So I met three of my best friends last year. I'm going to name them Friend A, B and C to make things less complicated.
Friend A- used to be in same class as me Friend B- is in an accelerate class Friend C- in another class
So I got to know Friend B and C through Friend A last year. Even though we were all in different classes and have very different personalities, we got along fairly well. We hung out almost every break time until term 4 of last year.
In term 4, we'd have a test to sum up everything we've learnt so far. Because Friend B was in the accelerate class, she had to work extra hard or she might have gotten kicked out. She started staying in her form class to study during break times so Friend A got angry at her. Friend C and I were fine because we kinda understood but I know that Friend A doesn't think grades are important. So Friend A started being rude or just ignoring Friend B whenever she saw her. And she would also badmouth Friend B all the time.
After exams, Friend B started hanging out with friends from her own class because she was afraid of Friend A being angry. Around that time, I was accepted to go in to an accelerate class so I picked the one Friend B was in. Friend A was sad about this.
So this year, when school started again. Friend A, B and C hardly saw each other. Since I am in the same class as Friend B, I see her all the time. I go see Friend A during break times when I can. But she gets angry at me whenever I go to my club activities because I'm in quite a lot of clubs. Friend C now hangs out with her other friends but we meet up every friday lunchtime.
It's really hard for me keep this up because they are constantly badmouthing and complaining about each other in front of me. I'm the only one that actually tries to keep our friendship intact. It's become really hard and stressful for me at school now.
friend A seems like a jerk sorta (sorry) but if you wanna keep being friends with her, go ahead.
just because you are friends with both of them dosnt mean they have to be friends with each other. keep yourself out of their conflicts, it has nothing to do with you, even if they try to drag you into it. if worse comes to pass and you are in the middle of the conflict you will get the worst end of whats coming (and will probably only have friend C in the end...)
just keep hanging out with the both of them the way you already are, dont hang out with them at the same time, and dont bring one of them up around the other. if they wanna talk about each other change the subject. eventually they wont bring it up around you (if at all.)
you have 3 options in my opinion
1) hang out with them on different days, or at different times, and dont let them talk about each other
2) get them all together and try to talk out the problem (because it seems like a really petty problem) you try to mediate, dont take any of their sides in the matter, just let them talk without insulting each other and come to a compromise
3) cut ties with the one you like the least, and continue on with your other 2 friends (i dont recommend this one)
