Not as serious as half of the problems I see on here, but it has been bothering me.

So, there was this person (we'll call them A) who punched me in the face a while ago because I accidentally hit them with a frisbee, and they thought I was laughing at them.

Ever since, I've been avoiding them in every way possible, and I don't acknowledge them at all. I've never been hit before so I didn't know how to deal with this, so I decided this is the most comfortable option.

Now to present time. I was walking the Track with my friends, and A called me out, said some things I didn't really hear, and then cursed a bit. I'm still pretty shaken up from it because I am afraid of them. I'm not gonna pretend I'm not.

So, my issue is that I don't know how I set them off. Maybe they thought I was being passive aggressive and decided to respond? I saw A there as we were passing, and just avoided all sense of eye-contact, so I honestly don't know what happened.

After I had gotten punched, a lot of people asked me if I wanted to hit them back, I said no because I am a pacifist (or at east working to be one). In all honestly, I've never been in a physical altercation, and I don't think I could willingly hit someone else.

So, as much as it shouldn't have, this incident has affected me very negatively, and I need help.

Tips? Questions?

Was the first time A met u was a frisbee in the face? Just say u don't like me and we were probaly never supposed to met.that what I would do. I don't usually talk to people besides online. But I think that's how I would deal with it if I wasn't shy.

>>2 Yeah, that was the first time I've met them. I've been thinking over the talking method, but A is too aggressive for that. They are like a bomb that is ready to go off at any time.

>>3 Yeah, They'll probably just keep picking on you because they can. Being a pacifist is nice and all, but some people need their legs swept. You have to stand up for yourself eventually.

I'm a small guy, 21yrs and 5 ft nothin' I know what it's like to be targeted and wanting to avoid a fist fight. But you gotta show you have some balls or it'll only get worse. Just make sure you have some friends on your side in case things get hairy.

>>3 Yeah........I'd fucking be pissed at anyone that laughed at me if when they throw a Frisbee at my face.

Have you tried, important word here, SINCERELY apologizing?

Usually stops people from being an aggressive dick towards you.

"So, my issue is that I don't know how I set them off." What a cunt, you hit them in the face with a frisbee, and they thought you were laughing at them, WHAT ELSE COULD PISS THEM OFF!

>>5 I assumed apologizing was one of the first things they did. Could be wrong.

>>6 Well he didn't flesh out his story.

>>5 They thought I laughed at them, which I didn't. Laughing at someone I potentially hurt is wrong.

When I hit them with the frisbee, they were about to get mad at someone else, so I went over there, and apologized, and then they punched me. I didn't hit them with it in the face? Where are you guys getting that part from? I sad I hit them with it, it was on there arm.

So, yeah, I did apologize.

>>4 Thank you for the advice. I really don't think I can hit anyone though. I can try to defend myself if they to try to hit me again, but I'm not much of a fighter.

But seriously, where does it say I hit them in the face with a frisbee? I did hit them with it, but definitely not in the face.

>>5 And I just realized I didn't reply to the last part.

I didn't know what I did to set them off while I was walking the Track. This is probably a month or so after the incident. I wasn't doing anything at the time to acknowledge them in any way, so what did I do to set them off while walking with my friends?

I'm not trying to be sarcastic here, but is it really my fault for them thinking I was laughing? Someone else was laughing, but that was their friend right next to them, and another friend of theirs a little further from them. How could they mistake me?

>>8 *their arm

Use your words and don't get your ass kicked. Just think about it before you say anything.

>>10 I'll try to do that if they are hostile directly towards me. Do you think they'll be more irritated if I just ignore them? I thought ignoring people is a good way to avoid conflict.

You might want to get someone who can handle this, if you cant, them speak to A face to face, nothing gets solved if you put it off

what kind of little bitch gets this pissed about getting hit by Frisbee, i would jump them.

>>12 I feel like speaking face to face to them will get me hurt again. And no one can really handle it.

>>13 Yeah, that's what I don't understand about all this.

Okay...just an update. Things settled down, I think. They haven't said anything else to me, so maybe just a heat of the moment thing? I hope so.

Perhaps I'm being paranoid, but sometimes, it almost seems like A wants me to notice them. I feel like A will purposely gravitate towards me, just to get a reaction. I never look up when they are near me though. Don't want to give them a reason to bother me.

Thanks to everyone for the replies.

If things are settling down, then the best thing is to just let things pass and hope everything calms over. If things get worse, just avoid them. Hopefully this helps

m8, things my seem bad... but never dismiss paranoia, if your really woried tell a teacher or better still FORGIOVE THEM AND MOVE ON! and be his friend.

Matthew 5:43-48

Love for Enemies
43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor[a] and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.