So there is a guy at my school ( lets call him S ) and he likes my best friend and has been flirting with her and asked me and her other friends for advice and what they thought about his chances because he likes her and thinks she probably likes him back....only issue is shes not just my best friend shes also my girlfriend. I am also a girl our friends don't know that we are together. I've tried telling him that I don't think it would happen but he still thinks it will. I can't tell him off because we cant tell people were dating since her parents are kinda ( minus the kinda ) homophobic and we cant risk them finding out. My friends are wonderful people and if we asked them to keep it a secret they would never tell anyone....on purpose. You see there was another couple in our group that got found out by their parents without them even knowing, now it turned out fine for them because they are a strait couple and both their parents approved of it since they are both people with high grades who arent trouble makers and families are friends. The point is though that we cant risk that if i ever want to be able to see her again. Anyway I talked to my girlfriend ( Lets call her Shiro ) about this and we are both on the same page that neither of us would ever cheat on each other but if he made a move on her that it would be okay as long as she told me about it and it was him not her. I trust her and value her more than anything in the world. Everytime he does something it just makes me angry because i cant do anything about it and its just very frustrating. S isnt a bad person in fact he is my friend he is funny and cute and nice, its not his fault at all. All our friends ship shiro with him and some people who dont know us just assumed they were dating ( I have a very closeknit social circle and the only people not in a relationship are Shiro me and S so everyone just thinks its a matter of time before S ends up with one of us and he is not very discrete about liking shiro. I feel bad for him too because from anyone elses point of view he has a sure shot with her and he really does like her and i of all people can understand why. Both girls he seemingly has a sure shot with and one he likes and has liked for a long time are actually gay for each other. that sucks a lot. So I cant blame him, its just very very frustrating and makes me angry at him even when i know its not his fault and he is doing nothing wrong and im worried that if he does get the courage to ask shiro out and she rejects him it will ruin our friendships or lead to people finding out about us. Im just kinda stuck and i dont know what to do about it.

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2) Females tend to use "lesbian", this is because "gay" tends to mean men. I checked the definition.

tldr

my eyes hurt

my opinion?? Live for the moment. take responsibility later.

(C'mon guys it wasn't that long. -_-) Anyways, it seems that you and your girlfriend trust each other a lot, therefore I think it'd probably be a good idea to talk to her about this and that it's somewhat bothering you and stressing you out. If you really want to avoid having anyone finding out, talk to "Shiro" and say if she's going to reject him could she try not to mention that she's already with someone. If you want to keep it secret your going to have to 1.) Trust your girlfriend and 2.) Just try not to mention it yourself or make it too obvious. (I'm not sure if this helps so please message back if this sounds like good advice or if you need something else)

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It's in the Bible you know x) Yaoi is all that is, was and ever be. Yaoi is the pinnicle of all that is good and rightous and pure. Yaoi can murder lots and lots of people in the name of the goodness and likeness of all that is golden and creamy and YAOI!

>>5 Dude, this is not yaoi. If you read the comment its yuri or lesbian.

I'm a bi, so I understand the struggle of having the same sex relationship. I suggest that if you value your friendship and want to stay friends with that guy, both of you have to confront him and tell him the truth. The longer you wait the more painful it gets. Tell him before he ends up hopelessly in love with her. Just make sure that he knows how to keep a secret.

I think It'll be alright of your friend reasoned out that she's not "into going a relationship for now" excuse if your guy friend ever asks her out.

>>6 I know but I couldnt help myself. The ratio of men to come out and publicly say they're gay to females who come out and publicly say they're gay is like a... 1-7 ratio with females being on the majority. And I've been waiting a long time to use that desprate plea of a joke. Besides, in my expirience lesbians love yaoi way more than gay guys do, shit. Even seemingly heterosexual men love yaoi more than your average gay man will admit. I've spent a lot of time around Yaoi and those who love it to know that where there is an Otaku to be found, Yaoi is the wild card that fits almost all sizes. You almost can't go wrong.

>>8
Gold

I would tell him if he actually values his friendship with shiro don't ruin it by asking her out, or I would just make up a lie and said that you talked to shiro about him and she just wants to be friends

wow.... trouble right off the bat
not sure how I could help. If he do value your friendship, then he wouldn't mind. Besides, what grade is he in? How old is he? If he's going to make a big deal out of this, then screw him. I understand that you guys are friend and all, but consider what I just said. It's not like humans maximum lifespan is 13. You don't have to go through such a sacrifice for him. Trust me, it will get complicated real quick. And it wont just leave emotional damage