Hello everyone. Ok, I need serious counseling here and my friends and family haven't really been enough. I especially need help from those in the LGBT community. Thank you for listen in advance.

So I recently came out to my mom and friends as genderfluid and pansexual. Though most of my friends have been accepting, my mom and best friend have not. I come from a Christian family(including my best friend and her family). They have not been shaming me or anything horrible like that but I guess it just feels different. I feel a growing gap between us ever since I came out. Almost like I'm a different person who has just met them. Has anyone else felt like this? I feel like I'm falling into depression because I have no modivation to do anything. I just feel disappointed and sad most of the time.

Thank you again for listening and any help on this!

It's Ok, They Will Need Some Time, And If They Cant Take You For Who You Are Then Thats Them. Christians Only Tend To Like People If They Agree With Them, I Grow Up In A Family Of Christians And Am One, They Are Full Of Hypocrisy, The Religion Is Good, Just Not The People, So It May Take Some Time For Your Mother, Sorry But Thats The Truth.
Feel Good With You Decision, As Long As Your Happy, Then Thats What Matters, Never Feel Bad About Yourself, It Is You, No One Else, They Can't Make You Decisions.
And I Believe That God Love People, No Matter Who The Like, Why would He Create Them Anyway?
You Are Loved, The World Isn't That Bad Of A Place.

>>2
Might as well capslock the whole thing

>>1
It's a natural reaction. When you think you know someone so well and it turns out he/she's a completely different person from what you imagine, ofc you're gonna put some distance.

It's like back to the beginning when you barely know each other, that is to say: start over the relationship

>>3 Why Does Everyone Care?

Fine, I'll Change My Computer Settings -_-

>>4
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Lol. This guy's still around it seems.

>>5 BADASS MOTHERFUCKER

I kid you not, I went to do research on pansexuality and genderfluidity. They're new concepts to me, and I'm sure that your mother and best friend feel that way too. I'd say give it time to let them come to terms with it.

If you feel like you've waited long enough, you could try to explain the concept of pansexuality and genderfluidity to them. Understanding it will help them overcome their mindset of man and woman = relationship.

If nothing works, then I guess it is time to let go. Your best friend has been friends with you all this time. You have always been yourself, gender identity and all, just that s/he did not know. If s/he cannot come to terms with the fact that you are pansexual and genderfluid despite being your best friend, then s/he was never really your friend. Sorry.

Thank you all so much for your advice. I really appreciate it!

>>10 no problem
>>6 you are one funny guy
>>8 Lol
>>6 is this better, i had to find the fucking settings and change my computer, you welcome you asshole. ^-^ enjoy.

1>> What brings you in joining LGBT Community?
If I am the "BEST FRIEND" you are talking about, I would ask the same question. Why?

We have the same problem here Yasu but our differences are my best friend accepted me for who I am and my family didn't know about me and I'm afraid that if I tell them, I know to myself that they will never accept it. I hate to admit it but it is true. My family, well most of them are Christians so I have to hide what I am to them. hehe. It is weird to find another person who has the same problem as me. hehe. Anyway, whatever happened just keep moving. Maybe someday they will accept us for who we are. Take care and God bless you! ^_^

I am a Christian in a Christian family, and I would recommend that you just try to talk to them. I will be absolutely honest:
-God loves you no matter what. Seriously, no matter WHAT.
-God says homosexual relations are a sin. He doesn't say homosexuals are bad.
- Just because you are pansexual and gender fluid doesn't mean that God loves you any less, or that your family and friends do either. However, feeling the way you do does not mean you need to act on it in a way that will damage your relationship with God or your family and friends. You shouldn't try to change them any more than they shouldn't try to change you. And remember, gender and sexuality are not the most important things in life, nor are romantic relationships. Concentrate on your familial and friend relationships first, and perhaps you will find that you don't need a S.O. God may be calling you to be single. I understand this as a single person myself, single by choice and happily so.

I wish you luck in this situation and pray that God will work everything out for your good.

>>14 I am also Christian and I agree on what you said. To be single by choice. I think that is another way in solving this problem.
But now I will talk generally as neutral.
>>1 There are 2 ways you may do. One is to disregard what other people will feel or say and just live your life with LGBT Community.Don't listen to anyone. Live what you believe in.

Another one is this. You may go back to your track, to what you are supposed to be. I am not imposing my beliefs in oppose to LGBT but I am talking without clinging to any other side. I know it is hard for you to be a man, or a woman because I don't know what your sex is, but it is possible to do. Because talking generally, male and female are the only sexes since ancient times. Male for Masculinity and Female for Femininity. It is not important what your reason is, what's important is consider between joining LGBT or have the behavior which your mother or BEST FRIEND expect. I am straight and being a man is a great gift from God, as well as the woman. Sometimes, contentment in who you are is enough because we humans are still wanting more than what is given.

I have a best friend who is bisexual, and thank God that I had the audacity to talk and help her in returning to be a girl.

SOMETIMES, A TRUE FRIEND/BESTFRIEND WILL STAB YOU IN THE FRONT.

Hi!
Even though I'm not a christian, I think that the people around you just need some time to get used to the situation and swallow the information. I'm also genderfluid and a bisexual. I haven't come out to my family yet, because I know that my parents would never understand. I think that your family accepts you, they just (as I said) need some time. Please don't feel sad about it. I think their reaction is normal and better than others. They'll come to understand eventually. Stay the way you are and I wish you good luck!

Hi, Yasu. It must be really frustrating to have to deal with being treated differently after coming out. I'm pansexual too, but I've only talked about it with one person, because I'm scared of how my family will react. If you want to reconnect with your best friend and your mom, maybe try explaining your feelings and give them a chance to explain their feelings too. As for the depression, there's all sorts of advice I could give, but I would just end up repeating what online articles say about it XD I just want you to know that things will get better. It takes time, but its worth the wait :)

Hi, Yasu. I'm Christian born from a Christian family. I also agree with Suzuha that if your best friend really doesn't accept you for being who you are then they weren't really a friend or at least a good friend in the first place.

For your mother you need to be patient, it takes time for a person to accept you, espacially when they don't understand it. That goes for everyone.

I think instead of just waiting for your mother to understand you've got to show her. You've got make her change her mind and you've got to show her that you are genderfluid and pansexual.

Personally for myself, I believe that being in the LGBT community doesn't mean you chose to be there, but you've been there from the beginning. I also don't believe that you sin for being like that or being a homosexual relationship. I think the most important things are the 2 greatest commandments. That you should love God with all your might and love others just as you love yourself.

I wish you luck and don't ever give up.

>>18 So the definition of a best friend is someone who's always there to tolerate one's action/s? Is that what you are trying to imply in your thoughts?

Remember that a NEED is more important than what you WANT. We don't know the whole story of someone who shares his/her problem in the Dollars but as a person willing to give ideal solution, we must think rationally and yet morally accepted.