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I Need Help Finding an Answer. (10)

1 Name: Ashe : 2016-05-15 06:24 ID:juMp4Zym [Del]

Heads up:
This is going to be a long story. There are several people involved who I don't wish to name, so I'm going to label them with numbers.


So.. It all started my first year in high school. I was a excited to learn, meet new people, etc. Now that I look back, I was living pretty comfortably. But back when, I didn't see it that way. I was insecure about a lot of things, shy.. And because of my push-over demeanor, the low-lives of the school took advantage of me. They stole my lunch, my packs of gum, several sentimental objects of mine.. And I let it happen, willingly. Yet blindly. This led me to believe that I wasn't "perfect", in my own definition. So I tried to be.
Then, the person who changed my life enters.
Person 1.

We were friends at first. Once I found out that Person 1 had feelings for me, I didn't hesitate to reciprocate. She was my first, and I was hers. We were so happy for four months, or so I thought. It turns out that she was basically loving a poison. Before I knew it, I became so.. self-centered, and dangerous not only to myself, but to her as well. Then one day, after giving her a few pecks on the cheek, we were both called into the office for public display of affection. I thought it was no big deal, until the principle said he had to tell my parents. They're homophobic, and they didn't know I was dating a girl at the time.
In a panic, I brought up some old dirt about my mom abusing me to prevent going back home, because I felt that maybe.. the fact that I'm doing something against their beliefs, I might reignite the abuse. This wasn't only for my sake, it was for hers too. I loved her so much that.. I was willing to abandon my family.
Child protective services almost got involved when I realized that.. Maybe it was for the best that we broke up. We had to. We were four years apart from each other. Talk about illegal.
Though, it tears me apart how we've been together through thick and thin.. We had plans.. We had a future. I thought it was going to be bright..
It doesn't matter anymore, anyhow.
At least I still have my family. Now that's "thick and thin".

Anyway, so.. We broke up. And that was that.
Then Person 2 enters. She messages me on Facebook after it was known that the high school's "cutest couple" were no more. This was near Valentines day, and she asks me if I liked her. I shrugged to myself, and mindlessly said "Yes." After that, of course she changes her status, and everyone knew. Including Person 1.
She got so upset, and unfriended me. Throughout this all, I literally had no idea what I did wrong because we agreed that we would try to go back to "just friends" after we healed our own wounds, so I ask Person 1's friend. I was told what I've already mentioned. I was self-centered, and thick-skulled.
So without a second thought, I break up with Person 2 in hopes to somehow "fix" things with Person 1; I poured my heart and determination out into this extravagant letter, only to receive a devastating, "Aw, that's sweet, but you had your chance :)".

..I didn't know what to say, or think. I felt frozen. And.. so hurt. At the time, I didn't realize she had a point. I betrayed her. I left it alone; thinking it was over. Then a day after, she says, "Look you hurt me, and you need to think about that. I just want you to think about what you did." By this point, I already recovered, or so I believed. So I wrote another extravagant letter explaining how we both just needed to move on. I bid her well, and.. that was it. There was no more contact afterwards.

Moving on, I met another girl. Person 3. She seemed co-dependent, and very clingly.. And it became apparent that she only wanted me for sex, in which I reluctantly gave in. I broke up with her after acknowledging that she was a bad influence. Maybe things would've been better if I actually stuck to my word, because I got back with her after a day passed. But even that barely lasts. By this point, there is a fair amount of rumors floating about Person 2 and 3, mainly because - you know how kids are.. They have nothing else better to do than to jump on a bandwagon whenever someone's getting beaten to death.

I believe it's about this point were three major things happen.
So now, there's three boys. Person 4, 5, and 6. To get this out of the way: Person 6 sexually assaulted me in class.
Person 4 is a friend. His involvement? Well, there always had been rumors about us dating. Though I've always laughed it off in spite. One day, we took a visit to his girlfriends house. After we left, he suddenly kisses me after I've given him a hug goodbye. I thought nothing of it, though it did make me uncomfortable, but besides that, I didn't tell his then girlfriend. Then.. it came out in the end, I told her, she got angry.. I didn't think she'd care if they already broke up.

Anyway, now Person 5.. It started out as a sick joke. In class, his friend would pull out a wad of cash, and I'd crudely jest that I would give him a lap dance for it. (Yes, I know..) It was obvious that they would take it to heart. So, the both of them asked if I was serious, and I'd amuse them more by lying. It got to the point were Person 5 actually told me to meet him in one of the bathrooms. The first several times, I didn't show up (because of course I didn't want to) But then he offered forty dollars..
I had sex with him in a fucking bathroom. Classy. I didn't.. realize word would get out like wildfire. Though I just thought this was all a joke.. If everyone was laughing, it was okay..
But now, sometimes it's hard to look in the mirror. Knowing what I've done.. But it's the price I had to pay, for what I thought was reaching.. "perfection".
Half of the time, I have no clue what I'm doing with my life anymore. I want to become something great, though.. I just want to know if I can live all of this down, so I have nothing limiting my future.
That's all I care about now. It hurts me so much that over one single mistake, people can just be so cruel, and target me like that.. Perfection, to me, is being.. likeable. From the person I was in the beginning, I never got credit for sticking my neck out for others. I guess that's why I branched out so dramatically, because I got the sense that no one was even watching me.

So.. that's the end. I know what I've done was so stupid.. Now, I just want an answer for this question:

Will everything.. possibly be alright, in the end..?

Thank you for whoever spent their time reading. It really means a lot. And please be honest, I want to see other views of this situation.

By the way, this has happened two months ago, though the gossip still keeps burning.. Also, my parents already know, and I'm not going back to that school.

Additional information:
Well, today.. I was out of the house with my family, and I run into somebody I know from the school. They tell me that Person 1 was just there three hours ago, and when they brought up my name, she said "Oh, HELL no".. They also mentioned that "You shouldn't go back to the high school, because everybody hates you now".. Please, I just.. need someone to help me think through this hole I've dug myself in.

2 Name: Ashe : 2016-05-15 06:27 ID:juMp4Zym [Del]

(I apologize if some of the given information doesn't make sense)

3 Name: FindMuck !MrEff/SKhc : 2016-05-15 07:16 ID:XHKHx5zU [Del]

I didn't read every single line, but the best option for you right now is to just give up on dating and sex for a while. Figure yourself out before jumping back in.

"We accept the love we think we deserve"

4 Name: Neko !UU8hnqLjMY : 2016-05-15 10:23 ID:J604kWAr [Del]

"One" mistake?
Also either you have a bad case of self-deception or you're an American.

5 Name: Azarel : 2016-05-15 11:33 ID:lHHCUY9S [Del]

Well i have never been in this kind of situation or have heard of it but i think that you should try to figure yourself out before going to someone else because you have to know who you are and make decisions you know you can handle. You know some people say that you should never regret what you did in a situation because that is what your past self thought was right. Sorry if i don't make any sense but try to figure yourself out and don't date or have sex for a while.

6 Name: Ashe : 2016-05-15 14:02 ID:juMp4Zym [Del]

Thank you for those who've helped. I already made the decision to quit dating and sex for a while, and figure myself out. I just really want to know if this will.. all die down soon. If things will be okay, and I can achieve what I want to do.

7 Name: Ozymandias : 2016-05-15 15:39 ID:9IH1f1Zv [Del]

You messed up a lot. I don't know why you never took a step back and realized, but what's done is done. Maybe you even (subconsciously?) enjoyed all the rumors and attention.
High school (or middle school or college, whatever you're in) is a toxic environment. Try to get involved in an activity where you're around people of different ages- you could get a job, volunteer at a nursing home, start babysitting, etc. Not to mention you had to switch schools, so a support group of people not connected to your school would be good for you.

Whatever you do, don't drag in any baggage from what happened at your old high school. A lot of people, including you, worked hard to get you a fresh start; don't let a desire for companionship or attention ruin your new start.

8 Name: Ryukagoka !45HNsCawgU : 2016-05-15 19:42 ID:hpF6fmYw [Del]

You're a highschooler, right? I'm assuming so, because the same thing happens everyday in my high school. Things such as this blow over in about a week or two, in a month if there were pictures. High school students tend to do a lot of stupid things, and everyone talks about everything. Even if it doesn't blow over in high school, your reputation won't follow you to college, or into your adulthood.

9 Name: Ashe : 2016-05-16 00:54 ID:juMp4Zym [Del]

I really needed to hear that, Ryukagoka.. Thank you so much. Thanks to everyone that helped. It means a lot.

10 Name: Gaten : 2016-05-16 03:10 ID:miK9xs0z [Del]

Companionship yea, i mean you can cooperate with others at highschool but its Hard if your shy or not normal ( well in their eyes) or not that over confident Bastard, its Hard even i hear now every fcking day that He has no friends and Do things Alone,its spreaded somehow sick stuff anyways being good in ignoring Helps alot and such, humanity is Hard Most times but not everytime so yea dont give up and just be urself its the best thing you can Do ;p i assume your a girl? Well anyways your out of that school thats good for yourself maybe later you Can try a New one and get confidenter before you think about it. School is Hard well the people in there they trample on the Weak if they See you are Weak seems fun for them i dont know man just trying to cooperate ( getting friends how they all call it) and fail. I think its the mentality evryone should Do for his own or they get in school togheter and knowing each other from the past i dont know why are people like that but yea. If you wanna Chat some i dont mind would be fun i guess :p
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