
But when that happened I saw it again. People were discarded easily. From friends to acquaintances.

I mean, I understand that friends come and go but whenver I witness it and experience it makes me thing. What's the whole purpose of having a friend if that happens that easily? It makes me actually more comfortable to talk to stranger than talking to my own friends, which I must say, that I always need to start a conversation so that they even talk to me.
I'm kind of lost with this and to me friendship is still too mysterious. Maybe it was because I was raised in another country and have another culture that people have a hard time hanging out with me. I don't know anymore.
Whenever I met someone and hang out with them for several times, I always have the thought that "can I consider them as a friend?". Even if it takes time to get to know each other and understand the person, I always think that in the back of my mind.

I'm quite curious how anybody thinks of this. What's your thought on it?

Btw. I hope this is the right thread for this section. It's been a while since I've been here^^".

When it comes to friends they can eventually come back but some ppl change either good or bad. You could either accept ppl the way they are or choose to avoid a certain crowd that seems to be a harsh crew for you to be around anymore. Friendship is based on what you can handle, trust and loyalty. Some might be very cold and disrespectful but in the end they might even protect you bc they know you're soft hearted for ex. It just depends if you gain that person promising of a something from you as a person that others couldn't sometimes. That's why they're also very similar to relationships but that's more of someone you trust even more and intense feelings, someone you can depend on that can actually get around for you as much you would want. Friends are ppl that'll talk to you even if they might not see you so often but be happy to catch up anyways. Don't be around someone that always calls you boring bc honestly you're not their entertainment to make them laugh you're a person. A person must feel free to do what they want without any complains but that goes for them too. You don't force each other but have a certain equality to be free to laugh to any kinds of emotions.

to express any kinds of emotions I mean.

Thanks for replying.

Maybe it's really the wrong crowd? I dunno, I mean we have same similar interest but I guess there are still some stuff that they can't really accept me for who I be. They just don't accept it when I go sooner from the party and it annoys me. Maybe I haven't found the right people yet who accept me for who I am and do what I want to do.
I really wish to understand more and have someone who wants to be my actual friend.

Funny thing is, the "friend" who cut off our friendship came back and wanted to talk again. Apparently he was even more lonely after breaking off and didn't had much fun as before. As I kind of infouened him or something.
I'm a person who believe in second chances and forgave him. But well I'll see how it works now and if he still wants to be my "friend".

Anyways, thank you.

>>4 *influenced

A friend is someone you can spend days not talking to. Even weeks or months and they'll still treat you like as if you talked to them everyday, when you actually just started talking again. Whether they are rich or poor or a different skin color or have some sort of medical condition or not, a true friend will always treat you the same. They'll joke around with you about anything and they'll tell you that you went to far too. They got your back. When there there atleast, lol. Atleast that's the type of friends I like, but that's because I'm lazy, and my friends are kind of lazy too... Everybody's different though, some people like being out of the house a lot, others don't. A true friend wouldn't care which one you are . But they will also tell you what's on their mind if they think something's up. That's my view on friends, but through differing views is what could let you know if you're in the right group or not.

Friendship is a form of love. It's caring about someone. All people are different, which means all friendships are different. People have different flaws and different strengths and are willing (and able) to do different things.

For example, if I needed a place to stay, I have one friend who would give me a bed or couch to sleep on and try to find a place for me to go as soon as possible, while I have another friend who would make sure everything was as comfortable as possible for me, I had everything I could possibly want, would probably make food for me for the first day or two, and would be in no hurry to get me out. On the other hand, if my car broke down, the first friend would drop everything, even if it meant leaving work in the middle of her shift, to come out and help me if I called, while the second friend would only stop playing his computer games to come help if I were crying and insisting that he was really the only person who could help me at the moment.

If I needed a distraction, the first friend would probably try to make me feel like my problem isn't a big deal by making up a story about a worse thing that happened to her, while the second would have endlessly amusing things to bring up and is a generally fun person to be around. But if I needed a shoulder to cry on, the first friend would be there with a long, warm hug, alcohol, and a threat to beat up anyone remotely responsible for my pain (whether or not she would actually do it), while the other would give a stiff pat on the back and resort to distraction as soon as possible, complaining that he doesn't know how to handle sad people.

So there is not really a uniform way that all friends would act in any given situation. What does seem consistent is that they care about you. You accept one another as they are (even when 'how they are' pisses you off), because you care about them as a person. You won't leave them to suffer all on their own, because you care about how they are doing. There will always be the conflict of how much you are willing to sacrifice to help versus how much you think the other person needs your help. But when they really need you, you will be there. Because you care.

Of course, like any relationship, friendship isn't always equal. You can care to different degrees, and caring is not always mutual. Also, people have different degrees to which they believe you have to care in order to count as 'friends'. So there is no real definition for what counts as a friend. Like any relationship, friendship is a unique connection between two people. No two friendships are exactly the same. But if I had to give a general definition for it, it's when two people care about each other in a platonic (nonromantic/nonsexual) way, to a higher degree than they care about the general population of the human race.

Friendship is different for everyone since everyone has different values, for me all we need to do is talk,be interested in each other, and not try to be a person who's planning to ruin my life or my families and is not trying to kill me.

Ecco I'm happy for you then. I'm glad a friend was able to notice what they have lost because some don't but as a friend you did play an important role. When a friend comes back they usually look up to you as a support they once lost and know they have someone they can trust to be loyal to keep in mind of you. Always keep an eye on people though even friends because some friends can be troublesome and get others involve but don't be wary obvious its just good to keep your guard up to certain friends you may gain. As long you know what kind of person you're around anyways, people can be more different than you know catching up with them.