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Anxiety (15)

1 Name: katxlove : 2016-03-07 20:33 ID:RugWUGbj [Del]

Anyone else deal with anxiety? I was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder a couple of months ago. I was hoping to meet someone on here who could give me some advice. Or just someone I could talk to or help if they need it. Anything really <3

2 Name: kaiyo !Q7D/Cr2T.M : 2016-03-07 22:15 ID:ocvIox8E [Del]

Hey i also deal with anxiety i was never diagnosed but i do experience it often so i am always available to talk if u want :) my email is kaiyo.dollars@gmail.com feel free to email me anytime!

3 Name: firefly : 2016-03-07 22:16 ID:4RUXDf/D [Del]

i know this is an old post, but i'm replying just in case i can still help.
what i know about GAD, i learned from textbooks and from what i've learned. the anxiety symptoms come from thinking that things or events are worse than they usually are.. you must have heard that a lot... it may seem too simple but what therapists usually help people with GAD with is objectively assessing sources of stress; for example, what's the worst that can actually happen if you fail a test? this method also helps people with GAD to face the thing that's giving them anxiety; AVOIDANCE IS THE ENEMY...

again, this is what i learned from a book.

personally, i've never been diagnosed but i have experienced terrible anxiety... what helped me was realizing that i was putting too much pressure on myself, i stopped caring about what could happen if things don't go according to plan.. but i think that's becoming a problem in itself... i see that i'm growing more apathetic and i'm lacking the motivation to keep studying or talking to people...
so it's one extreme to another for me

4 Name: katxlove : 2016-03-08 16:49 ID:RugWUGbj [Del]

@firefly
I've noticed I've been doing the same thing. I've tried to stop caring so much about things because when I care, I care too much. But now that I've tried to stop caring so much, I don't care at all. I hate feelings so apathetic towards the people I really do love. But I also hate getting so worked up about things that might not happen. So basically, I understand the one extreme to another.

5 Name: Psycha : 2016-03-08 23:04 ID:utmCD3va [Del]

I have never been diagnosed with anxiety or any other mental health issues, but I feel as though I have one.

I constantly stress and worry about every little thing. For example, if my notes are not neat enough, then I HAVE to re-do them. Even if a test is tomorrow, I would re-do all my notes until they are utter perfection. I think I put too much pressure on myself at times, taking classes that I know I'm bad at just to please my parents (or to get them off my case). I am taking Pre-AP Algebra II, and I loathe it. I never got the basics of Algebra I or Geometry I down, so I have been in constant stress over my mathematics skills. I had never been good at it, and I compare myself to others around me when I know that I shouldn't.

Whenever I fail a test, I would try to put it at the back of my mind, but it's like there is an insect there that keeps on buzzing around my head and keeps on reminding me about it.

I believe that most of my problem stems from constant stress (and possibly sleep-deprivation)...I should seek help or something, but I'm not sure if I should. Like, whether this is just a little stress or something serious, I'm not sure.

So while I can't say that I truly understand what you are going through, nor can I give you much advice other than this: Don't try to become someone like me. Trust me, you'll be utterly miserable.

6 Name: firefly : 2016-03-09 01:08 ID:4RUXDf/D [Del]

@psycha whether it's just a little stress or something serious, you are clearly distressed about this..

I can tell you that subjective distress is an important factor in a diagnosis. A diagnosis or a label may not seem much to others but it can be important to the person struggling with anxiety. It lets them know that there problems are a real, that there are others who feel the same, and that there is a way to get help.

labels can be a terrible thing, but it can also be helpful- labels are powerful.

having said that, even if you don't get a diagnosis, seeking a counselor might still help with the stress a bit. No one but you will know how much your stress is really affecting you so really the decision to seek help is yours.

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8 Name: firefly : 2016-03-09 03:29 ID:4RUXDf/D [Del]

another thing that's helped me is learning more about the symptoms of GAD and the theories behind the treatment of GAD. just a bit of background, I'm a college student and i used to have terrible anxiety.. i would break out in rashes whenever finals rolled around. i recently switch my major to psychobiology and i learned about GAD at a particular psych class. it helped me recognized the patterns in my own thinking that fuel my anxiety, now i can work a bit on controlling the anxiety
(it's a work in progress as you can tell from my first reply)

you can email me at dollars.firefly@gmail.com if you want to talk more

9 Name: Yuki : 2016-03-09 08:37 ID:TfgmmR9r [Del]

I had really bad anxiety, so bad that i could barely leave the house and talking to people made me physically sick. I know how hard it can be, but you'll get through it!

10 Name: Kefka : 2016-03-09 13:44 ID:b0tIFfVd [Del]

I have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression. It haunts me on a day to day basis but I never let it get the best of me. I think that the best advice I could personally give you would be to stay positive. As generic as it may sound it works. Just think positive thoughts. If you decide you wanna talk you could email me at at kekfa.dollars@gmail.com

11 Name: katxlove : 2016-03-09 13:55 ID:RugWUGbj [Del]

I agree with Firefly. Honestly, the label I got from being diagnosed has hindered me a bit, but it's also helped me in a lot of ways. i understand why I am the way I am. I know now that I'm not alone. And it's even helpful when I try and explain to people about why I do certain things or act a certain way. And if people care enough, they'll look up information to help me as well. My boyfriend has been the most supportive and even looked up ways to help me out.
If any of you want to talk, you can email me too. Lol my email is katxlove.dollars@gmail.com :)

12 Name: katxlove : 2016-03-09 14:03 ID:RugWUGbj [Del]

Honestly, I think the worst part of anxiety is the fact that you just don't have control. At least that's how I've always felt about it. Whenever I'm having a panic attack, I know that my reason for panicking is a bit ridiculous or irrational but I can't seem to calm down.

13 Name: Kazumi !HBni2Ej0hU : 2016-05-13 07:42 ID:u9n1tcFI [Del]

I have anxiety as well, and though it's not officially diagnosed or anything, it's gotten bad enough that had to start seeing a counsellor. There were some days when I just couldn't function at all, I was so sick with anxiety over something so small and stupid.

I agree that the worst part of having anxiety is not being able to control it. But something else that sucks is when you're surrounded by people who have no idea how to help you. And that's not their fault, I get that. But so often, I'll go to my mum and mention that I'm feeling anxious about something dumb, and she'll reply with "Well don't worry about it." And man, if it were that easy, I wouldn't need to see a counsellor. I can't not worry about it. I once heard the analogy that depression (I know this seems off topic but bear with me) is like being in the middle a deep, fast flowing river, and only barely managing to grab hold of a rock from time to time. People are standing on the river banks, yelling "WHy don't you just get out of the river?" And other such stupid things, but no one is actually throwing you a rope or anything. I think anxiety is a lot like this. Very few people have actually tossed me ropes and at least attempted to pull me out.

I don't know if any of this was helpful, but it felt good to get it off my chest. If you want to talk, my email is kazukazu.dollars@gmail.com

14 Name: Ikaru : 2016-05-13 08:23 ID:GepYILhC [Del]

I'll try to do the best I can, if you want you can talk me Ikarudollars@gmail.com n.n

15 Name: Smoyd !!V7GAyyMH : 2016-05-14 11:27 ID:QuBKVp74 [Del]

>>13 Mental illness is so difficult, because to follow your river example, most people have been in a pond before and had to get out. And they think getting out of the river is the same thing. It's nothing like physical illness, where getting people to understand they are ignorant about a condition is trivial compared to depression or anxiety...

Just a couple days ago, I lied to someone on the street. I think at this point it's obvious I did. Now, I'm afraid to go out grocery shopping or walk around outside because I might see them again. I haven't stopped thinking about it for 48 hours.

The thing I have learned is most of the time, you aren't directly 'wrong' in your thinking. The thing you are anxious about really does have consequences, and there is real possibility of something bad happening to you. The key is that caring about those consequences so deeply is wrong. Even though next time I see that person they will likely be upset with me, I can't care about it as much as I do right now.

Of course, after realizing this, I didn't stop getting anxious. But it made it very clear where I had to focus and improve. Every time I get anxious about something, I know exactly why it is wrong to think it. Slowly, I think I will improve.

Not there yet, haha.
I like your post a lot, thanks for sharing.