So hey. I'm DivineBBK. Friends call me the BellyBeanKing of Jelly beans. But call me Divine or BBK. So like if anyone needs me you guys could totally just email me at divineofthedollars@gmail.co. cause Yeh. Or to just chat.
Uhm so I just am really happy to be part of the Dollars I'm just an awkward bean is all. But I love to talk for days.. Once we get to know each other.
But this is like a personal thing and non at the same time. But my brother is selling my dog so he can keep his because he doesn't want muts in the yard but it's my yard and house. So I feel like I should tell him to leave my dog alone. But he's older than me so he has the word over me. But it's still my house and yard. He's living with me not the other way around but I don't know what to do..
He's not even paying rent to me and he eats all my food and his dog eats all my food and my dogs food. I told him he could live with me if he halts the bills or pays me rent and buys his dog food so I don't have to buy dog food for his dog.
I mean I'm not tight on money but I'm pretty busy. See I have half a bag of dog food in the back of my car with doggy waste plastics to pick up after my dog becaus I take him with me to college and for walks before I go to work everyday along with his bowl so I don't mind my brother having his dog. But he said and promised to bring them in the house when the other has to poo and pee. My dog is well trained because I took the time so he comes when he is called and he lays down when told and sits shakes and rolls over and even brings his leash when I say leash. He won't case cars or bark at people passing by or misbehave at all.
So I didn't see a problem with my brother bringing his dog over. Until his dog wrecked my kitchen and bathroom which is no problem but this week he has strewn trash across the whole yard while I have my baby with me. But yet my brother wants me to get rid of my dog. And when I get back from work I have to pick up after my brothers dog. And I honestly don't know what to do or say. Advice or help?

Just because He's older than you doesn't mean you have to do what he says. Your stuff is yours and his stuff is his. Your brother sounds like he doesn't respect you. And you sound like you're letting him disrespect you just because He's older. That should not be the case. You have authority over any property and anything else belonging to you. Your rules about and the way you enforce them will show how much you care. You sound like your life is always busy so that by the time you get home you're probably burned out and don't want to deal with anything else. Now that you have let your brother do this for a good amount of time you're letting it get to you. This is my understand of the situation you described.

Advice/tips:
▪If you don't want to sell your dog you don't have to. Say no.
▪If you think your brother should sell his dog, you should suggest it, but again, he doesn't have to if doesn't want to.
▪Your house, your rules. If your brother is not following your house rules, there should be consequences, and you should enforce them. Example: where things should go and why. If your brother fails to follow your rules. There's two things you could do, 1) adjust your rules in a way that shouldn't be hard to follow. 2) set a limit to how many times your brother can break a rule, because if you let him take advantage of you/leave an opening/loophole, he may take advantage of it. Once the limit is reached you can kick him out. One way to make sure this is followed is by making him sign a contract to follow your house rules. If he is not willing to, you already have a sign there that he might just not be ready to be living there. Your house, your rules.
▪Treat him the way you want to bet treated. If you follow rules, there's no reason why he shouldn't. If you wash the dishes/ cook your own food. There's no reason why you should let him without having any responsibilities. If you trained your dog, you should suggest that he do the same.

Shoot. This may not be the best of advice, but it's all I could think of for now. It sounds a lot like you don't want to disrespect your brother at all, not one bit. But I suggest that if he's going to be living like an adult you should treat him like one. Being an older one does not equal more authority than you. Especially if it's a place you are paying for. Good luck OP
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