My closest guy-friend is becoming popular in our after school club. Our club has approximately 100 students in attendance every week. Most of the girls that I know in the club that have a crush on him are my close friends. He knows them well, too, but he and I are practicing Muslims, so we don't really talk to the opposite gender, unless a situation calls for it.

This week the club had a guest speaker come in to talk about gender relations. During the meeting, I texted him to "Pay close attention to the lecture," since it would provide him information on how to act around girls. He doesn't know that whatever he does is captivating my friends and is causing them trouble. My friends are not the same as they were last school year. They are staying late at school and not leaving until he leaves (I leave with him too, since we get off at the same stop on our way home). They're putting a strain on themselves just to be in his presence.

I don't want my friends to be troubled by whatever it is that's causing them trouble, be it their thoughts or my friend's actions. The lecture during the club meeting never really answered this question. How can I, a third-party member, intervene in this situation, to defend my guy-friend's reputation and to also not hurt my friends?

I don't know if this makes sense. If my friends think he's worth it, and if they think that he might like them back, then they will begin to act upon these feelings, which eventually leads to something bad happening. He already swore that he doesn't like anyone. However, there will come a point where they realize that he's not worth it, and they will be disheartened by the realization.

I want to prevent the above scenarios from happening. But I don't know how. Someone please help!

So basically you want them to stay infatuated with him whilst not making any kind of advances?
Sorry to say, but that's impossible. And actually it's pretty rude.

You can't stop girls from liking a male they think is handsome. Every time a person talk to me about someone they love, I ask them, "What do you like about him\her other than their looks?" And if they say "nice in general, smart, out-going, kind" they're just appreciating them for what they are, and not of any bond they've really had together. Stay true to yourself to make sure you are not jealous. Situations like this could have you be the "Jealous, over-protective friend." It might be best to let them be heartbroken after all of this, so that they learn about a better love throughout relationships and rejections. It's not a bad idea to let someone hurt themselves if they will learn in a positive way for future references. I hope what I had to say helps! :)

Hmmm confusing...So you're a practicing muslim.....are your friends also muslims? I know a point where girls just wanna have a crush on someone for the sake of it. He'll be eating instant noodles and the girls would probably find it 'sexy' the way he makes it (errrrmegawwwwd he added the boiling water).

But they're your friends aye? I'd like to say to just be blunt about how ridiculous they look but then again that wouldn't phase them much.

And to tell the guy that what he's doing is attracting girls would be kind of hmmm...mean i suppose? That's unless he's doing it on purpose knowing that the girls are literally killing themselves for him. Then it's a fag move I'm sorry >,> And you'd ought to tell him just that.

But let the girls have their heart-throbbing thoughts of his presence. You'll just have to monitor the situation if one of your pals do try and make a stupid move. (And god I know what they can get up to...)

But you can't baby your guy-friend....just remember that...You can't talk to him either way so unless he's breaking school/moral rules. Just don't do anything from his perspective.

>>4 Yes they are Muslims.

Thank you all for the advice :)