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I need some help. (4)

1 Name: Akira : 2016-06-29 11:26 ID:K3rMsIWt [Del]

Hey guys...
I don't mean to be a burden but I need some help and support.
I'm going through some emotional exploration, trying to find out who I really am, and right now I feel really dull towards everyone and I don't feel any real emotions to anyone. Like my cousin and I were talking and she asked, "What if you mom died in a car crash because you were distracting her and didn't mean to? How would you feel?" and I really thought about it. But no matter how hard I tried, I tried imagining being in the hospital, driving down the street where she died, the funeral, the gravestone, and no matter what, I couldn't convey any love or emotions.
And when asked who I have a crush on, I can't say. Because it's no one. In reality, I'm in love with nothing.
I need help. I'm worried, well, sorta. I'm worried that my emotionless ways could hurt other people and feel hurt when I can't give them sympathy or empathy... Can anyone give me some help?

2 Name: Tarquin : 2016-06-29 12:14 ID:Px1xv6YV [Del]

I'm glad you asked this question, this actually perfectly normal! :) Just because you don't always convey emotion doesn't make you heartless or a bad person in any way. You may not feel anything now but let's say someone close to you did die in a car crash, I'm sure you'd feel some kind of sadness, it's just hard to imagine.

Exploring your emotions is actually pretty common and can be a reason a lot of people start dating, it's a way of figuring out what you enjoy and what makes you happy. And don't worry about not having a crush on anybody at the moment, I didn't start feeling those emotions until recently, everybody gets into it at different times so don't pressure yourself about not finding someone you like right now, you have a lot of time and a lot of options.

I hope this helps a little, if you need more advice, feel free to ask! :D

3 Name: Akira : 2016-06-29 12:21 ID:K3rMsIWt [Del]

Thanks. I just hope this phase ends quickly. Heh..

4 Name: Tree is Tree !N13m0ewMrQ : 2016-06-29 12:24 ID:ZKZMCeMl [Del]

It seems you are indifferent to many things. I too have been called out by some people. Telling me that I should express my opinions more, when most of my opinions are literally just neutral, the "whatever happens, happens," kind of attitude towards life. Some people give me stares, but I don't really consider myself one to get involved in other peoples lives unless it is extremely necessary. I do have feelings though, I care sometimes. And you asking for help shows that you have feelings too, you just don't express them too often that thinking about expressing them seems difficult. The obvious response to how you would react if your parents died would be to mourn, bury them, and to feel remorse or regret or something along those lines. But! Because you probably haven't really been through a situation like that involving someone you love, that is possibly why you are having a hard time imagining the emotions you would express.

Not having a crush on anyone is normal, there was a time where I went like a full year without having a crush on anyone.

Expressing that you're worried already shows that you are not emotionless. You might just have a hard expressing those emotions.

My tip: tell you're friends and family about the fact that you are worried that you will hava a hard time showing sympathy or empathy when a situation deems it. Their response might just be the words you need to hear to realize that letting them know this is you expressing your feelings.

Summary: I think you have emotions, just that you have a hard time being in tune with your emotions and expressing them because you have not often encountered situations that deem the expressing of the emotions you think should be conveyed. my advice is to express this concern to your friends and family, and that in of itself will be enough to show that you do care and have feelings (or so I would think).