So, my little sister is 11 years, and... Sometimes, when I walk by, she acts all secretive about what she is watching. And, that was no cause for alarm, after all, I do that too, but... Once, she stayed up late and had her earbuds plugged in, and I had gotten up to get water, and... She was... Watching porn. She was on Pornhub, and didnt seem to notice me. But, it was definitely something an 11 year old should not be watching. It was definitely porn. And, I went back up stairs, not sure if that was what I had saw, but then I had saw it again. And, I want to talk to her about it, and I dont want are parents to get involved quite yet. First I just want to find out if she knows what she is doing is wrong. But, I dont know how to confront her about it. Please, help me...

Talk to her sincerely and calmly. explain to her that what she's doing is wrong and how it is wrong. Dont rage, dont be sarcastic.

maybe you could start with "hey sis, I saw what you were watching last night (laughs) can we talk about it?"


but i personally think that she knows though.

I'm not even sure what to say to this, but I would say to follow Kurosuke's advice.
Though, I do want to say..
I've been trying to understand what >>3 has been saying for about ten minutes now and I still don't have a single clue what they're saying. So I guess their message should just be disregarded. If you can't understand what they're saying, they're probably not smart enough to be leaving their input here. That's my advice.

>>4 i think what >>3 is saying is that >>1 should give her/his sister her right for privacy.
There are things that makes things curious. Porn in His/her sister's case. and that's normal.

maybe that's what >>3 is saying.. or so i think.

>>6 well you could at least use "enter" in separating your paragraphs.

No, Kuro did that because your being a shit. You voiced your mind, now thats done. Your being annoying and frankly, I can barely read what your saying. At least use spell check on a computer or something cause goddamn thats annoying.

>>1 Just tell your parents if they haven't already given her the talk, it's one of those things thats really important yet a lot of times never given. It shouldnt be to much of a problem as long as you keep your cool and dont make things awkward.

>>1 Take Robo's (>>9) advice, that's what I'd suggest you do as well.

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Your sister might just be going through a phase.... Puberty does that, and 11 is around the age girls go through it; also, curiosity

But also keep in mind that its a bad addiction, so if it gets out of hand or if you feel its effecting her life you should talk to her. Like kurosuke said, be calm and try not to make her feel bad about it- instead explain how bad it can be and what it can do to you

>>11 No the period didnt make me all happy and shit, it's just proper fucking punctuation dumb ass. Not to mention that now your just being a fucking asshole because it seems like you dont have anything better to do. You voiced it and then you keep at it. Leave it for fucks sake. It doesnt matter if you have a disability, you could use a computer of phone for the spell check so that we can actually understand what your trying to fucking say asshat.

Be honest, but be direct. It's gonna be awkward and she'll probably try to shy away. Don't let her, but don't trap her to talk to you. I had this conversion with my younger sibling before too. I basically took them out to for a fun day, movies, park, restaurant, and by the end of it I asked what I needed to. Just understand it's normal for teens to be curious on stuff, but don't overstep your boundaries and get invasive just sit and listen. That's the best advice I can give, don't be an ass, but be honest and attentive.

If you do decide to talk to her Aryandiani, then you'll have to commit to it and not tell your parents. It'd sort of be a betrayal if you did. But if you don't think you can commit to the talk then just let your parents know from the very start. They might not talk to her straight away but they might monitor for a week or so.

If you want to talk to her well maybe..hmmmmmmmm, tell her about a case of someone watching porn and what happened to them, maybe? And then let her know that you know she was watching it late at night and you're worried about her.

Sexually curious kids lol. It's a shame technology has advanced to the point where young kids can so easily watch porn. I remember actually found out WHAT porn is at 16. But anyways, it's good you caught her right now. Because these things can ruin her future. I read an article about a lady who got so addicted to porn she watched it at her workplace and so got fired, but she still continued watching. Don't let it become an addiction for your younger sister.

I aggree with 15 Don't listen to 14 hes just attacking comments

Ah. This is normal for her age. I would probably talk to her about it but calmly. And wait for the right chance too. Talking to her about it in the instant can catch her off guard and trigger something more dangerous. Wait a few days and if you can, try to observe her frequency because as the previous replies states, it is kind of a bad thing for her to be watching those kind of stuff at such a young age. Going to your parents would be your last resort if you can't talk to her about it seriously. Don't rely on them because as a older sibling, you should guide the young :3 Play it cool also, try not to open up with a scolding tone. Beat around the bush first before telling her that it's bad. If she asks you if you do it too, be honest and try to direct your answer into telling her to stop. It would take a lot of effort though so be prepared to ask all kinds of questions because in this age, everyone is curious about everything. Good luck!

You should talk to her about it and try to stop her from watching any more of it. I know it sounds weird, but watching that stuff when you're 11 can mess with your brain after a while.

Ah, tell her to stop.

I watched Evangelion at that age, and now I'm mentally scarred for life. Tell her to watch soft core.

>>20 Evangelion isn't even scary, what are you talking about?

>>21 It's fucking creepy for a kid O.O

She is a little young for that, but kids these days have the mentality of adults, no?

>>23 No, they don't. There's a reason someone wrote a story like Peter Pan

>>23 kids trying to be Chuunibyou is a bad idea

I suggest that you at least try not to let your parents figure that out. Go confront her about it and tell her that it's very bad to watch that kind of stuff and I mean like, if you have to exaggerate or lie a little, it's worth it.

Well, don't tell your parents, they'd probably freak out and your sister will probably feel like you've betrayed her and won't trust you anymore. You should certainly talk to her and try to find out why she's watching it. If it's just curiosity then I honestly don't think it's a big deal. If it's something else, it could be problematic so try to get her to stop. Don't be confrontational and don't make the conversation more awkward than it already is given the topic. Be cool about it.

Well.
I'd say keep it quiet when it comes to your parents because if she knows you're the one who told them there's a sense of betrayal.

What you could do is confront her or you can sneak the device (whatever it may be) and put safety measures on it. Or do both. I think once a child finds out they cant do something they eventually give up on it. Hope this somewhat helped.

Personally, I reckon you should leave the kid alone, especially if sex and puberty are taboo topics in your house - and it sounds like they are. If that is the case, don't tell them. Seriously.

She may not understand fully, but I doubt she's confused about what she's seeing. She's curious. Try to think back to your perceptions were of sex at that age, and what you would have done if you'd had something like internet porn at your disposal.

I got busted by my parents for watching porn as a kid. They cracked the shits, punished me, and generally made me feel bad about it. All it did was embarrass me and cement in my mind that my parents weren't very warm or understanding in regards to personal issues - and that I couldn't talk to them about any of mine.

But if you really feel the need to talk to her about it, don't shame her for it, or even force her to stop. Just explain to her as best you can why you think it's wrong.

Its not wrong though? I mean, its normal for people her age?????? Leave it be?? I mean, its not even illegal either

>>30 Me watching ISIS gore videos isn't illegal either.
>>29 I think the main problem lies in if it becomes as addiction.

>>30 ??????? I mean?? ¿¿¿¿¿

Pretty sure an 11-year-old watching porn actually is somewhat illegal tho

>>31 Well, that'd be a different sort of issue completely.

>>32 It's not illegal to watch porn, regardless of age. Those 18+/21+ notes in terms of service, etc. are required to be there by law, but the law only applies to the service side of it, not the viewers.

>>1 Watching porn at that age is completely normal and not wrong at all. Don't be a dick about it. Yes, she knows it's "bad", she knows it's embarrassing. That's an unnecessary talk neither you nor anyone else should be having with her. She's at a sensitive age, and you do NOT want her to be feeling guilty about what's just her natural sexuality; that's the sort of thing that scars and fucks people up.

If you want to be helpful, use some other context to teach her how to clear her browsing history and position her earbuds so she can still hear those walking behind her, etc. She needs to learn how to explore in private, not how to cower in fear and embarrassment over doing something you personally don't like.

>>34 Yeah, that makes more sense. Used to scare the shit out of me as a kid anyway, though.