Im 20 years old, I seem to lose every friend i've ever had. Ive had friends, but none who would hang out with me more then school. Ive had friends that live far away, friends who i try to keep in contact with. They would talk to me for at most a week after they went away, then I would hear from them less, till they no longer answered me. For the longest time I thought it was normal, I thought I was meant to be alone. But then i entered college, and i met someone who liked hanging out with me, someone who would talk to me. They talked to me over summer even though we lived a few states away. We hanged out, we started dating, my first romance. after a few months we broke up, they felt like we were better as friends, they were also going though there own things. We are still friends, and for a while we talked a lot, but then they started talking to me less, I know they have there own things, but they are the only person who talks to me, and the only person i trusted to tell them everything. Im scared im going to lose them like every other friend. I used to feel fine about being alone, but now that I know what it feels like to have someone who cares, i don't want to lose them. I don't know what to do and it feels like no one cares at all, and i care so much, i want to talk to them but i don't want them to feel like im guilting them. ive always been the person that no one pays attention to, so im sure this will get nothing. but im scared and i just need to not feel alone.

"To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing" -Albert Hubbard

It'll be life, there are many friendships out there that don't want commitment which means no meeting out of school or uni. I have that going as well. My solution? Just go to as many different places as possible, join as many different groups as possible. You won't feel alone as you will meet people in places they want to be met but I can't guarantee you will have friends. But at least you won't be lonely.

I honestly am in a similar spot as you, I've always had a lot of friends but even then I still feel alone because I can never really say how I feel without them shrugging me off and say that I'm being "dramatic".

>>3 that is exactly it. and im on break for a semester from college so everyone i know is away and it makes the loneliness worse

Sorry in place of all your friends :( I have the horrible habit of getting to know someone but then leaving the friendship when I discover things I do not like. Little things are okay but a liar, player, manipulator and types like that are not okay to me.

I found someone who is tolerating my pathetic habit of fading off (not trying hard enough and trust issue), weird interests and a lot of other crap I carry. Their reason as to why they wanted to stay my friend was because I am the first to open up to them. It was just an impulse that I should tell them. Maybe you will find someone who will stay with you because of a small reason like in my situation. Good luck!

I used to feel that same way. I'm 13 and every time I get close to someone and they become my best friend I loose them (one even moved from American where I'm at to Germany) and when I talk to them again I hear them go on and on about how they've already moved on without me and so I felt left out. I've been depressed off and on since age 8ish. The way I got over it is...well acually I never got over it I still fear being left behind but I guess last year after losing my longest best friend I realized staying in the past made me have no life, lingering on the past is good but only on certain things. So I forced myself to move on. I found new friends who reached out to me but the wall of my past stopped them so we broke the wall little by little and now the pain is no longer that bad.

It's a part of growing up. Luckily I still regularly hang out with the friends I met at my gym, but the friends I made elsewhere? Last time I hung out with them was Halloween. I always ask if they want to hang out, but they either never answer or say that they are busy or tired. Doesn't stop me from having fun though. You will lose friends. That's a part of life. Very few people go through their lives without losing friends. You're not weird or anything. Quite the opposite actually. It's perfectly normal. It's sad, but it's true. You are 20 years old. My life didn't even START 'til I hit 20 years old. That was the age that I decided to actually start talking to the people from my gym more and actually hang out with them. I even took a road trip to Philadelphia with them a week ago. And that's just one of numerous great memories I had made with them over this past year. Don't wait for friends to have fun. Just go out and try meeting people. You never know! Had I not started talking to those guys from my gym, I would have probably made this thread before you did! Just go out and try. Even if you only make one friend, guess what, that's one friend more than you already have! Then they have their friends and you'll be introduced to them and now you have even more friends! Just believe in yourself and put yourself out there. Possibilities are endless! And if you need someone to talk to, I'm your man!

I can relate that bro. But don't worry, be happy.