So I'm in 7th grade and have a small group of friends containing 4 people(including myself). Next year,2 of these people will be moving to a different school and the person staying isn't very close to me. I'm not sure who I'm going to hang out with because the groups have already been made. Not to mention I'm horrible at making new friends. I've searched up about these things a bunch of time and it says to just be myself. And I am being myself. The problem is that I dwn't have a group to hang out with. I don't want to eat lunch by myself at all.
I'm like you. I think I might have it a little worst tho... I have made best friends then have them move away every year I lose someone. I'm also in 7th and I'm afraid of change. Change is my biggest fear and I know it will always be, there's nothing I can do to fix it or anything, change is constant, I am not, I can't deal with that all the time but I try to help others. Here's what I did: 1:I looked around and saw that people were actually reaching out. No matter how many times I pushed myself away, singled myself out, building walls of cement and all thoughts on hold, I still saw that people were still trying to reach out to me. I have a big family, but because of something that happened in my past I can no longer see the world as some happy "Live life free" person. I take everything seriously and I think I'll never change. I hope to never change, I'm scared out of my mind about change. Anyway... 2:I did something I never did before, I stopped the distance. I pushed myself into going at least 30% of the way and if they wanted to be my friend at least they saw what they would be a friend with. 3:I starting writing poems. They are really good actually and my new friends really like them (they are pretty sad and deathlike tho). 4:I started doing things I would never do with my friends. I joined two clubs and a team. It was a small start in the sacrifice we call friendship. 5:I looked around again and remembered all the things I've learned about the people around me and thought "wow, the world around me isn't really all that bad. I know everyone and they know about me, we're no longer strangers"
Seriously, writing, music, anime, etc. can only get you so far. You have to get yourself to the part where you think you can actually smile and laugh without knowing. Where when you're asked to point out your best friend you point to at least 5 different people. And where you feel you're truly happy surrounded by reality.
Hey, I went through all that too about two years ago. Due to drama I had with my pervious friend I ended up losing my whole main crew (which contained the five of us including me). The next school year when I first hit high school, I literally had no one to sit with during lunch. All I did was jump from table to table. (It's pretty fun, try it for once when you get the chance. Lol.) But because of that, I managed to find some cool friends who I can sit with and eat with rather than hopping all over the place all the time.
Basically, you just gotta get out there. Yes, be yourself. But if you're just gonna be yourself and wait for them to come then it's not going to happen. Search for them, be yourself, and you'll get just what you want. Because I knew a lot of people, I was able to jump from one to the other. So it might be different for you. Do it your way and style. I can guarantee that you'll find some cool friends if you at least try. (;
I've had this problem, but now I don't feel like trying. I'll give you what my counselor gave me. He told me to analyze people and mix it up with being yourself. I'm also a 7th grader and I enjoy to sit next to no one and look at the people around me. I think humans are amazing! There actually awesome the way they think and never stop thinking! I love love them, but not as much as Izaya. Just analyze and mix. Also speak a bit louder, that was one of my main problems. Just imagine the yourself as some food and the analysis as spice and also hope it tastes good!
