I apologize in advance if this sounds strange to any of you. It's kind of personal, so if you'd prefer not to read it, you certainly don't have to.

There's a girl at my school named Angel. She was friends with me for about a year and a half, but then I started to realize that she was treating me pretty badly.

Around the time I first met her, I was desperate to make friends. I was painfully lonely, and I was willing to become friends with pretty much anyone at that point.

She would make fun of my choices of clothing, and about half of the things she said would be jokes that made me feel awful about myself.

She would also try to make me feel sorry for her. She was extremely unlucky, so whenever something even remotely bad happened to her, she would spend the whole day talking about it.

Eventually, earlier this year, I got tired of her behavior. I spoke with some of our acquaintances, and they, too, were sick of her.

We talked to her about it over DMs on Instagram.

When I talked to her, I apologized a lot. I felt immensely guilty about dumping everyone's feelings onto her. We had felt that way for a long time, and we didn't tell her until that moment.

She said that she couldn't believe that we were "pretending to be her friend." She also accused us of never giving her any warning about her behaviour (this accusation is not true. I had told her to stop about four months ago, and she promised that she would, but nothing ever came of it).

She wouldn't really talk to anyone involved for about a week after that, except for me because I had apologized. She apologized to me, too.

Eventually, she was able to apologize to everyone else, and they welcomed her with open arms.

She later told me, in a joking manner, that she had only apologized to me because I had apologized to her first.

But I feel bad. I feel awful because no matter how many times she says she's changed, I can't forgive her. I have no idea why forgiving Angel is such a hard thing to do. Everyone else has, but I can't. She talks to me like normal, but everything that she says reminds me of the way she used to treat me (she still whines to me a lot, but she hasn't started again with the mean jokes because I've been trying to avoid her without her noticing). And I don't understand. Why can't I forgive her? Does that make me a bad person? I try to act as nice as I can to everyone, but I'm a really bad person. I don't know what to think.

I'm sorry if this got too personal.

I wouldn't worry too much. Give the friendship some air and just talk to her no more than an acquaintance. It is just that the wound is fresh and it does take some time to heal but if you focus on other things and other friendships eventually things will settle emotionally on your side. Don't think just relax and be your happy self. I wouldn't try to purposely avoid just to prevent and bad blood. That is my advice.

If you can't forgive her, you are putting your pride first. If you forgive her so easily, you're shallow. By all means, do not forget about what she has done, but use what she was in the past to compare to her now and realise that she has changed for the good. She has moved on, and so should you.


'I'm sorry if this got too personal.'

What the fuck. This is called the 'personal' board. People here are willing to listen to people's shit. It's a loving community.

Should I teach you some things? The name of the thread is what is important, the "Hey" can go in the post, and you should name the thread something relevant to the post, like "My friend is a bitch"

Hey, I've experienced something like this when I was younger and if your sick of her and/or her attitude you should stop being her friend, especially if she's making fun of your fashion and such. A real good friend wouldn't do such stuff, you'll feel as if a "burden" so to speak, has been lifted of your shoulder when you do.

>>3 >>4 Don't be rude. Someone is looking for advice, not for bastards you to put them down. I've seen you on the other threads acting like an asshole. If what you're saying isn't productive, don't say it.

It doesn't make you a bad person. It just makes you human.

What you're doing now is best. Avoiding Angel minimizes the chance that she will hurt you. It may be difficult since all your other friends hang out around her as well, but as long as you two aren't alone there shouldn't be much of a problem.

There are people in the world who are toxic. They will use you when they please but never be there in return. I had a lot of that in high school. I didn't do much and stuck to my studies. I called myself a post. Because people were just leaning against me without a care. And I swore one day I'd break.
I've seen a lot of people come to my family for help. But that's all they want. Help. They don't say hi and it could of been months since we last heard from them. And when they come back they don't say hi or catch up with us. They just go "hey I need FREE help with this computer" And then they leave.
It's perfectly natural to want to distant yourselves from people like that. Relationships are a give and take situation. If you're uncomfortable in one, stop. It's unhealthy to force yourself through things. If you don't like her, if you feel sick around her or when you think about her you get really pissed off. Then stop being around her.

There are people in life who will hurt you and it's hard to forgive them, and some of them are just better to avoid, but that doesn't mean everyone who hurts you should be avoided, you have to learn when someone deserves a second chance and when a second chance is a bad idea. Just realize, even if this friendship ends up falling apart, don't let it jade your views on future friendships. I sincerely hope this situation resolves it's self in the best way possible. Good luck :)

If you don't feel good with her you dont feel good with her. Like stop being such a pussy about the whole damn thing and making all like an internal struggle. If she is a bitch she is just a bitch. End of story. Don't victimize yourself for the sake of good fun when it's her behavior that gets her in trouble. Got it?