Before i start i want to say sorry if i made mistakes while writing but i will try my best.
I joined in a dollar group for kinda long time and there this girl who i like her really much but i was helping and cheer her up and listen to her problem and try to help her to fix it telling her "to stay strong to get up whenever you are down and fight back again harder and harder" but and i have that thinking in my mind that when i help people "i don`t want them to misunderstand that i`m trying to take something from them" and that why i`m really scared to tell her that i like her ,so what i do is only talking to her and nothing else , and when she had bf and her bf was person i know and i want to help her to make her happy with him but love story don`t stand long time and she broke up with him like few days ago , and now i`m more scared to get "No" from her because i feel i may lose her or things change to be akaward for me whenever i talk to her and i get jealous and angry and sad when i see her talk with a boy who makes her laugh more than me (since my english not great at making joke and stuff like that) i know i should be happy for her but the feeling of jealous is KILLING me .
i asked few people about what should i do
for me i feel its better that i just kick my feelings for her away and forget the idea
one told me to give my self a space between me and her and leave to do anything and stop talking to her
and one told me to tell her how i feel
what i want is WHAT should i do and how i stop my self from being jealous because in the end i cant control her own life.
Hey, I don't think it's right for you to just kick your feeling away cuz that's not really fair. maybe you should ask her how she feels about you. If she says she only likes you as a friend, then I think you should accept her answer. The choice is yours. Before you do anything though, ask yourself "Will I be satisfied with just being able to cheer her up when she's sad, or by just being her friend?"
I think that Kiyomi is right. You should ask her how she feels. If she doesn't return your feelings, maybe you don't gave to lose her. But be there for each other. Even if it doesn't work out, at least you will know. It might be hard if it doesn't work, but I think it can put some worries to rest. but I hope for the best for you.
