I guess I should get this info out of the way first. I'm a female, although my usernames usually tends towards male sounding names.

I'm currently in a long distance relationship with someone (Who is male) and have been for about 3 to 4 months. We'll call him Austin.

Now, I've honestly felt that I have been bisexual for about 2 years, now yet I never really had the guts to ask out another girl.

Recently I've noticed I've sort of fallen for one of the girls in my group of friends. We'll call her Marilida. (Let's be honest here... I'm literally using Roleplay names for this.) I've known Marilida for a long while, we knew each other from Elementary School until I had to transfer to another school in the district at 5th grade to 6th grade (My district had 6th grade in Elementary schools until this year) We met up again in Middle school and we've formed a small group of us 6 or 7 girls who love anime. I've gotten to know Marilida a lot more and we talk a lot more often now. I guess there's no other way to put it than I've pretty much fallen in love with her.

Going back to the topic of Austin. We've been online friends for about a year and a half. He's actually gotten plans to go over here for a week during the summer. I admitted to him that I was considering going transgender apparently the same day he wanted to admit that he had feelings towards me. To be honest, going transgender is still in mind for me, but it's doubtful I'll ever go through with it. Apparently a few weeks later we ended up going out... but lately... we haven't been talking lately, or whenever he tries to be flirty with me, I just really don't want to deal with it and just blow it off as that I'm just not in the mood. I'm not even sure if Austin even knows that I am bisexual.

Marilida was one of the first people to find out I'm dating Austin and even freaked and told the rest of our group. Which is another reason I'd be scared about asking Marilida out, outside the fact Marilida probably isn't bi or lesbian.

I guess where I trying to go with this is... I'm unsure if I want to ask Marilida out... and if I do and if she accepts my feelings, I'm not sure how I want to break up with my current boyfriend because I don't want to hurt him so bad because we've just been in a relationship for a few months. Plus I know a few people who'd be pretty mad at me for breaking up with him... I honestly want to just return to being good friends with him again. Pretty much the same as now, except without the flirty comments nowadays. And we've been trying to set up a small group called Wondersparks, and he's one of the key four members.

Sorry for this being sort of long... I'm kinda known for writing a lot being I write a lot for stories... Thanks for any advice anyone posts.

~Kagero Usrad - The Demon King~

"going transgender is still in mind for me, but it's doubtful I'll ever go through with it"
Don't go if you don't absolutely want to do that, and have a reason for that. You don't choose a dress.

Plus, I'm against the idea of choosing whether one is a boy or a girl, since it threaten the idea that people from both sex can act however they want.

Then, it's up to you to decide whom you want to date, or to date both two.

I'm not sure about that... isn't dating both considerably cheating? I probably wouldn't live up to that... If she did say yes when I ask Marilida out... I probably would break up with Austin...

As of going transgender... it's just a thought in progress... I've thought about it for a while... it's just I haven't come up with a final decision yet...

From what you've written, it sounds like you like Marilida better than Austin. If this really is the case, I think that you should take a break on your relationship with Austin, at least until you can sort out your feelings. Trust me, when you are unsure of your feelings for another person, it is best to suspend or end the relationship sooner rather than later, because if you let it go on, Austin might get more attached to you, and it would hurt him much worse if you break up. As for Marilida, there are two courses of actions you can take:

Hide your feelings.
When people fall in love with long time friends, it doesn't always work out the way you see in movies, believe me. Sometimes it is better to choke down your feelings in the interests of keeping your friend in your life, because admitting an unrequited love could push them away, and possibly divide your group. It's hard, but sometimes it is for the best.

Confess your love
Sometimes, these kinds of situations can work out. If you feel that you've reached a point in your relationship where you simply cannot hold back your feelings, you need to tell Marilida. It could make or break your relationship, but love is a gamble. What you need to ask yourself is is your love for her genuine, and is it worth risking it all?

Also, kind of unrelated at this point, but if you were looking for a more feminine sounding name, try Kagura. Haven't seen one of those on the site yet.

*sorry for any mistakes, I wrote this in one go and I'm too lazy to edit.

"f you were looking for a more feminine sounding name"
Men and women can do whatever they want, there's no "girly" nor "manly" activity.

Then, don't break up with anyone until all the exams are done.

>>6 I didn't mean it like that, I was just saying if she wanted a more feminine sounding name, she could take it. OP doesn't have to give a rat's ass about any of my suggestions/advice;in the end, it's her job to decide what pieces are useful, and what are garbage. Personally, I don't think that there is anything wrong with the name, nobody on this site knows one another from Adam. The anonymity breaks the awkwardness that occurs when members of opposite genders try to speak to one another.

Also, I disagree about breaking up after exams. These problems sound like they've been pestering you for a while, and they could distract you from your exams. It is best to do it right away; trust me, it'll clear your head, and you'll feel a lot better. If Austin truly loves you, he'll understand if you need a break to sort out your feelings.

So I talked with Austin... apparently he was pretty okay with it just as long as I wasn't ending our friendship. We just were in a video call and he seemed pretty cool about it.

As of Marilida, I've been talking with her over WhatsApp, and I honestly did tell her about how I was going to ask a girl out, so she's been guessing who it is... I don't think she has any idea it's her... So I'm hoping to ask her at school tomorrow during lunch.

About my username... I honestly have gone through a few names. Arisakita/Arisa, Kazuki, Zuzu, Zazuki-chan, Spyridon, and currently Kagero. It's just that I seem to tie more with male sounding names for some reason.

Thanks you guys for the advice ^^

Your welcome. Let us know how things turn out.

Alright... so I asked her during lunch today and she said she'd give me an answer afterschool. She said yes >w<

Thing is... a couple of our friends in our group either seem confused about it or just don't like it... which seems to worry Marilida a little bit, but she says she made up her mind.

That's great! Good luck with your friends, though...

Thanks... I'll probably talk with them later today at lunch... they're probably just a little surprised I think...

Take it easy with your friends, since this is a big for them! I know how it is to be bisexual, so I know how it is when your friends feel. But give them time to get used to it, 'cause if you pressure them with it, they will just disappear, and I'm sure you don't want that:) But I wish you good luck with it!