Hello... I havent posted in 3 years and that is because I wasnt depressed and I was doing very well these past 3 years. However around a few days nearly a week ago something happened and I couldnt think of anywhere else to talk about but dollars.

Okay so... It is a love problem and I am very confused about it.

A few days ago, I met with this guy. He seemed very cute, cool, nice, hot and awesome. He wasnt very attractive but he was fine looking but nothing too up from average. Anyway, he caught my attention with his charm.

He had this cool hair cut so I went up to him said "OMG YOUR HAIR IS AWESOME AND JESUS CHRIST YOU LOOK SO COOL" and i touched his hair and whispered "my precious"

Anywaaay;

He laughed we talked a lot. He was supposed to go in 5 mins but he stayed 2 hours more to talk with me and we talked so much. Then I found out he had a boyfriend and that he was bisexual.

It made me sad but I was still very attracted to him (the fact that he has a bf I mean, not him being bi.)

So we exchanged numbers when he had to go and he dropped me home. He is so nice I swear and the more we talk I am afraid to fall in love with him.

But then, I found out something which made me very confused. He turned out to be biologically a female but he uses the male pronouns etc. I was fine with it since I had so many friend like that.

However, my attraction isnt over at all. I thought I was straight since I tried dating a girl once and just couldnt do it, it kind of felt wrong so I thought I was very straight until I met him.

Now its my first time having this happen to me. I dont know, normally i would see the other person as a female and my attraction would go away and instead i would just want to be friends.

But with him, it feels like he is still a guy and I just cant stop looking at his picture. I think Im falling in love and it is very weird but it feels right?

Not for everyone but only with him and that is just weird. And I am not the type to fall in love easily it is just something about him. I cant sleep thinking about him and how he smells and all and the way he hugs, laughs, talks and shares his opinions.

Guys? What is happening with me? What am I? Whats going on? I am very confused and I am so fing sad that he has a boyfriend.(and i dont want to break their relationship at all since they just started dating but he also calls me beautiful and pretty and he hits on me nearly all the time and i do too)

Any advice? Thanks a lot! Im just very confused and I had to get it off my chest since Dollars is like a family I can trust... thanks.

P.S. Sorry for my English, it is my 3rd language!!

-Juliet.

If he/she looks like a guy and acts like a guy, then he/she is probably a guy. Or you think that he is.
Looks trumps history. Unless you want to have a debate about the whole trans debacle, just go with it.

Don't worry about your english, mine it's worse. Going to talk about this threat, it's so normaly, i want to say, you fell in love with the boy and these girl it's the boy who is your love, i want to say it's very normaly, so don't worry.

PD: It's my opinion, you can have other, but this it's mine opininon.

>>2 I have nothig against trans people I am just confused. I know that I like him and only him, not anyone else. My whole life I have only heen attracted to males and after this I am confused if I am still straight, or bi or pan. I dont understand at all. But I have nothing wrong with loving him.

>>3 Aw thank you so much, your english is nice too! Yeah I know its normal since it just feels right with only him.

GUYS dont comment if you think I have something against trans people; im just confused about what I am? Hahah

>>4
Not saying that you do.
Just that if you keep asking for labels, you're eventually gonna get into that argument.
If you like him does it matter if he's a trans/dog/normal?

>>5 no not at all it doesnt matter, I just want to know what I am. Is it wrong to question our sexualities? I am just curious about it, thats all.

>>6
It's not. But labeling yourself = limiting yourself. Or in more extreme cases, can be self-deception.
Or eventually it's gonna lead to one of those scenarios where you think you're bi (for example) and date a same-sex partner and when the time comes to do the deed, you think "Ohmigosh, I can't do this. I'm not a bi"

My advice would be try exploring your sexuality but don't stick any label onto it.

>>7 What's wrong with limiting oneself? Buddhism is based around it. How is labeling wrong at all?
There's a reason people have these labels in the first place, ya'know. It's so people don't get confused every single time someone meets someone else and has to use a 2 or more paragraph story to confirm they're sexuality.
Gay, straight, bi and so one, ARE ALL ONE WORD.
As long as you don't fuck up and get it right, it should be fine.

>>8
Limiting yourself is fine for some, death for others (especially dog lovers and social creatures). And teenagers fuck up all the time.
Incidentally, there are currently 31 officially registered labels for gender identities in America. Saying you're "gender-gifted" would probably have more confusing effect than "I'm not sure"
So, 2 paragraphs either way. OP is talking about sexual identity ofc, but close enough.

>>9 Eh....... Goddamnedit world.

>>9
*not America. Facebook.

Guys I just wanna know what this is I m not asking for a label. If you know it can you please type it?

Being bisexual myself, I can see your confusion. It took me a long while to figure out what I was too. If you really are wondering what label is, I'd say your straight. You ended up liking this guy before you even knew he was biologically female, and after finding out you still liked him. I don't see why liking a guy before and after you find out would make you bisexual, even if he says he is biologically female.