Im sure there are plenty of you who've had a relationship that would last forever but ends up in ruins. I was wondering if some of you would like to share you advice to those who are in need of the help.

I wouldn't trust anyone here. I put up something about a relationship and the situation I'm in, and all I got was fucked up advice. No one here helps or gIves good advice.

Are you still having the same problems with that relationship and the feelings you got from it?

Me and my ex were opposites. High school sweethearts. We were together for almost seven years. Over time, it got worse. We drifted apart, our differences became more blatant, and she fell out of love.

Ultimately, she ended things without saying anything. I didn't hear from her for a couple months and she changed her Facebook profile photo to a picture of her and her "guy friend" being close. That was the end of it and the last I ever saw of her.

It's been over two years now.

I only really blame myself and I like to accept that reality despite how irrational it probably seems. I have nothing against her. My past flaws stood out to me but I try to learn from them.

I've applied what I've learned to my current relationship. I've become more open with things and gained almost infinite patience. I've come to understand myself a lot better and how to appreciate those that are truly important.

Advice? I guess it's mostly common sense though I was pretty oblivious to most of it due to being a dumbass.
* Give your partner plenty of attention and affection.
* Be patient with them as well as everything else in your life.
* Passive-aggressiveness isn't really appealing.
* Don't give up on yourself. Even if they don't give up on you, pessimism and self-deprecation can wear them out.
* Try to keep things fresh and new. Routines make relationships stagnant.

I just saw your post, Random- Neko ♡. I will be the first to admit that the vast majority of the people on the personal board are insensitive and are only here to try and hurt you. They don't care if they hurt you. They don't care what horrible things that can happen when they say what they say. But there are also a number of people that want you to be happy. I am one of those people. If you want to talk to me you can email me at blaze.dollars@gmail.com or message me on google hangouts at Blaze of the dollars. If you want I will help you to the best of my abilities. If you don't want to trust me that is fine too. I just want to help. I will be praying for you even if you dont contact me. If you want my help feel free to ask and I will get back to you as soon as possible.

>>2 just because certain people said something you didn't want to hear doesn't mean that no one gives good advice. These few people are always trolling, so you should just ignore them. I saw the thread you posted and some people actually tried to help. Did you try listening to those who tried to help instead of looking at those who trolled? In my opinion, your situation was fucked up because you got yourself into it. No point in pushing the blame to others because you can't get yourself out of the situation you got yourself into in the first place.

It's only trolling if that's what you think it is. Lol. Seemingly stupid comments can hold value sometimes.

>>7 stop adding fuel to the fire. You're one of the trolls that I'm talking about. You and NZPIEFACE should get off Personal and go haunt other boards. You're always around, so I guess you two don't have anything better to do but to sit in front of the computer and jab other people to make your own hurt pride feel better, huh?

I thought we already had a relationship advice thread, but I can't seem to find it. I know it existed, I just can't recall the name of it.

We did? -_-
First and foremost cause of breakup (according to me): talking about your relationship to ppl on the internet / irl instead of sorting it out with your partner.

>>2 There are people who are willing to help.
>>8 Like what I've said in my former comments in other threads, Holo and NZPIEFACE were like PARTNERS IN CRIME. You'll get pissed if you have read "SOME" of their comments. What's important is that you are willing to help those people in need, regardless of those people who are distracting. Keep it up and let us continue helping one another.

Eh, looks like you got a slew of haters wolfie & piepie.
Ah well.

We're all getting off topic, so how about I give some real advice for once?

>>1 People change, and people aren't perfect to begin with. Even if you think it'll last forever, there are probably some sides to the other party that you don't know about and will put you off, and vice versa.

>>8 Dat drama doe. I'm honestly impressed.

I don't have a lot of experience in romance and whatnot (I've only been in two relationships), but I guess common sense dictates that if you experience a conflict with your S/O, you sort it out with them.

No one is perfect, so you have to learn to accept your partner's flaws along with their strengths. So what if there are sides of the other person you don't know? Take the time to learn them. If you still don't like what you ended up with, break up. It may seem harsh, but it is better in the long run compared to sticking to someone you can't live with.

My advice:

If you can't see spending the rest of your life with the one you are involved with, do not waste your time or their time.

The worst thing we do in life, is make decisions based on other people's feelings. There is something to be said about absolute and true self preservation.

Society looks at self-preservation as being selfish. Which in itself has a negative connotation to it. There is nothing wrong with worrying about yourself and your needs before you worry about anyone else's. Like they say, you've got to be happy with YOU before you're happy with anyone else.

It's okay to be selfish, its not okay to be be a dick about it though, and I think because people synonymize being selfish with being a dick, when people are actually being selfish, they are really just being massive, veiney dicks.

Be selfish about your life, don't be a massive dick.

Because once you learn how to care for yourself, you then learn how to take care of others and be honest with them as to how you need to be cared for.

Which is how all healthy relationships work in the end.