So I have this friend that I am super close with (best friends) and I recently told her that I love her. The main problem is she is in a relationship with another guy. I have known her for about 3 years now and I think I messed stuff up. Yes I really did mean what I said to her.
Any advice anyone out there can give me would be really appreciated.
You shouldn't have said that if she's in a relationship... I don't know what else to say. It's one thing if you always liked her and she ended up with someone else. It's another thing if you developed these feelings during their relationship. Neither of which are too good. I don't approve of pursuing this, it's a little unfair to the others involved. If you really can't get over it, then you'll just have to wait and see what happens. Anything else is a bit selfish.
I know I shouldn't have said anything, but I did always feel that way about her. I told her now cause I didn't want to never-not tell her. Plus her boyfriend is a pathetic NEET who she is going to leave soon. But that is just an excuse to make me feel better. And I can see were I was selfish, thank you for your response.
I don't think there's anything wrong with confessing to someone who is with someone else. Being in a relationship can make someone forget they have options and let them put up with being treated poorly. But actively pursuing someone who's taken, or trying to guilt trip them out of their relationship, or insulting their bf/gf in their presence, etc. etc. would be really uncool.
Just see how it goes and keep an open mind to being with other girls. You don't want to be the stereotypical shoujo-best-friend who "waits" for someone that will never really be interested in them.
Hey I think that you should just give her some time and space. she is probably really stressed and confused about the situation. I do think its ok to say how you feel but its tricky and almost unfair to do that if the other person is in a relationship. If i were you i would just wait and see what happens, dont pressure her but let her think and see what she does. Good luck
7 Name: Holo the Wise Wolf : 2016-01-29 17:50 ID:it9YqT0v [Del]
Do her on the kitchen table infront of her boyfriend. It's the only solution unfortunately.
What the hell? Have you lost your mind Holo? I can only hope that, that is a joke and you have more common sense than to actually suggestion something so disgusting and demeaning to someone. That is not the only solution and you can do better than to give such a detestable response to QuarterAve's question, you pig.
Well its not the best thing to do. But since i did something similar i am not one to judge, am i? I understand how you feel. Its hard to stay quiet about these kind of things :/ Well i still regret what i did to that girl. Hope you will have more luck.
