So...my closest friend is low-key emotionally abusing me. She's overly passive aggressive and tries to manipulate me a lot. She gets really bitter whenever I can't spend all of my free time talking to her and she just makes really biting little comments. I've realized that I've kind of made this bubble of a world for her, because I don't want her to be unhappy, so I'm sheltering her and now I'm stuck. She might mistreat me sometimes but she still loves me a lot and I love her too, very dearly. What should I do now? My parents already know.

I've witnessed a similar relationship between an ex of mine, and one of her best friends. I suggest you just learn to say no from time to time, and hope she understands. You still have to do your own thing every now and then, and can't always cater to her every whim. Just approach this in your own way, I can't promise she won't still be upset. But at least it would set some boundaries.

Tell her, "Hey, I think you are low-key emotionally abusing me. It feels like You're overly passive aggressive and trying to manipulate me a lot. I notice that you get bitter whenever I can't spend all of my free time talking to you and you sometimes make really biting little comments like [insert example here]. I want you to be happy, but it feels like I'm sheltering you and now I'm stuck and unhappy from it.I love you very dearly and I just wanted to let you know because this is important to me, you are important to me! Now What should we do about this?"

I'd say, letting her know might be the best course of action, 'cause sometimes, people don't even notice when they're hurting other's feelings.

This has already been a HUGE help! Thanks so much!!!!

>>2 That should usually work, but with closest friends it is a little different? I mean, a closest friend is somebody you hold so dear you don't really want to even risk losing and by saying "no", from time to time, sure, you are protecting yourself as you should, but you are endangering the friendship between you and your closest... :(

I wish OP best of luck!! Mmm, perhaps you could try fighting fire with the same fire? You know, just act towards her how she is acting towards you. If she dislikes it, then start making points and she may change her ways..

>>5 I'll try that too! Thank you so much!

>>6 I wish you the best of luck!!

>>5 Two wrongs don't make a right.

>>5 Being a dick doesn't solve most problems.

Try helping her make more friends.

I agree with Tree >>3, if you two are really close then you should be able to talk about this.

We did last night. She apologized profusely and she was actually the one who brought it up herself, apologizing for her anger and bitterness. She told me she loved and cared for me very much and that I needed to stop coddling her for both our sakes. We've got things worked out, thank you so much!!

>>11 that's great news to hear!:)

>>11 Yayy!! It worked out in the end!! So happy for you~~!!

Thanks! :)