It's my first time to post a thread here. And I've been thinking about it a lot , I have to share .... just to make a breather for myself.

So here goes.

I am a socially awkward person. I don't know how to react to things properly. If you were joking I don't know if I would laugh loud or just giggle or just comment on your joke. If you would be crying in front of me I don't know what to do , if I were to say anything to you to comfort you or just stay quiet. And then if you were my friend I bet you would be annoyed with me everyday because I am so quiet and it's because I don't know what topic to throw, and just by staying this quiet I gained enemies and haters and the same goes with not being quiet but still I'm tactically a normal person. So what do you prefer for me to do ?? Is it good to only stay quiet as usual and be a loner for yourself ? And for someone who is socially Awkward should I continue being tact and do not stay quiet?

Hey so this is my first reaction on this site, so kind of exiting for me too:)
i know your problem. Last year something happened in my life, but I did not really feel like people were there for me when they needed to, so I lost my trust in my friends etc. So after that I became a lot more quiet and socially awkward. But I feel like you should just be yourself and eventually you will find people who will like you for who you are. And quietness is not a bad thing, you can listen to people and that is a good thing.
But when you feel like you don't know what to say, just listen to others and say what you think about a certain subject. Or ask about the news, weather etc. Those are just basic things, but at some point you will be able to have deeper conversations.
Just be yourself and I'm sure everything will be okay in the end!

I agree with Queenapplepie. I'm also socially awkward and have a lot of enemies too. But you should just be yourself and do what you think is best for the situation. If people are being rude to you, because you're quiet, just tell them what you feel. I think they would understand and it's the same for me. Just be straightforward and tell them how you feel. And ifyou're not sure what to say, just smile. Because a smile always help.
If you're unsure what to say, just tell them that. You can't do anything wrong. There may be people out there, who might not understand you, but it doesn't matter. You're you and there are enough people who would accept you the way you are. We're all awkward. You're not alone.
I hope this makes you feel better. :)

Queenapplepie , Noiz :) Thank you very much . I will definitely do that :D *sighs* I am finally relieved. Then I shall always smile from now on and remember both of your words. Thanks ^___^

uhm is there a thing called a charisma that makes people hate you?? because I am sensing I have that . or I'm just paranoid. Maybe things just happen or not and I am only imagining it. :/ Sometimes I hated being myself because I have no confidence , because I haven't talked this out with someone yet, but now .... I think i'll be fine :D again thanks very much ^___^ I hope I could overcome this :)

Futaba-chan,
I'm glad my words helped you feel better. A charisma that makes people hate you? I don't think so. If people hate you, then it can only be because of your attitude towards them, or you justhave bad chemistry with them.
Don't worry, you'll be fine. :)

Im so glad that i could have been of help to you Noiz. And futabe-chan, neither do i believe in a charisma that makes people hate you. And when people hate you without you having done anything wrong to them, its their fault. not yours. So stay strong fellow awkward humans :)

"speak good or keep silent" That is often the best way to avoid creating enemies. You do have normal reactions but you might be going a tad slower than most people around you at it. There's another quote which (it's not negative I promise) has stayed with me through my whole highschool (5) years:

"To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing".

So you can't obviously 'be nothing' unless you really wanted to. But anything and everything you do, it's like a statement of your character to the world. Heck, just drinking tea instead of coffee will get you a bit of lashing by someone else. So go out there and create enemies and haters! Anyways you're just being you and it's okay.

>>5 Btw, charisma isn't usually what makes people hate you, it's probably when you know it's there and you start boasting about it to people. THAT my friend becomes narcissism. And people hate that lol

Right :D Thank goodness I was wrong about what I thought. I feel like I'm in a therapy right now while reading your response , I don't know how to feel.

@Kokkuri-san (first off I felt like I've summoned you) That's what I was trying to do but knowing the fact that I would have haters , makes don't wanna be nothing . It's the thing that's hard for me..... I want friends and yet I wanna be myself >> the quiet one. So ironic . But then , I'll better keep that quote in mind :) perhaps it'll help me out from my situation :) as it went well with you :D

@Queenapplepie : Perhaps you're right I have to shrug these things off of my head and start being who I am. which is really hard as just what I said. And also this thing (I am telling you) I am trying to get it off my system because I may not be able to survive the real world in my course of BROADCASTING . I am like this and my course is not well-fitted for who I am.

so I am digesting all of your words from now on. and hoped it'll go fine and well. :D Thank you very much for your response :) Noiz , Queenapplepie, Kokkuri-san , I appreciate all the words and comfort :D I extend my prayers to God for all you :D