During first semester of sixth grade, I had a crush on a very shy and quiet guy at school. He didn't really talk to anyone that much unless it was a teacher, parent etc. I decided to talk to him one day and we began talking everyday and we became best friends. We talked to me everyday and we got to know each other very well.
It wasn't until eighth grade began that he started becoming more and more close to me. He would follow me nearly everywhere. He would follow me at school, after school, and sometimes when I go out with my friends. I began to brush it off thinking it's nothing.
However, the other day, we were talking about stuff until he needed to use the restroom. As he went, I decided to snoop around his phone to see if he had any embarrassing pics. I knew his passcode already since I always see him put it all the time. But that was a big mistake. When I look through the photos, there were sooo many photos of me on his phone. There were ones at school, after school and even ones that I have no idea how he took.
He is a kind and gentle person. But I'm scared. I'm not sure what to do. I didn't tell anyone cause I feel like something bad will happen. Help.

wow.. that is quite scary, IF it wasn't your best friend. Hmm... Do you trust him? I would go over everything I know about my before doing anything in that case. I would think of "why" and "what would he do if I confront him about it". I think you should think about it before confronting him. If you trust him and think that you know him like nobody else than you might figure out why he did that. Do you think he has a crush on you too? but is scared or not prepared to confront you about it? you might as well ask his friends about what he thinks of you. but make sure that you trust them to not tell him about it.

First off that's just creepy, second if it harmless you should inform someone you know (preferably an adult) but if it gets worse defiantly inform your parents and maybe even the authorities, but if you've known him for two years and he's never done anything harmful what so ever, then you might want to inform a friend who you can completely trust.

Hello, I do agree with what was said already, I think that you should spend a lot of time thinking about your relationship with him before you say anything. The best case scenario would be that he has a crush on you the worst would be an obsession. I think that because you are so close to him it would be best when you are ready to talk to him and ask him why he has so many photos of you on his phone. Based on his answer you can then decide what to do. I haven't been in a situation like this so all I can say is to be careful ad be completely honest with him on how you feel and see how he reacts. That is scary though and it's best to be cautious I hope this helps and I hope everything works out for you!

>>2 I do trust him. I really do. He would act a bit strange around me. Maybe he does have a crush on. Now that I think about it, he began acting strange everytime I mention any of my other guy friends. And I'll think about talking to my other friends about it.
Maybe he does like me.

>>4 he is a bit sensitive but I'll be cautious.

Talk to him, but be prepared, like bring a weapon JUST IN CASE

>>7 Isn't a weapon a bit too much?
>>6 Make sure to talk to him in a public place, just in case, but it sounds like a crush to me.

He obviously likes you, and probably has for a long time. Hard to say whether or not his feelings for you are healthy ones. It's kind of a lose lose situation because now if you bring up the photos on his phone, he'll know you were snooping through his stuff (which is NOT okay). He'll just get defensive and probably turn the conversation on you. either way, it's certainly something that should be discussed in person somewhere safe.

As for any kind of weapon, Pepper spray will do and is something you'd be better off carrying around anyway.

He is stalking you I don't think he will do anything bad but to be safe just report to your teacher or parents or just talk to him you don't need a weapon people can misunderstand and you could land into trouble

>>9 No, we can't just say that, for this story is only told from Katri's POV. If we got the perspectives of other people within the story that she told, we would then be able to truly understand it all.
1 in a million chance, Katri has been targeted by assassins and this dude is protecting her.

How shy would he be in the scale of 1 to 10. If he really is shy his ability to socially interact might need work, the best thing to do is to help him find friends. If he really is stalking you remind him that there is a thing called personal space in a calm manner. If he does not stop stalking inform a teacher or a parent right away for your safety is more important than anything. Try to give it some thought on the situation. Then choose the right choice that ensures the safety of everyone that you know and he knows. Sorry if this might seem too much information. try to think things in a calm manner that ensures the safety of everyone including your self. This might seem way to long it is because I have seen this situation before between some friends, and panicked for i did not know what to do and i still do not know but i gave you what little i know so use it if you like.

that is creepy, but just be careful, if things get out of hand, you needa do something.

This is obviously stalking, which is illegal. So he can get in enormous amounts of trouble. I would get help in this type of situation, and not internet help. But help from the law.

This is so fucking stupid it's painful.

Firstly, looking through someone else's phone is absolutely disgraceful. It is unacceptable. Do you not know that that is an invasion of privacy? It is one of the most disrespectful things you can ever do. What next, would you break into his house and have a cheeky snoop just to look for a few embarrassing photos? Learn some respect for others' belongings you nosy brat.


You said the guy is shy and quiet. The kid probably doesn't have the guts to do shit to you. Since you're his close friend and he's a shy lad, you're probably one of the only girls he cares about. This guy doesn't know what he likes and what he doesn't like in a girl 'cause he has no experience. If he's hitting puberty or if we consider the fact that he's probably sexually frustrated, you can kind of guess that he doesn't know how to deal with these strange and unfamiliar thoughts and emotions. So what if he takes a few pictures of a friend he cares about and doesn't want to lose? A boy's first fap is always the best when the fap-fuel is a female he is familiar with. He ain't gonna rape you; don't flatter yourself.

>>15 I like your train of thoughts

I was pretty confused on why people are scared or disgusted by this kind of behaviour. This is usually a common thing. Its just peoples' thoughts turn to extreme if they deem other person's behaviour weird or creepy. People really didn't reconsider the other person's POV. I think of his behaviour like cute and adorable.

>>1 You mentioned that you have a crush on this guy. Why don't you take the initiative and ask him out? He is just way too shy to ask you out, so don't expect much for him to take initiative. He's just probably content with just seeing you everyday.

>>1 You've been fine till now, live with it

I don't get you guys ^...lol

It's actually kind of annoying. When I go out in public at times, rednecks decide to take my photos for I don't know what reason (Reclaim Australia?). Ohh and it's not because I'm hot or anything believe me. But yeah, similar thing happened to mum, she went to a house auction, a lady from the next house takes a photo of her on her phone.....and then quickly runs back into the house.(???)

Fine they took a photo, but what are they using it for? My sis's photo got used on a phobic extremist's website page. Had some pretty hurtful things in it even if it wasn't directed at her. It feels just as bad as knowing someone backbites about you, and it's not even true.

I might even become targetted. Because that's a thing in some communities. They like to track down specific people. Which is why the lady took a pic of mum. She thought she might move in next door to her so she 'better keep tabs' like most rednecks do (?) yeeeeeeee naaaaaaa rofl.

Luckily we're gypsies moving houses once every year...

>>1 Don't take any measures yet. But if it starts to feel dangerous, take action then. Currently photos won't do much. Also,



Fuck you Roosh V, cuz relevance.

>>18
Pretty sure they were taking photos to use them in some kinda modern hex

Hey, I think we're around the same age! Okay so now for your problem.... First, if he's such a quiet and shy boy, then I don't think he'll do anything bad to you. And, you guys know each other very well, like mentioned, right? Then try and look back to see if his family may have any problems, such as alcoholic abuse, child abuse, ECT. The reason why for this is because if his family has problems, then its most likely he's a bit messed up inside as well. If he his family does have problems, and be a little more wary about his stalkerish attitude. Of course, don't ask bluntly or anything, just observe and think about it. Lol, and don't over think anything either. Try to watch him more so that he wont be able to take as much photos as he did, because he most likely does not want you to know. If you do catch him in the act, just ask to see the pic in a lighthearted way, then go like, "delete it, I look ugly in that photo!" (Of course, I don't mean that I think your ugly or anything, you could be really pretty for all I know)Then watch him delete it cuz he most likely will. Also, don't grab the phone and delete yourself, because then he'll see how much you hate it and get all paranoid about you finding out how many pics he has of you. I don't think you can do much about the photos he already has, but try to stem the flow of candid photos so that he wont have as much opportunities to take more pics.

Be very careful. You previously mentioned that he was shy at first but grew attached. This can be associated with an obsession. Don't tamper too much on his phone, because he might find out, and act drastically. I really think you should alert his parents on the situation so that they can monitor him to an extent. You should also tell a student councillor so that they can hash it out. Until then act like it's all good

I think that he is obviously in love with you but maybe cause you are so dear to him he likes to keep every moment of you close to him. Maybe he was hurt very bad in the past (would also explain why he is so shy) and that he absolutely doesn't want to let go of you. So even if you quit being friends he has still something to hold on to

Everyone has a different take on this, but i tend to agree more with the people who are talking about a crush, that's definitely what i sounds like to me. I assume you're in year 9 or 10? I would think that he probably has a crush on you, but feels rather intensely about it, perhaps he has certain boundary issues (aside from the obvious) and doesn't quite understand why his behaviour would be seen as wrong, or maybe he does and just feels awkward about it but doesn't believe anything could go wrong from it. The best idea i've heard is talking to him about it in a public place. If he's a close friend i can't imagine that he means you any sort of harm, but it's better to be safe than sorry. You should either talk to him at school somewhere that people aren't going to eavesdrop on you but aren't absent either (like out a field at lunch or something, just somewhere visible and spacious) or meet with him at the shops or a cafe or something on a weekend. But you really should talk to him about it. If you're that worried something bad might happen you should talk to your parents and ask them for help, if they think it's a big enough issue they might contact the school or his parents. Just make sure you're cautious and if you don't think he means ill in this then just be wary of his feelings, let him tell you why he's doing what he's doing. If you feel legitimately threatened by what he is doing though then don't hesitate to speak to someone about it.

As for the whole looking through his phone thing, you could say he left it open by accident, or you could be honest about it an offer an apology, then make sure the conversation stays on the topic of him having pictures of you. Hope everything works out alright for you!

21 said that you should alert his parents, i agree but if you do I recommend you make sure the parents will not tell or even HINT who told them. Why? Because he might feel betrayed and then he might come to hate you as strongly as his currently obsession. In my opinion, I wouldn't mind him so being so crazy over you, but if he um steals your stuff (?) or hurts you then I'd be very worried! This is just me though, maybe him having tonnes of your photos is a big warning to you.

I think that that boy is just very lonely... I mean I think he started to get very lonely without u because that's what close people do, they are pieces to their puzzles.