Hey guys, first post in over 9 months. Some of you might remember me, I had problems with ex-girlfriends before. Well, update and a cry for advice, if any of you have any input. So, I've been dating my girlfriend for 9 months. It's my longest relationship ever, and I'm loving it. Problem is, all my friends are out there getting laid. My girlfriend is abstinent, so my friends get on my nerves, but I know they're just joking when she's not around. Sadly, her first boyfriend scarred mentally in so many ways. Just pushed her to her breaking point to see what would happen. Problem is, he was one of my best friends at the time and I didn't know. He was telling me he was tired of giving her his all if he wasn't getting back an "I love you" or some kind of emotional response. The same time he was saying he couldn't take it, she was telling him she wanted out, the abuse wasn't worth it. THEN she fell for another guy who only saw her as a friend and shot her down. Well, her first boyfriend was the only other guy she ever dressed up for. She did for me on her birthday, and just tonight when we went to dinner. She's so emotionally hurt because both times she put herself out there, heart on her sleeve and was hurt. She's very open with me, and wants to dress up more, and wants to go out more, but the scarring is still there, from everything the other two have said. She goes to therapy weekly, though that's been rough because she had to switch therapists recently, the old one wanted a raise and his boss told him to leave. She sees a psychiatrist every month and is in light medication to keep her bipolar and anxiety in check. Just wondering if anyone has any kind of knowledge or experience on the topic. Can't exactly go to a professional, and I prefer the anonymity of our site. I can use it for emotional guidance and venting, without all the drama and controversy tumblr carries. Thanks in advance guys,
Chrome

Greetings Chrome,

I'd like to help out and give you some advice but I think I either missed a key point or you forgot to mention the problem. Shoot me an email at dusty510@hotmail.com or xezr0.dollars@gmail.com I'd really like to help out ^_^ can't wait to hear from you

Hey Chrome, I think I remember you but I'm not sure. As for your problem, I think you can do for your girlfriend is to be there for her and definitely not push her, as she's had of that done on her already. I know it can be frustrating, but she needs her time.