HELP... I'm feeling so confused these days, my academic tutor told me to search any kind of club that I would like to join outside the university, he says it's for try new experiences and I agree with him... The problem is that I can't find something that I would like to join, I mean, I'm a really inquisitive guy about everything: Nature, Maths, Astronomy, Electroinic, Chemestry, Medicine, Languages... But when it comes to talk with people (relate them) it's just too hard for me to keep on the conversation. Could you recommend me some kind of groups or clubs to give me more ideas? I thought on the next ones: photography, astronomy, reading circles and swimming clubs; martial arts, parkour, biking, guitar and piano lessons. Hope you can help... Have a nice day!

What about something like chado? (It's Japanese tea ceremony in case you don't know). Doesn't require much talking so it's good for introverts.

Hey learning new things is always fun and improving things you may have problem with it will help you in the future , for me you if you choose something that you can face people would be great it may be hard in the beginning but later on it will be easy .

hope i helped you with this and good luck.

Neko, where can I find a chado club? My country doesn't have one... but, in fact, it's a good idea. EasternOrc that was the point of my tutor but it's really hard for me to deal with people... for example both answers I've received here are friendly and polite ones, but the real world isn't the same. I'm afraid that I will feel out of place, perhaps I'll even getting bored in the groups eventually.

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What is your thoughts about the "real world" ?

feeling scared from the really world and new thing is hard thing to do , but what is the point living scared and afraid ?
nothing you just gonna miss your opportunities in life.

and i know that you may get the feeling of "I don`t belong here" and stuff but how can you know if you did not tried it ? and doing it again does not mean you will have the same position you were before.

my point is that real world is something hard or easy depend on what you doing with life.

stay strong and always look up it may not be easy in the start line but its worth it in the finish line.

Just pick a club and show up. Seeing people regularly is a good start, even if you don't communicate much at first. If people try to talk to you, then smile and talk back as much as you can. If things get awkward, that's ok. If no one talks to you, then that's fine too. Familiarity makes forming connections easier, so just seeing one another regularly can be a good start.

Eventually you will find things to talk about. The club is a collection of people that share a common interest. If you are having trouble with understanding a concept, ask someone about it. If you find something that you encounter in the club interesting (a concept or a fact or whatever), then ask other people what they think about it.

With that in mind, I would recommend joining a club that centers on a topic that you are interested in, but don't know much about. You will find more to talk about if you learn more during club time. Everyone else will be there because they will find it interesting too, which will give you grounds on which you can relate to one another.

An anti-bullying club is a really good way to start. Or perhaps a club with tons of games. Clubs like that usually have people that are very open to others and are passionate about the same things as you.

It's normal to be afraid of how the people would think of you. So here's something I do. Try out the club. It the club just isn't for you or you aren't feeling the people in there, go to a different club. I have a huge love for acting and theatre, and I had theatre class last school year. But the teacher and students in there weren't particularly nice to me, so now I do not have that class. Instead I'm focusing on Advanced Placement Studio Art, where I can express my huge passion for art and nobody will judge me unprofessionally for my work. Even if I don't talk to most of the people, I still have a friend in there. But I feel safe, overall.

If you feel safe in there, that's all that matters. If you don't, you have the full right to check out of there. Remember that when you try to join a club.

The Dollars could be your club. You could socialize with friends you make here, or found a branch in your school. The possibilities are endless. In the end, it has to be something you're passionate about. If you don't love what you're doing, then there's no point in doing it at all.

Thanks to everyone guys... I really get the point, even if it's kind of hard I have to get courage and try. I'll do my best finding out an option, also I'm not gonna lie... I feel a bit frightened but I know I can't live always with fear. EasternOrc I'll stay strong, but always with a smile as Tunes said. I'll be looking for a club where I can feel confortable as SQUIGGY wrote and of course Isaiah Orwell, I'm starting to believe it was a good idea to write on this blog... Thanks once more for being so polite and telling me all your ideas and points of view. This is a real awesome website. :)

Anytime, acolin! Feel free to let me know if you need any help with that. isaiahorwell.dollars@gmail.com

I might be biased here, but you should do something with music. You have options- orchestra, garage band, marching band, etc. There is so much you can do. Learning an instrument changed my life. I haven't forgotten how to play it, everyone is always impressed by it, and I have met several people. And if you decide to do just lessons, you'll have enough time to do a non-competitive activity.
In general, choosing an activity where everyone is working towards a common goal will be in your best interest.

I have been struggling with the same thing all my life. I get straight A's in school, but when it comes time for a social confrontation, I freeze up, my mind freezes, and I can't talk. The advice given to me was to put myself out there, and to talk to people even if I can't formulate sentences. Try going on dates (asking is really hard, but that's the point), getting a job dealing with a lot of customers, or find some kind of club/church to socialize in. I've been going to a charter school for years that has less than 200 students in the entire high school, so a step to become less socially awkward for me was to move to a public school with over 1900. I'm hoping that decision helps me. So basically, set little goals to slowly overcome your social awkwardness. It has been working for me.